No one really wants to look at or deal with trauma in our lives, much less the stuff our parents passed on to us. Healing these wounds not only changes our lives, but it helps change everyone else’s lives around us. It’s also the way to future healthy relationships. It literally affects everything in our lives. #grownostr
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It's definitely good I think at least in the beginning of our healing to simply remove or not get involved with anyone questionable for sure. The risk is high of allowing someone toxic to be in our lives. As we heal, we naturally open up a little and can look closer to find the healthy people.
Narcissists create drama and use our reactions against us. Being OK is often survival of these relationships. After getting out, it's important to begin acknowledging the way we actually feel to ourselves and those we trust. This allows us to process and release these emotions. #grownostr 
The target of the narcissist is often one of the only people who truly sees who they are. No one else usually gets it unless they’ve been through it and that’s ok. It doesn’t mean you didn’t actually experience the dark side of the narcissist or that the abuse didn’t happen. Only you know really what you went through. #grownostr https://blossom.primal.net/67ba5060191b038054d1b8754c6bde07233044c08d23ad4dfe3961965377cbe6.mp4
Narcissists want attention. That's one reason they cause chaos. It's the easiest way to get attention. Depending on what they think will get them the most attention, they will talk about being the best, or the best victim. It all comes down to attention. Either way they're better, according to them anyway. #grownostr
Narcissists definitely throw tantrums on the regular. I'm sure they'll all be offended by this description too. 🤣 I hope everyone is able to remove these people and their tantrums from their lives. It certainly makes life and moving forward much easier. #grownostr
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It may not feel like it in the moment, in fact it probably feels awful, but being discarded by a narcissist is a gift. It allows us to get out and move forward with our lives without being hoovered back. Assuming it’s a final discard anyway. It’s still not easy, but it allows us to gain our freedom a little easier. #grownostr
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Many of us think that if we could just do or say the right thing we could get the narcissist to change or grow up. This will never happen. If they ever change anything, it will be to better abuse or manipulate us. Because they refuse to change anything unless it benefits them. #grownostr
So many of us think that if we just do a little more, or give in a little more, or even heal a little more, things will be ok. It will always be a struggle if we stay with a narcissist. We can make it less bad, but it won’t ever actually be good. Even if we’re ok, the relationship won’t be. #grownostr
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Narcissists thrive on chaos. It's the way they control and manipulate everything they can. They say they want peace, but that is the last thing they actually want. The less we react, the harder they have to try. This can end up exposing them. Either way you have more peace. #grownostr
We end up questioning everything including ourselves because we were trained and programmed that we’re always wrong about everything. That’s normal. It doesn’t mean we want to stay there. It certainly doesn’t mean we’re actually wrong about everything either. #grownostr
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Our own mental health is so important. Often it's hard to know what to do for ourselves. What to do is much less important than simply just doing it. Even if it seems like it's nothing. Take the time to go get away. Any time away is better than none. Sometimes nothing is what you need to do. #grownostr
We all want to give to the people we love. When this becomes an expectation, especially without reciprocation it's no longer healthy. You don't have to give to someone who expects it. Make sure you give yourself everything you need first, then to those who reciprocate it. #grownostr
No one wants to believe they are in a toxic relationship or have been abused. It adds to this that many other people don’t see what’s actually happening. We also usually don’t realize how bad it is until we’re well into it. It’s also the first thing we must realize and accept before we can get out. #grownostr
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It's not easy to learn to set boundaries for yourself, especially after someone has walked on, abused and broken every one you had. It is something that's possible for all of us to learn. Be kind to you in this process. Every single boundary you work on is a step forward. #grownostr
Narcissists will completely use everyone up in their lives and then shame them for not giving them more. If they think they can get more from you, they’ll come back and demand it. It’s not right or fair, but it is what they will do. We don’t have to participate though and we can opt out of their game. #grownostr
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There’s almost nothing a narcissist hates more than anyone else having healthy boundaries. They get to have boundaries for everyone else, but we get none. It causes problems in the beginning, but we will begin eliminating narcissists from our lives when we build and hold healthy boundaries. #grownostr
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Narcissists don’t actually care about their kids, only that their kid makes them look good. They see their kids as an extension of themselves and as supply. They’ll say how much they love their kids as long as they make them look good. If they don’t, they’ll blame and shame and play victim. #grownostr
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Often in retrospect we think about how we could have handled or behaved differently than we did. This is helpful as long as we’re not beating ourselves up for doing what we did. In each moment we are doing the best we can in that moment and that’s ok. Striving to be better is good, but beating ourselves up always holds us back from being better. #grownostr
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No matter what anyone says. There is never any reason for someone to abuse another person no matter what! The only acceptable response is to own what they've done and stop repeating the behavior. Anything less is a continuation of the abuse. This is never ok and it's never something we must accept! #grownostr
They may not be directly abusive. They could simply be neglectful and unavailable. It doesn't even necessarily mean they are a narcissist. It also doesn't mean that it's not abuse. Neglect is abuse. It's still harmful, it just looks different than other abuse. It still hurts everyone involved! #grownostr
Getting out of toxic relationships is incredible and is needed. The real beauty comes in making and allowing the space to find ourselves perhaps for the first time in our lives. This is my wish for every single individual! Everyone deserves this and it's also something we all can do!❤️
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support. Never be beholden to anyone again including your own thoughts.
Dm me or schedule a consultation through the link in my bio.
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Most of us don’t want to accept that narcissists are the way that they are. The sooner we can accept this, the sooner we can move forward with our lives. It doesn’t mean we accept what they do or think it’s ok. It simply means we accept they are what they are and they won’t change.
I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support. Never be beholden to anyone again including your own thoughts.
Dm me or schedule a consultation through the link in my bio.
#narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissist #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #grownostr
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It's an education you'll never forget and one no one ever wants. The only good news with this education is if you study well you'll only need this education once. Unfortunately if we don't do the work, we will probably have to repeat it more than once. Take the time and do the work! You are worth it! #grownostr
