Furthermore I don't ever say anything to sound romantic. Honesty is way more important to me than any notion of being romantic.

Not true. I don't like makeup or fakeness at all.

I like God given natural beauty.

Yeah, point 1 is a really big deal.

You're showing a willingness to go-against-the-herd, even to your own detriment. It's a subconscious test.

But, after a couple of decades, you've long passed that test and now you risk being too boring.

All really interesting ideas. I think it can be summarized as:

1) Novelty can implyl attractiveness. Signaling being open to novelty may be a hope to proxy being novel (hence the "never wear any makeup", "cut your hair short")

2) The process of romance elucidates that the overtness of being so far on the pendulum swing is not actually representative of reality. Referring to point 1 hints that its actually virtue signalling is an attempt to appear novel to the other party.

It's also just a sign of intelligence. High-IQ correlates to craving novelty.

If one is surrounded by a single option, the exact opposite is what will grab attention, perhaps its an adverse reaction but to be against the grain shows you're different thus attractive to those that have been dulled by a homogeneous trait across their community. A sort of pendulum effect - where a large swing in one direction indicates a likely equally large swing in the opposite direction to come after. Reactionary, and likely not sustainable but that is the overt perspective individuals can take - but overtness is often incongruent to truth for courting/romance.

- hypothesis: being averse/dullened to dominant trait in your community may relate evolutionarily to trying to keep the gene pool diverse

Yeah, I have a slightly androgynous appearance ("gaming") and I look good without makeup on and with short hair, which is kind of a flex.

The problem arises that "never wear makeup" and "cut all your hair off" are permanent decisions. You can't get up in the morning and do something different.

Short hair is always short.

Bare face is always bare.

If you can create a very similar effect without going "all the way", that leaves you the option to occasionally surprise him by looking completely different.

I can wear short hair all day and then take it down and have it suddenly cascading down my back.

Or you are usually bare-faced, but you come down the stairs before a party and look a bit younger and fresher.

You always want to save some room for the WHOA! 👀 effect.

Yeah, I have a slightly androgynous appearance ("gaming") and I look good without makeup on and with short hair, which is kind of a flex.

The problem arises that "never wear makeup" and "cut all your hair off" are permanent decisions. You can't get up in the morning and do something different.

Short hair is always short.

Bare face is always bare.

If you can create a very similar effect without going "all the way", that leaves you the option to occasionally surprise him by looking completely different.

I can wear short hair all day and then take it down and have it suddenly cascading down my back.

Or you are usually bare-faced, but you come down the stairs before a party and look a bit younger and fresher.

You always want to save some room for the WHOA! 👀 effect.

Yeah, I have a slightly androgynous appearance ("gaming") and I look good without makeup on and with short hair, which is kind of a flex.

The problem arises that "never wear makeup" and "cut all your hair off" are permanent decisions. You can't get up in the morning and do something different.

Short hair is always short.

Bare face is always bare.

If you can create a very similar effect without going "all the way", that leaves you the option to occasionally surprise him by looking completely different.

I can wear short hair all day and then take it down and have it suddenly cascading down my back.

Or you are usually bare-faced, but you come down the stairs before a party and look a bit younger and fresher.

You always want to save some room for the WHOA! 👀 effect.

Interesting points which I don't disagree, but I'll bring up a counter perspective to your short hair vs long hair point, maybe even relates to the no makeup point.

There is something to be said about androgyny - the opaqueness and lure in not knowing exactly what one is signaling at. The courting process is a game where both sides pull at the imagination of the other keeping the mystery of intentions veiled. Being too blunt and too bold leaves nothing for imagination and the fantasy is lost, the fun is gone.

Pure displays of femininity or masculinity have their place, but so does treading the fine line of displaying how open one is for romantic involvement - a hint towards being closed creates the desire for what one cannot have, a hint at being open creates a fantasy for possibility.

All in spectrums, of course.

Men are not good with putting words together !

i don’t even know the difference between pedicure and manicure . which is feet which is for hands 😂 so i tend not to give any demands!! when it comes to beauty care women know what is best for them

i don’t even know the difference between pedicure and manicure . which is feet which is for hands 😂 so i tend not to give any demands!! when it comes to beauty care women know what is best for them

Yeah, guys love to hate on makeup because they think it's a flex, but nobody ever rejected one of these women because they didn't like that she was wearing makeup.

That didn't happen, ladies.

Never happened. Never will.

Still cute

A high IQ, because intelligence is attractive.

A woman who doesn't need to flaunt her body for attention.

One who doesn't wear makeup, fake eyelashes or fake brows, yet is still pleasant to look at.

She is kind to people and animals, and loves spending time out in nature.