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I had a good time with my friends, except for the fact that I argued a bit with one of them because I disagreed with the choice she made regarding her boyfriend. I don't know if I'm right, but she made a big sacrifice for her current boyfriend, who cheated on her just two weeks after she made that sacrifice. I told her that he doesn't love her but sees her as a trophy, and since he is convinced that she will do anything, he feels he can prove that he doesn't love her. She got upset and wanted to leave, but I calmed her down by saying that nothing I was telling her mattered. She still insisted that he loved her, even though the facts were right in front of her. In reality, I saw that she was quite upset with me, but I couldn't lie to her. She is really good, continuing to treat well a person who cheated on her. I imagined what I would have done in her place, and even if I hadn't done anything, one thing is certain: I wouldn't want to see such a person again. I don't understand why such good people deserve to stay with monsters.

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S!ayer 1y ago

ShiShi21m 1y ago

She's weak minded, so she's attracted to even weaker minds.

Kim 1y ago

exactly

Jon 1y ago

Some trauma inherited from her family?

Kim 1y ago

🤷🏻‍♀️ I have come to the conclusion that there are many women who are naive. But her case is madness.

Even if the betrayal were due to a weakness, the fact that she did something so significant for him means that he, even if he didn't love her and had no feelings for her, should have shown some empathy and a shred of respect, instead of betraying her as soon as he turned his back. I would actually compare such men to monsters, and I am very sorry that she cannot see what kind of monster she is dealing with

Jon 1y ago

By any chance is there a decent guy around who's actually worth her but is completely ignored?

Kim 1y ago

🤷🏻‍♀️ I don't know, the conversation focused on her boyfriend.

Jon 1y ago

As painful as it is I hope she opens her eyes, betrayal is no good foundation for a solid future.

Kim 1y ago

💯

ArkonaFan 1y ago

Random stranger chiming in. I see from some of your other posts that this might be difficult to accept/understand but the universe is more complex than you imagine and there is a purpose in so much that happens to us. There could be some kind of growth opportunity there for her or even him. It might be that she has to break a bad habit. Personally I ended up with a very sweet girl who had been dealing with some disabilities that were supposed to have stabilized at a still highly functional state. A few years into the relationship I’ve sacrificed all my hopes for the future with the small hope remaining for a miracle to turn things around. I have become a much better person developing to a higher purpose. She may or may not even make it to 30. Either way I can say with confidence that her condition has served a higher purpose. Christ suffered a whole lot more than your friend for even worse people and that I’m sure you will agree was a good thing.

Kim 1y ago

I'm so sorry to hear this. really sad story. I

ArkonaFan 1y ago

I think you are focusing on the wrong part. The circumstances are certainly not what I would have chosen, but they were chosen for a higher purpose and the results are greater than if I had been given the circumstances I would have asked for. At times it might be difficult, but I’m not sad myself. I’m blessed to be where I am.

Kim 1y ago

I am focused on drinking because it is my friend's birthday. I can choose not to respond to anyone here for several reasons. One reason is that I see unattractive and unintelligent women making men think there is something interesting about them simply because they come from families whose parents haven't provided even basic education to be humble and know how to respond to people. If an unattractive, uneducated, and unintelligent woman can manipulate weak minds accidentally, why shouldn't I, being beautiful and intelligent, do the same? Why should my humility or the belief that people deserve attention regardless of their wealth be taken as weakness? As long as people mistake kindness for weakness, I don't want to talk to anyone or respond to anyone.

I really feel sorry to hear your sad story, and when I hear it, it feels like you've been in a romantic relationship with Nosholle (I might be mispronouncing the name) or some mutation of her. Personally, I think the biggest problem people with disabilities face is illiteracy in addressing what they feel or explaining why they feel or act the way they do—in other words, people who are unaware of what they are doing. I hope your pain goes away as soon as possible.

ArkonaFan 1y ago

I meant focused on the wrong part of my story. I’m in no pain, I’m not sad or down about my situation at all. I feel blessed to be where I am. I have been given more than I would have if I got what I wanted. Look at the positives in life and be open to the greater gifts you didn’t ask for.

Kim 1y ago

do you feel blessed that you think your ex will die before she turn 30? 👍🏻

ArkonaFan 1y ago

I feel blessed to have my view of the world and my priorities in life to have been so positively changed. I can’t see all the higher workings of the universe to know why she has to go through her current struggles, but I’ve learned enough to know there is a purpose to it.