We don't want to leave our innocence behind, completely. We don't want to face the harshness of the world.
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My bros can get sort of exasperated. "We told you he was like that, girl, but you don't listen, cuz oh he seemed like such a good guy." 🙄
But he did seem like such a good guy. Please tell me he's a good guy. I don't want to believe anything else. Let me redo all of reality so that he stays the hero of the story.
Them sunk costs done be sunk.
So much less complicated as a man. Just shirk those responsibilities and play games with kids or play with toys, depending on availability of kids.
I guess you disassociate and we double-down.
I actually think intelligent women are worse about this because we are better at holding on to fake realities, to alleviate our cognitive dissonance. We've evolved to invent fake realities at higher and higher levels of complexity.
Perhaps because our innate vulnerability has tended to leave us trapped in bad situations, so we've evolved to go full Stockholm Syndrome to cope.
Dumb women be like,
"Hey, you did something bad.
You are a bad man!"
Smart women be like,
"Hey, you did something bad.
But I know you aren't a bad person, deep down.
There must be some mistake.
You had a difficult childhood.
Or I provoked you.
It was an accident.
You were just stressed out.
Actually, there's probably a very good reason for this and it's actually much more complicated than I can even understand -- I am such a silly, stupid girl!
I should have known better.
I will try to do better next time.
I apologize."
Queue midwit meme
Nah, it takes a lot of intelligence to be that incorrigibly stupid.
Beat a midwit once, and she'll report you.
Beat a genius twice and she'll report herself.
Well, twice is a pattern, right? You felt the need to smack her twice, and she's in the pattern both times, so she must be essential to the pattern.
Like, duh. Obvious. Think about it.
