I can’t stand it when people say “As someone with anxiety…”
Anxiety is something every single person feels. We are ALL someone with anxiety.
More honest would be, “as someone who struggles to manage feelings of anxiety…”
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
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As someone with undiagnosed ADHD… sorry I zoned out 😅
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The “undiagnosed” or “self-diagnosed” ailments are wild to me. Like, taking an online quiz is a diagnonsense…
I chose to put myself out there for your judging pleasure and I am not disappointed. 🤙
I’m not judging you lol for real! (I thought you were kidding tbh) but if you’re not:
We all have stuff. I have CPTSD from a very fkd up childhood. Self-diagnosis isn’t reliable. A lot of different diagnoses have the same/crossover symptoms, and only a professional can help figure out what’s really going on.
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I’m a self diagnosed self loathing, tripolar, retarded narcissist with delusions of grandeur and psychopathic tendencies
I know it’s not official but the docs would say the same if I took real tests
I’ve taken many quizzes, they’re all accurate. Online quiz diagnosis is the only way - ftw
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As someone with anxiety, plz stop yelling!!!!!!!!!!!
That’s not yelling, THIS IS YELLING!!
When people yell they don’t suffer from yelling, they are failing to regulate their emotions.
It’s all about how we frame it: to ourselves and to others. It’s about ownership.
People will literally self diagnose their ineptitudes and then use that moniker as an excuse for ongoing poor behavior instead of going to therapy.
Kids these days...
Back in my day ppl had to visit a paid friend, bask in a block of unconditional positive regard, and go home with an "all care no responsibility" label chosen for them by a credentialed expert.
Now kids with character flaws want to 3D print their personal custom label at home.
I blame the DSM-5. We should have made distrust of authority certifiable already.
Therapy can be invaluable really, but I think people take for granted that finding a really good therapist is key, and continuing the work/learning between sessions is their responsibility.
Saw a tweet recently that said kids now treat their self-diagnosis like it’s their horoscope or Hogwarts house and I can’t stop thinking about that lol
In antiquity, a flattering courtier could cultivate a king's narcissism, teach him he's special, and bring down a dynasty.
Nowadays, one can get a degree in this skillset, and bring the "benefits" to all of Western civilisation!
My first degree was in Psychology, but after a lot of volunteering and a little supervised practise I decided the incentives are structured horribly wrong. (CBT is quite valid, but a website can teach clients all they need to know.)
Therapy ought to be a secular form of Pastoral Care.
It isn't, though.
By the time I read this book I already knew what he was going to say: https://cloudflare-ipfs.com/ipfs/bafykbzacebfkjv2xdc6ma5msl3yg5no623syt4mu437jtb6ohfugqsknnmk2q?filename=Jeffrey%20Moussaieff%20Masson%20-%20Against%20Therapy_%20Emotional%20Tyranny%20and%20the%20Myth%20of%20Psychological%20Healing-Untreed%20Reads%20Publishing%20%282012%29.epub
There's a philospher that says anxiety is the base state of human. It's just a reaction to the understanding that we're gonna die one day
An ex’s older sister, a long-time public school teacher, not long ago said “all childhood disorders are Anxiety disorders”, and the way she expressed it felt worth taking in and considering, so I did.
Over time, I’m beginning to see that modern American society is OVERWHELMED with Anxiety disorder.
She was 100% right as I recognize it now, and I’m always open to seeing it differently.
Sadly she killed herself a couple months ago in her early-50’s. No clear reason, but almost certainly because she didn’t feel hopeful and safe in her world.
It sounds like you’re describing higher generalized anxiety in greater society, which is a symptom of a dysfunctional society not a disordered person.
I’m sorry for your loss… I’m sorry she couldn’t find her hope.
Thx, it was a loss for my ex-girlfriend, but her sister’s words always stuck with me.
Also, do you feel personal anxiety isn’t integral to generalized societal anxiety?
I mean, it has to be a feedback loop, right?
I just think if society as a whole has more anxiety than we’ve adapted to (it probably does) the baseline of measuring dysfunction individually shifts.
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Interesting discussion on alanajoy's post. I broadly agree with the OP.
IMO, everybody has a bit of something at least now and again. #adulting is owning it and finding ways to manage it, or even make use of it to achieve other things.
Sometimes people need an outside perspective on their lives, sometimes people need specific skills to handle some challenge, some people need to be put in touch with a support group with others sharing the same challenge.
If you don't mind the #religious aspects, ministers of religion are really good at this. Its called Pastoral Care. That's why the army has chaplains.
If you DO mind the religious aspects, the secular equivalent is actually a #lifecoach. I know a retired firefighter who does this, he's very secular, and based AF. Just the guy for a glass of perspective and cola, and he knows enough to refer you to more specific things if you need them. He'll also tell you if he things you're doing something wrong. There are many like him.
Your GP only knows how to push pills (can be useful if you know what you need), and your typical Rogerian psychologist only knows how to cultivate you into a narcissistic, self-pitying codependent like all his other regulars. I should know, I trained as one originally.
Saying "having anxieties" is more than enough to stain yourself and stop the conversation. No need to further dab in this topic to explain it properly in casual talk.
