I just spent 5 weeks in Chicago, I went for a walk nearly every day. I didn’t experience even one incident of street harassment. That is wildly unusual! And given that this was consistent over 5 weeks, I don’t think it was chance, I think something is different now. The question is what?

I don’t think I suddenly became unattractive. I got lots of smiles and nods, and ‘good morning’ greetings. Maybe it’s because I’m a bit older? Maybe it’s in the way that I carry myself or in the way I dress these days? Or maybe… just maybe, the culture has changed. Or is that wishful thinking on my part?

Community relays are more resilient and harder to censor, than public relays.

They make the entire network stronger and create a thinner, wider distribution of Nostr nodes.

Few.

...and it worked?

...and it worked?

How do I activate my primal wallet? 🤔

Looks like lots of OTC Bitcoin selling going on...

Use this time wisely, once the sell wall is gone...

So that we aren’t just tearing into things, here is what I see as a healthy future for humanity. The below is an explanation and description of the world that I am working towards and how I think 'motherhood' should be done!

When I was dealing with depression/anxiety I of course did lots of reading and study into why. Why is everyone depressed? Well we can look at what makes humans happy. And over and over again one things sticks out, community. People who have close friends, room mates, family near by, close bonds with co-workers, etc, or even just say hi to the barista in the morning, those people are dramatically more likely to be happy people. In the modern world we live very isolated lives and we tend to not have much support. We aren’t built for that.

So what are we built for? And that gets complex because I don’t think we should be going “back” to anything in our history, but we would be silly to not take a look at our past to understand what our bodies and minds are expecting.

But when we realize that, depending on which part of the world your ancestors are from, ~99% of our history we’ve been living in small bands/villages/tribes we can see how that conflicts with modern life. We were out doors a lot, we knew everyone, (the famous scene from cheers, “Norm!”, that is what our minds and bodies expect to happen to us everyday!) We had lots of people around us to help with day to day tasks. Someone sitting next to the camp fire to tell little Sussie not to touch it so that you don’t have to stop what you are doing every 90seconds. We had friends that would pick up the slack on our tasks when we were having a bad day and needed to go for a long walk. We worried that the tribe would starve, but we didn’t have to worry that the tribe would let us starve.

So, interestingly, communism is a great idea and works wonderfully!… in groups smaller than Dunbar’s number. In a big way communism is our natural state. It just doesn’t scale.

So when we know this about ourselves, we can apply this knowledge to how we live now to optimize it. For me, and for quite a lot of mothers, the most difficult part of being at home with kids is the constant interruption. It’s a low level constant mental torment to not have any other responsible people around and to have to have your train of thought interrupted every 90seconds because you have to keep a little person from killing themselves. This shouldn’t be how it’s done.

So how can we do it the right way?

There is this great line from a stand up comic, Jim Gaffigan. He says his wife loves camping and is always trying to talk him into it. She says “It’s a tradition in my family.” and ya, “It was a tradition in everyone’s family until we invented the house!” I don’t like camping. I enjoy indoor plumbing. So how do we be hunter gatherers or villagers in the modern world?

I think we need to consciously chose a local, in person, village to practice some communism and communal living with. I think in the glorious future we will have lots of little villages, which people can freely chose and change, and we will essentially be big communist hippies in those villages, and then engage in more “free market” exchange with other villages.

I think young families should live in communal housing with other families where childcare can be shared. I think children should attend mixed age local schools in the little village. Adults will mostly work locally or from home like Me and Erik do. Parents work near their kids, but stay focused on their own adult endeavors. This also allows for women … and thus the tribe, to have more specialization and division of labor. Not all women want to or would be good school teachers.

This setup will give kids great community, lots of play with other kids, a quality education, and will allow mothers full community, creativity, and autonomy. A real win win.

There are so many ways in which this localized ‘communism’ can be practiced. The Kibbutz model. Very high home owner association fees with lots of local benefits. Very casually in even smaller extended family groups, etc. The really important part is small and voluntary!

I think this setup would be wildly healthy for the vast majority of people practicing it. It takes into account the realities of human instincts, respects women’s minds and individuality, and has solid economic theory.

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How pointless/not pointless would it be to do one of these (free) UX courses, in terms of employment? Anyone here dome one?

Thank you Frank

Yep.

rewatching my travel videos and my god what the actual fuck was i doing. these things are exhausting just to watch

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Signal was developed at the NSA headquarters and sponsored by tens of millions USD per year until recently.

All things considered, it is wise to keep distance. From a western perspective, even telegram has likely more privacy than signal and whatsapp (same algorithm).

We're at nostr, promote 0xchat.

It's hard for me to recall specific examples from the past year, except for the fact that Amethyst always consumed more traffic, sent unnecessary events, and established unnecessary connections.

Literally every update of Amethyst now feels like a slap in the face to the relay. I don't expect anything good anymore 😂