I used to think helping others was helpful.

Now I believe helping prolongs the suffering and dependency of the ‘recipient’ + and inflates the ego — consciously or subconsciously — of the ‘helper’.

No one can clean, grow, or heal for us and we can do none of these things for others. All we can do is our own work.

Maybe that’s what tough love is… walking alongside > enabling.

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help people make their mistakes. they generally won't listen until they get burned anyway.

You “serve” others a lot more effectively if you get your own shit together.

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If someone asks for help sometimes it's worth helping. In any other case it's just ego

I agree, enabling dependency inflates the helper’s ego while stunting growth. Tough love is walking alongside someone, not carrying them. Teach a man to fish instead of handing him one—that’s how you truly help.

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