Tips for men initiating contact with women: state your intention right away. Reveal something. Otherwise you’re in an energy of taking. Asking a question without stating an intention means there is no frame for her to decide whether or not it feels right to answer.

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How about, “I was over there and couldn’t stop looking at you. You are stunning. I just had to introduce myself. Is that ok?”

“I’m here because x, y, z… and we’re doing a, b, c. What about you?…

Yes! It doesn’t have to be intention like a goal, but an expression of why you’re there. Thank you for this example!

But she would have to be stunning, like she was all dolled up and I recognized her effort and creativity. If she was attractive but just jeans, t-shirt, crocs 😹 or whatever casual situation, maybe “really cute” would be more authentic.

Well yes, always say what’s authentic!

Also if you’re asking about both, I much prefer the top one haha.

Also, I was imagining saying both. You gotta have something to say after the opening, to get the ball rolling.

Right? Otherwise, after the opening, you’re both just standing there awkwardly. A little leadership is necessary.

Go on...

I completely agree.

Intention is the first gesture of respect.

Declaring it does not take away the mystery, but it provides context and trust.

Even in art, when I don't reveal why I chose a subject, the viewer may feel observed rather than welcomed.

Speaking honestly is an act of creation.

The rest is consumption.

So beautifully said. Context and trust 👌🏻

I spoke to a female couple days ago at a bar. I asked a birthday girl how old is she getting and she said: "I have a boyfriend". I think she knew what my intention was, without me stating it. LOL

lol yes, it’s not actually about the information, as nostr:nprofile1qqs0fk6jwz7ejxchh6s7d5p473w7uwffr8pfga9m4sgrgtfz836wp5qpz9mhxue69uhkummnw3ezuamfdejj7qgkwaehxw309ahx7um5wfjkc6t5v4ejummjvuhsesmqsm said it’s the first gesture of respect. An offering towards connection vs a consumption of her energy.

I am a usb cable,that plugs into port, to consume energy and connect. LOL