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I put coffee cup in Her hands, She puts knees on my shoulders. I would call it fair exchange.
It looks gorgeous! I have my shisha in a travel case ready to pick&go and it's little overpacked, so I am afraid it would get damaged during transport, but still... How much it costs to own similar beauty?
Talk about #preachingwater. Inspired by this, I asked her what would make her feel more loved. Got reminded about a thing or two. Nothing new, just stuff that is hard to keep up with while being a fulltime parent of two active kids and allowing oneself to get overwhelmed by responsibilities. 🙄
Well, it's a path 😅
This particular scenario was not a recurring thing. The petting before we got to even see each other naked, yeah, we were shy and late bloomers so were taking things unimaginably slow. For better or worse 😅
We do not like public play; semi-public adds a little taboo taste... That being said, we were young, horny, and not always lucky enough to get our own room, so...yeah we were having fun at some obscure places 😊
In a #mood to get wine & shisha & picnic cover, lay down behind some bushes in a semi-busy park, out of sight but within earshot, and relive some heavy petting sessions we were doing so often before the kids.
Agreed. But it doesn't mean it is a thornless path.
It sucks knowing things but not feeling them.
Sometimes it's internal. Like you know you are/should be sad, but are not able to feel it. That may be pinned to emotional desensitivity conditioned by upbringing in a society that treats males the way it does.
Sometimes it's coming from outside. Like knowing you are being loved, but not actually feeling it. That may be pinned to idontknowandiamafraidtoponderwhy.
...well, that's what a friend of mine says anyway.
Certainly! You need food, you want sous-vide Kobe steak with white pepper sauce and a dash of saffron. Like your family needs someone to protect them, take care of them, and fulfill all the other invisible male duties. BUT it wants (=actively chooses) you to fulfill that position.
You can't control the need, you choose what you want (* exceptions may apply).
As for the second question, I think there is nothing wrong with the need to be loved/desired in a specific way. On the contrary, I think the world would be a better place if everyone knew/listened to themselves about their own needs. The selfish part is to expect partner(s) to magically know what you need, not to tell (or communicate) to them and be disappointed afterwards. Or to be angry/blaming if you do manage to state your needs and the other party is disinterested/unable to accommodate that.
Easier said than done though 😅
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For me, desire is more active, almost a burning passion concept. Like, it's several levels over the "need" level. And it's mostly physical, but that may be just my love language talking.
I can imagine that some (maybe even most) people have just a need to be "needed"; for me (and I would argue for most who have physical contact as primary language) there is a neverending yearning to be desired.
I think it could be automated bot. Clients can fetch these data and do things like blur the content if trusted profiles flags things, relay/blossom operators can monitor them to remove unwanted items, but I still have to see that used in the wild. But apparently someone is using it, because there was plague of post promoting illegal kind of porn which got reported left and right (by me included) and it seems that nowadays there are none. Still, you can't report a report for being foolish...or can you? 🤔
Loved getting hickeys... oh to be young and careless again 😁
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You know, the way some woman smile triggers something in me, that no other behavior ever could.
Having exactly same experience last day or so. Did the nice weather hit and everyone is out of town or have we just missed some memo?
Wondering why someone (looking at you nostr:npub1jwka98a4n879dyejrrk7f0ez73wje3khusu02zx7zgyq3trc4rpskga2zr 😁) would report a note for nudity if the said note already has a nsfw content-warning flag. Is it an automated bot? Can some clients ignore 'content-warning' and require it to be a regular tag instead? Does Steve use more accounts and forgot that he logged on one where he allowed adult content and got offended?
So many questions, answers unlikely to come...
#suchisalifeofadventurer #nostr
Wondering if nostr:npub1qvm5wd8mkd82x0zjyfs5pzxfqlq4urr8tulx9tzw8g4gvkh0m3zqagcfkt got safely home from her trip to the mountains.
Be that as it may, I'm pretty sure she reached the... whatever she wanted to reach 😀
Sweet Dreams (Are Made of This)
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Getting tired of the portrayal of BDSM/power dynamic relationships in mainstream media. To counterbalance that, I will assume that everyone who likes cooking is obsessed with it on MasterChef levels.
What do you mean you scrambled your eggs without yak cream and imported chives? That's a thing?
#grownostr
Ooh, now I can see it. I assumed it was some cat vocalisations and not drawings 😄
Yeah, it's little too quiet here 🤔
Enjoy your mountain view! I am looking forward to any horny thoughts you would care to share. Or it's more what happens in the cabin, stays in the cabin? 😀
You know, things can always be better. Sometimes a bit, sometimes a lot. These days it tends to be the latter case 😀
What about you? You haven't posted in a while, another holiday trip?
Well, there's quite a thriving community interested in remote-controlled toys (as in over the internet). Women's toys have an obvious advantage in this area. Some individuals enjoy being connected this way with no option to disconnect, even while going shopping, hoping they won't succumb to the sensations. Shops with 24/7 opening hours and self-checkout kiosks make this relatively safe for semi-public play... at least that's what a friend says. 😅
#nsfw pic semi related
Sounds expensive, but dreamy. Would you accept collared pet for your next sabatical? 😁
Long day ahead on empty office. Fighting urge to tie wand to my thight, set it to low and try to endure as long as I could.
Yeah, but the ritual weight of actually going somewhere physically remote carries some weight, at least for me. Disassociating is easier though 😀
I was thinking humping your calfs from behind while showering your behind with tender kisses? But your wish is my command 😊
Oh, I am actually really shy, I just like how expectations of the reading rooms forces me to keep my complaints and objections unspoken 🤫
Two little demons on this side, but it gets better over time (at a scarily fast rate even).
We still have movie nights and try to do board game evenings, but everything depends on opportunity. Proper dates—with the right headspace and planning—rarely happen.
The need list is definitely a useful tool, though I have reservations. My needs are relatively "simple," while speaking her love language requires significant energy from her (which she still manages with courage). So while my needs aren't overlooked, they often aren't fully satisfied either. When I try expressing this, it's usually misunderstood—either she thinks what she's done isn't good (contrary, the quality is great, it's just the quantity...) or she feels she's not good enough for me. Not a good feeling to cause. So I do as I am expected from society. Suck it up, move forward. I am more bothered by me not being bothered about having this mindset than the actual sucking up part. Sorry for writing too much again. 😅
Anyway, it's true we haven't been on a "proper" date night for a while. Should fix that. Thanks for reminding.
So what's your poison to make coffee stronger? Somewhat I doubt it's theanin 😃