I always thought I wanted a really good long term relationship, and I was looking for my life partner. But after sleeping with someone, I often no longer wanted a long term relationship with her and I'd start looking for the next one. Somehow I always seemed to realize that only after I slept with her, as if my own mind was lying to me about whether she would make a good mate because what I really wanted (apparently) was to bang all the not-too-ugly girls. I'm not proud of it, I'm ashamed of most of it. I think everybody would have been better off if there were cultural norms supressing this behavior, but cultural norms around this in California were (are), well, as loose as all fuck.
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How will you choose between hook up with a girl tonight and add a new feature to Gossip
Nothing wrong in moving on if it doesn’t work, and way more damaging to yourself and to your relationship if you stay on for too long, imho, because you thought there’s that 10% moment of happiness you can get back or that you had this fairytale idea of what happiness was. I think that suppressive culture can backfire because you end up living your life based on how everyone else will judge you. But man that’s a lottt of multitasking :) jk! I haven’t travelled much but I think men in France were way more forward, followed by NY. In Bay area and Texas there were a lot of elderly moms and dads with “I have a son...”.