Honestly though I can't wait for nostr to get popular enough to combine it with ai for dating matches.
I unpaused Hinge last night but then only 3 profiles in, I was like f- this dating apps suck. After talking with nostr:npub1jcjxjg92200kdp8guw8sysg8gr0ez29hahrfdy49h30hgnkpa4kqfvmtwx about it and sending her a funny Instagram clip of a chick sending the most ridiculous messages, I was like this should be a nest, where we respond ridiculously. Then I was like we need to stream this somehow so you can see my screen. Y’all can critique my profile and others too. I’m trying to make dating fun again.
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Love this idea! 🔥 would be interesting 💯
I’m scared. If I could show you some of the people I’ve been set up with or suggested. My mom keeps trying to talk up her plumber right now. I think he hates me because of it. I’m just as much a victim in this scheme as him.
🥹💜🫂 they do say family and friend recommendations are a good idea 🥹❤️🤣😂🤣😂🤣
I see that as the future of dating, employing ai to find matches based on your preferences and getting rid of these shitty gatekeepers at bumble, tinder, etc. Just recently got back in the game from a ltr and I hate how they rarely show you your matches unless you pay their extortion level prices. Honestly Facebook seems to be better than any of them to me. At least they don't try to extort you.
I am not a connoisseur of dating apps. I normally panic delete them after a 2-3 days.
Yea they are a necessary evil for me unfortunately. I feel like it's a lot harder for guys to meet girls though at least for us more introvert guys, (I'm intp on the Myers Briggs cognitive model.)
Yeahh sadly dating apps are designed to keep you coming back 😭 it can work for some people though 🙏🏽💜
Yea I think it's the messed up incentives for the company running the platform. It's not profitable for them to actually help people find love. I also don't like how it incentivizes the swipe culture either as someone who appreciates genuine human connection and can't stand vapid and shallow mindsets that things like tinder incentivize people towards.
Honestly if I could choose this is one of my first ideas for what to design but the timing would also need to be right to find a market large enough to steal the network effects of those platforms.
Agree. Despite making the comment about the profile picture I would prefer meeting people in person. Dating apps seem to work for finding single people and filtering for certain preferences like religion, hobbies, etc. But the key is the human connection.
I agree but certain cognitive models seem to attract usually the opposite. For example the girls I usually attract are enfp or enfj. Not That I even filter for them but it's a subconscious thing. I can usually guess their Myers Briggs after talking to them a bit and a lot of times they are shocked that I'm right lol.
That said yea you gotta meet in person asap and see if there's sparks. I usually give it 2 to 3 dates.
Ooo can you guess our Myers Briggs?☺️
I'd prolly have to talk to you one on one for a while. But I'm mostly just good at it because I know which types of girls seen to be attracted to me most the time lol.
It's still not as bad as when medication is designed to keep you coming back.
Not Bumble. At least that's what they say.
They still want to charge a ridiculous amount of money for guys. Maybe it's cheap for girls? I've never actually gotten a real match on there before. Not actually sure how many people even use these apps because I think a lot of them are bots or unserious people who aren't actually interested in much but the dopamine boost from a like.
You have to pay for bumble? 🤯 it’s always been free no? Ahh I think mayyybe it depends where you are in the world (don’t dox yourself though🙏🏽🫂)
It's $20 a week for guys. That cuts into my bitcoin money. I'll find love either using it for free or after this generational stacking opportunity is over. Right now is stacking as first priority though lol.
I don't mind saying I'm in the usa. Perhaps it's less for men in other countries.
I think their business model is like the classic club model. Ladies get in free to get the guys to come and spend stupid amounts of money trying to find love 🤣
😱 I had no idea guys paid for bumble, damn. You would think there would be more serious guys on there given this, but nope 🤣🙏🏽.
That’s fair, stacking sats first, I hear you 💪🏽💯🔥😎
Guys also paid for Belle Delphine’s bath water…..never underestimate how stupid we can be cause we’ll take it as a challenge lol.
And no, I did not buy any bath water. I spent too much time as an EMT for that lol
Oh dear 🤣😂🥹 who’s belle delphine?
🤝💯🔥💜🫂 good on you 💯🙏🏽
A cam girl who sold jars of her bath water for mega money
People complain about, but if I could sell mine I’d take the money and run 🤣
Sometimes humanity really makes me tired 🥹😭 life, longest degree I’ll ever do, but i’ll learn a lot I am sure.
I know what you mean, sometimes this emoji is too appropriate 🤦♂️ but it keeps things interesting I suppose 😂
You aren’t wrong there fren 🥹😂🤣😂🤣💯🙏🏽🫂 definitely more interesting this way I agree 🤣💯🙏🏽💜
How big of a problem is this one?
Yeah no, the smarts we can fake being, but when the smarts go how, pennies are not the same anymore.
Asteroid being captured by NASA worth $10000000000000000000 would make everyone on Earth a billionaire https://www.unilad.com/news/asteroid-16-psyche-nasa-rocket-rich-billionaire-086170-20231016
Thats nineteen zeros right this bit here, and the funny thing is, you don’t have to prove the uncertainty principle.
😭 
Oh yea it's a classic strategy that works for everything from shows to bars. Get the ladies in and you've got the guys.
I'm surprised there aren't in your experience. I guess there's just a lot of unserious/indecisive people? I always thought it was easy easier for ladies.
Ohhhhh I had no idea 🤯 never been to a club, but that would make total sense.
It’s very rare to find a guy that you click with who also wants something real. But I’m okay with that tbf, means I’ll appreciate it that much more when it happens 😍💯💜 also quite like being single ☺️ am learning to appreciate this time 🙏🏽.
Dating apps are like scrolling on Netflix for some people. You see something you like but you just can’t seem to decide because there are too many options 🥲, but you might plan to watch that great movie next week and leaving it on the back burner. People get addicted to swiping. Not like good old Blockbuster 😂.
Nah, the struggle is real for us all 💜🫂🙏🏽
Yea I'm not the club type either, I just know from playing in bands that that's the strategy to get good ticket sales lol.
Yea it might just be hard to find people in general that have done the inner work to be ready for something real. Humans exclusive a lot of suffering and trauma and if they haven't developed the tools to be healthy in relationships they end badly. I feel like a lot of people have given up on that in these dating scenes just due to how unhealthy people are in mind, body, and soul.
I had to do a lot of work sitting in vipassana for years and doing other various types of meditation to go through all that stuff and it wasn't until a few years ago that I finally felt I was ready after recognition of anatta happened on my 30th bday in the midst of the worst depression I ever went through.
Funny how those things work. Anywho yea you gotta be happy being alone for sure!
Humans experience a lot*
Yea I think the attention span of people has been manipulated to be very low and to treat it almost like a meat market. Few seem interested in getting deep and that's something I need in relationship. I like to listen to whole albums, hear the whole story etc because to me that's the intimacy that I crave in a true connection.
It’s a cool idea!
I’d love such an AI to be transparently open source and customizable. Otherwise you just end up with another cruddy algorithm that thinks it knows what you want and… does not.