What is the price of admission for an apology?
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This is bad advice. Apologizing when you did nothing wrong is not only annoying, but it leads to people taking advantage and sometimes abusing you.
I agree. This is not advice for enemies.
In a relationship though, going on assuming you’re always right and never wrong is probably on the opposite spectrum of this.
Assuming you’re always right is not the same as always apologizing when you haven’t done anything wrong.
Why assume you haven’t done anything wrong?
Who said you have to assume you’ve done nothing wrong? I’m just saying not to apologize until you’ve become aware that you’ve done something wrong.
When you say “sorry you’re having a bad day.” Is that admission of guilt?
I'm sorry but I disagree with this statement.
I am sorry you feel that way 😄
I'm sorry, but I don't think you are.
I’m sorry, I don’t know what I can do about that.
I create another strategy that is more cringe that starts every response with 'I create'.
I create communicates that whatever perspective I have is a reminder that whatever I perceive is actually a reflection of myself.
I create directs a perturbation about another back at me.
It may seem tedious to slow down communication like this. And it is, indeed, slow going to use this technique. However, using “I create” sentences, a pair intent on heart-felt communication can wend its way carefully through the subject at hand. When we really need to hear each other, it is a very helpful technique. In beginning each sentence with “I,” the two communicators are kept from accusing each other, as in “You did this” or “You said that.” If we need to share a concern with another, we can say, “I feel badly about something I thought you said. This is what I thought I heard.” Then we can share our tender feelings and find out if we heard the other person correctly without accusing the other person or separating him from us in our hearts.