As a musician who's played gigs I actually feel the same way.
I think there's some reptile brain stuff going on
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Yes it's a lose lose. Can't enjoy music with someone screaming at you and can't enjoy conversation with blasting music.
Unless it's a concert I don't get it.
But maybe you are right and the reptilel brain says "Wow isn't this exciting, won't you check out all this NOISE!!"
Yeah I understand rock concerts etc.. but I was already a grumpy old man in my 20s when it came to bars and nightclubs 🤣