Self confidence doesn’t come from telling yourself affirmations in the mirror.
Real self confidence comes from giving the world irrefutable proof that you are who you say you are.
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facts! It’s what I’m trying to teach my sons. I make them read this to me every time they don’t take accountability.
PROOF OF ACT
I think a big part of it comes from keeping your promises to yourself.
Sometimes life beats you down and you are not able to show the world the irrefutable proof. But when you go to bed at night you know of you gave it your all. You know if you kept your promises to yourself or if you let yourself down.
Self confidence often comes from releasing parental / generational programming and just finding who you are.
I like this one. I have a really hard time embracing my successes and I diminish my own self worth. What is that called? Lol. It's been a problem since my childhood, and it's really a struggle as an adult. And what's worse is finding that one person that takes advantage of that trait, makes me more vulnerable to being gaslight... even when I know it's happening 😆🤦♀️
You're not alone in this 🫂 when we have that feeling rooted from childhood is hard to shake it off, but the fact that you're aware of what's happening is already a huge step! Ignore the impostor syndrome, that little voice is not telling you the truth, is just making you be overly critical. Think how proud you’d be if a friend or someone you love shared your achievements as their own - that same pride belongs to you too!
This is big.
Realising that you can take charge of your life.
Intentionally forging your character.
Yes 👌
There’s a guy in the hockey world who makes a living selling “confidence” to goalies.
His whole pitch is getting them to look in the mirror and call themselves POWERFUL. But the catch is, they have to keep calling him to feel confident, because their confidence isn’t grounded in anything real. Of course, he invoices them for the phone call.
A couple of years ago, he invited me on his podcast. He asked for my take on confidence. I basically said what you just did: real confidence comes from hard work and results grounded in reality, not pretending.
After that, I never heard from him again. The episode never aired.
He calls himself the “Goalie Mindset Guy.” Honestly, it should be the Goalie FIAT Mindset Guy... confidence backed by nothing.
“Self” confidence doesn’t need external validation from strangers.
True confidence can exist even in the absence of external recognition—it often begins as belief before it manifests as proof.
If you keep telling yourself
“I’m smart”
“I’m powerful”
“I’m Successful”
Sooner or later you will keep acting like that. 😁
Self-confidence comes from creating solutions for others. When you meet real needs, you realize your own value. Self-love isn’t just inward—it grows as you serve. “Love others as yourself” isn’t just a spiritual truth; it’s one of the most effective remedies for anxiety, depression, and emotional pain.
When you say you’re going to do something do it. Repeat this.
Alex Hormozi was 100% correct 😉
And why would we all have to be the same ?
Your sentence is inspiring, but both can be true depending on each people way to live.
Life is an individual experience with a connection with others.
We are all different, and we are all beautiful, smart, stupid, alive... on our own way.
Wanting to be more "self confident" or more healthy, strong, is a projection from other.
Just be as you want to be.
Improve yourself if you want it too.
But don't listen other fear or expectations on your life because you are the only one that can really live it.
Self confidence comes from your beliefs. Your beliefs can come from repetition in the mirror or repetition from whoever is brainwashing you. They can also come from feeling like you gave irrefutable proof to the world.
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imaginary vs. real
self aggrandizement vs. assertive action
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“Stop debating what a good man should be. Be one.”
The budget in 2024 was 263B.
So it is more like a 60% cut.
It should be completely abolished but this is good news
“There are three things all wise men fear: the sea in storm, a night with no moon, and the anger of a gentle man.” - Patrick Rothfuss
Awesome