Forgiving ourselves seems like such an easy thing to do. Everyone seems to talk about it like you can just go do it.

It may be that simple, but it’s not that easy. There’s also multiple parts to it.

First we must become aware of the things we have not forgiven ourselves for.

Then we will probably beat ourselves up for those things as well as the fact we haven’t forgiven ourselves for it.

Then we can move on to allowing ourselves to forgive ourselves.

It is this same process for everyone and it's a process anyone can do.

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The subtle manipulation, abuse and gaslighting by narcissists often leave us wondering if it's actually abuse. No matter how small or subtle. If this is a continuous pattern and especially if it leaves us questioning our own reality, it's still abuse. #grownostr

Thank you! I appreciate the thought and the effort. 🤣

Definitely a rant! Too many people think everyone is a narcissist and yet on the other side, many people are trying to diminish how many there actually are. Meanwhile, no one still is listening to the people who actually went through the abuse, much less supporting them. It’s definitely a mess. Let’s just make sure we still care for everyone in the meantime.

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Most people won’t believe you about the abuse or gaslighting or the manipulation. There are also many people who will believe you and support you. Allow everyone else to believe what they do and find the people who will believe and support you. They are out there!

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Far too many toxic people use this response. You will never get a true apology from a narcissist or toxic person. If this is their apology and they don't change or make amends. Narcissist or not, it's probably time to face if you want to actually stay or not. #grownostr

Think of healing as more of a game of allowing, rather than something you actively do. Allow yourself the kindness, compassion and space for healing. We cannot force ourselves to give ourselves these things, we must allow ourselves to have them. #grownostr

Narcissistic relationships are like being trapped in a prison and not knowing we are, until we do. This adds to the hopeless feeling we often have because we didn’t realize we were trapped. We are not actually trapped even though it may feel impossible to leave. It’s not easy, but we can free ourselves even if we must stay.

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We know how to live through the abuse, it's accepting and embracing peace and happiness we haven't learned, YET. The more we heal, the more we can embrace continually deeper levels of happiness. It's not just not unhappy, it's deeper and deeper levels of blissful joy. Do the work, you are worth it! #grownostr

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You're welcome. Thank you so much!

Without shame and judgement, we simply have experiences we've gone through. Once we've released this, even some of the worst experiences are simply experiences we made it through. Love yourself enough to learn the tools to allow yourself to release the shame and judgement. You're worth it! #grownostr

Narcissists are “world class losers”. I couldn’t have said it better. The danger is when we get stuck with them. Whatever it takes, however you can, get out as fast as you can and away from them. They will burn everything down including themselves and you don’t want to be with them when it happens. #grownostr https://video.nostr.build/2fa160de623e5266767a9f0fbfc45d2697ab7c6e5da7574dd11e8e676ed115d1.mp4

All of the things matter that we go through, but not as much as the way we treat ourselves during and after. Kindness and compassion for ourselves is what allows us to move forward and heal. This is the most essential thing you can do for you! #grownostr https://video.nostr.build/afd098930f8dbec31583f5fe4506db69edfa1836981b7cb537d9c12cdfa08624.mp4

You are stronger than you may ever know. All of the things you have endured have and continue to show that strength. The scars are proof of what you went through, but they are not who you are. You are the beautiful soul behind all the strength and scars. Treat yourself as such! #grownostr

It is essential to find these best friends to live your life with. These relationships are some of the foundation of a truly wonderful life. It begins with a best friend relationship with ourselves. Then we can be the best friend to someone who wants to reciprocate with us. #grownostr

Narcissists are often willing to destroy everything in their own lives just to hurt you a little or ruin something in your life. They’re all different though, which makes it harder to know how bad they are. None are innocent though. Removing them from your life is always the best and safest. #grownostr

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There literally is no excuse for mistreating other people ever no matter what anyone has done or what anyone says. Defending yourself is one thing, but still not an excuse for bad behavior. We don't need anyone in our lives that mistreats or justifies mistreatment. Remove the toxic! #awareness #grownostr

Narcissists and toxic people are simply going to be what they are, toxic AF! There isn't any conversation or anything else you can do to change it. It only disrupts your peace.

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The chances are, if you are asking the question of yourself. Most likely you are not a narcissist. If you actually care about people and are actually trying to make sure not to hurt them. If you're willing to take accountability and change your actions, you're probably not. #grownostr

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If you call a narcissist out as a narcissist this will bring an entire new level of anger, rage and vindictiveness. I don't recommend doing this under any circumstance at all. We are often looking for understanding or closure when we do this.

It most likely won't happen. It's hopeless for them. There is hope for you though. You can learn, grow and heal from inside of yourself. #grownostr

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