I have a hot take on love lol
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True love wants what is best for the other person. Most people are unwilling to let the person they claim to love be with another person that is better for them. Therefore, most people don’t truly love their partners.
i get th@ but while love shouldn't be a cage i think there are mutual parameters th@ need 2 work together ime. Friend*****
Sure and there’s nothing wrong with that but it isn’t true love. True love is a mother in a country with war who gives her baby away to someone that can give it a better life. Most people would not do that for their partners.
you went there
It is what it is. Most romantic “love” relationships are transaction based.
i like the saying, “falling in love” it’s gravity and an inescapable feeling where you have to give yourself completely. you’re right, most people don’t have that.
th@'s y i set boundaries b - 4 i fall/*****
Is it true love if you have a safety net?
When you’re really in love, all other takes on love seem suddenly silly
Real love is all consuming. Suddenly and all at once there is a person and it’s if you have always loved them and chosen them in every lifetime for all of time and that will forever remain the case. Unwavering. Objectively true. Without question.
If you knew another woman would make your man happier, would you tell him to go be with her?
Absolutely.
Then that’s true love but most women would not
I agree
This is the original “if you love it, give it away” measure of love. Is there more to it?
These things are non factors. In order to love another, you must love yourself. In order to love yourself, you must be truly sovereign. Thus, initial conditions must be two autonomous sovereign beings- both parties knowing that they consensually choose (and could also could choose not) to stay and not leave
It’s all rather simple. Humans complicate things unnecessarily.
Just like Bitcoin.
I don’t know what these things are that we are removing from the conversation. 🤷🏻♂️
Plenty of mothers don’t love themselves but love their children so I don’t agree with you here
Mmm as within, so without
What does that mean?
It means that everything in our exterior world is a mirror of internalized conditions
I wouldn’t say everything. Like in the example of the mother who lacks self love but loves her own children.
Perhaps some mothers are performative
Perhaps
What does that mean?
It means that some mothers shout about how much they love their children but then stand passively by while they let the world have them…
You are always willing to lay your life down for the things that you truly love- or better yet, choose life in pursuit of serving the children that you love
“Do not cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet…”
It doesn't make any sense
People are brainwashed to make bad choices, Digit hating me seems like one of those, loving her means trying to get more time with her
most people have lost the values of loveIZbase, a mom who does th@ is making a decision out of fear usually/granted IT's a tuff sit.
I don’t think people have lost the value of love. People didn’t marry for love before. This is a new phenomenon.
i had to learn to love myself 1st before actually being able to share th@ love-learnED/if th@ makes sense
what's best for future abundance in health,happiness,hopes & dreams etc. is closer to my trueLOVE
True love is having a relationship with someone that’s compatible and making it work. It’s about optimizing the relationship, not the partner. Someone else might seem better on the surface but if you don’t work on the relationship it won’t be better. Obviously, I’m excluding cases of abuse and domestic violence. Making it work and building it will always be better. Plus it takes some time to assess if the person is good for you or not. I wouldn’t see myself doing a test run of multiple months (read a year) to assess if that relationship has potential.
Do you love your children differently from your partner?
Of course. Different people. Different relationships. Even the children I would argue, since they’re at such different developmental stages
My view is that relationships are a medium in which value is transacted. Your wife can try to “love” you as much as she wants but if you stop delivering on your responsibilities then she’s going to leave that relationship. If you cheat on her, turn into a bum, or abuse her then she will stop loving you. You won’t stop loving your children no matter what they do. That’s real love.
https://video.nostr.build/7b94460fb17e7bc3aea59dd62a3f96b32ce8cc936366f8c73aa9d41e64ccc6f5.mp4
My view is that all relationships are work. You have to put in work for the relationships to flourish. Whether it’s with a partner or a child. Both are different yes but there are definitely things that a parent can do or a child that would break the relationship/love. All of them are real though. Work and certain things that can break it doesn’t mean they’re not real love (for the partner or the child)
