Womens' appearance is mostly driven by what other women dictate, so suggesting women respond to something their husbands desires is such a radical break from their way they live their life that they can't emotionally handle the thought.

When men want women to care about what they think, they go to a prostitute, real or imagined. The author is pleading for us to stop sending our men to prostitutes, basically, because large swathes of men are deciding they prefer prostitutes and it's going to cause us to go instinct.

There's just an age around 40 or 50 where women all crop their hair. Just like they all wear only pants.

Most women orient themselves exclusively on other women (and trans/effemjnate men because they mimic women). I just didn't realize that because I'm not in any girl clique. I have girlfriends, but we're a collection of girl-outsiders, so it's an unusual dynamic.

Most women are part of some female herd.

My suggestion was intended to help her have a relationship that is more than merely "fine", but I've discovered a lot of women don't want that. If they want romance, they get a new lover. And they're ALWAYS willing to grow their hair out and wear sexier clothes, for the new guy.

She's much older than me.

They're fine, I guess. I've actually never seen him, tho.

Yeah.

Men also don't realize that womens' self-image doesn't always align with mens' opinions of her appearance.

Self-esteem has mostly to do with how many friends she has and how well she's been treated, and so on.

Beauty advice be like:

Don't get really fat.

Try to look cute or pretty.

Be nice.

Women:

Noooooooooopooppppooo!!!! 😱😱😱😱😱😱

Ah, are you a rebell against the Crew of the Perpetual Hoodie?

Yeah.

I once made the mistake of suggesting that someone grow her hair out a bit, after she mentioned that her husband missed her long hair, and she was livid.

She will wear her hair how she wants to.

And her husband will like it.

Basta.

Okaaaaaayyyyy...

True.

Well, and don't totally blimp out or get really scrawny, and wear something with a fitted waist. Maybe grow your hair out and dress up a bit on Sundays.

That sounds very low-investment, but it's probably enough to upset most women.

I think that's too low of a bar, to be honest.

I think you can give birth to his children and also try to look feminine and appealing.

Some won't even do that, anymore.

You would think women would be eager to find out what straight men find attractive, but they're usually horrified by it.

Yes, but female attractiveness has been largely unaffected by it. Oddly.

Completely backward.

Just try to convince women to ask their husbands how they should cut their hair. They be like 😱

And it's a form of harm-reduction.

If your lover is tempted to watch some cutesy AI girl giggle and bounce across the screen, you can do him a favor, put some pigtails and a naughty schoolgirl outfit on, go crazy with the blush, and bounce around the bedroom. 😂

And then he gets a real Happy End, so everyone wins.

Mens' revealed preferences in the digital world is information women can use to make themselves more attractive in the real world.

So, we can close the attractiveness gap with some Girl Game.

They look like panthers.

I thought it was interesting how she said to "lean into" what he finds attractive about you, and behave that way in an exaggerated manner. If you're sultry, act more sultry. If you're elegant, act more elegant. If you're cute, act cuter.

It had never even occured to me to think about what he found attractive. Or that there was anything about me, in particular, that he might find attractive. I was always trying to figure out why he married me, despite my being generically unnattractive.

Complete reframe. Assume he thinks you're attractive... start from there.

A lot of people don't want to read it because it's sort of graphic, but there's a point to the nudity.

It's a political treatise, really.

Her stuff on sexy moves and acting cutesy, etc. made me blush beet-red, but... she's right.

It's not exactly neurosurgery, what these e-Girls are offering. It's just stuff most of us wouldn't think of or that we feel ridiculous doing because we think it's silly. We've been taught to always be dignified and practical, and to only care about housekeeping and making money.

Clean or a bit of stubble, I suppose, but some guys look better with a beard.

I think this is why I only ever dated older guys. They measure women by a completely different yardstick.