I agree that for a connection to work both people must be 100% in. Not just half in.
But I am noticing that most people are just scared to even get involved with someone.
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most people are afraid of vulnerability.
Sadly true. Because many got burned and abused. But, since I am onr that was abused and won't let that experience define me, I would say people are afraid to look at self and do the inner work necessary to heal. IMHO
It takes balls to be vulnerable and to accept that we all, in some extend, are toxic. It's much easier to blame others and stay in comfort zone.
exactly
learning to heal is a critical part of loving yourself, and you can't love others without loving yourself first.
most men are stuck in mindset that strength is holding everything in.
this traps them in la la land.
however, there is much more strength and courage in acknowledging the feelings and being vulnerable ~ it's not easy.
I know is not easy. It's a path I have chosen and I am walking. But it's not impossible and it brings such peace. I wish I could just pass this message by. But I know, by experience, that one must come to this truth, by self acknowledging it, not by words of another.
yes and no.
my own experience was that hearing messages like this led me to this truth.
however, i did have to acknowledge it.
It's what I meant. 🤗
You can listen to it many times, but until you are ready, you will not understand and sometimes even strongly reject it.
But, one day it clicks...and another day you acknowledge it and a shift happens.
ah, i understand ~ forgive me.
for me, i felt hopeless and self-loathing for some time before hearing a similar message.
i wonder now if the message was right in front of me and i just didn't notice.
Maybe, and probably yes. 🤗
Our higher self is always communicating with us and trying to push us into alignment.
However, what matters is that you did acknowledge it.
Just found this text...lol no coincidences...
"She's not shy, she's protecting herself.
She's not stupid, she was manipulated.
She's not weak, she was trusting.
She's not crazy, she was mentally and verbally abused.
She's not cold, she's guarding her heart.
She's not silent, she's choosing her moments to speak.
She's not bitter, she's speaking her truth.
She's not distant, she's finding her strength.
She's not delusional, she survived a nightmare.
She's not hopeless, she's searching for light.
She's not hanging onto the past, she's been deeply hurt.
She's not afraid, she's learning to be brave.
She's not broken, she's piecing herself back together.
She's not too much, she knows what she wants.
She's not lost, she's discovering her path.
She's not giving up, she's healing.
She's not defeated, she's rising stronger than ever."
- Seth Couture
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Keeping everything in leads to unhealthy behaviour. Anger and resentment will burst out in horrible ways...
I think I am going to start calling confort zone the "la la la land". 😁😂😂