Any frens been on the sobriety journey who have resources to share?
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The sobriety journey, is completely up to you. It has absolutely ZERO to do with "The 12 Steps'.
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Do mushrooms and have a religious experience that destroys your desire for whatever it is you know you shouldn't want
not a "fren", but here:
Read or listen to the book “This Naked Mind” by Annie Grace
1. If there’s a time in the day where the impulse is most intense ie 5-9pm, schedule yourself in such a way that you are happily doing something you enjoy more as well as not being able to be tempted lapse. You kind of have to schedule in advance so the decision is already made.
2. Do whatever you need to do to steadily improve your sleeping routine so much so that you can begin to look forward to it (6-7pm this can start to get in motion).
3. Anytime there’s an impulse just remind yourself that if you can hold off for 5minutes it usually subsides and will feel great in just 5 minutes.
4. When you wake up in the morning from not drinking the night before, be incredibly proud of yourself and enjoy positively reinforcing and talking to yourself that you feel great for a reason that was not easy but you did it.
5. Dm me anytime you need a distraction. I’m definitely not gonna read it but you can do that.
Hey there! I’m sober. AA works really well for some and not for others but if you are really struggling it might be nice to check out a local meeting.
If that isn’t your thing there are other options available. I’m sending you love on this new chapter. It’s probably the best decision I’ve ever made in my life. ♥️
I've been clean from alcohol and weed for over a month now. I had previously stopped both since 2015, but relapsed weed in 2020 and booze in 2024 due to bad habits and not caring for myself.
The best advice I can give is find "the reason" to focus on, then just quit, and don't look back. I know it sounds trite, but it is the way. It will be really tough for the first bit, but it quickly gets better. If you have friends and family that are supportive that is great, but look out for crabs in the bucket. Sometimes trying to improve yourself will make people jealous.
Feel free to DM me, it's something I'd rather not discuss in depth publicly 🫂🤙
It was 2022 Halloween, I went to the busy Jersey City bar Pet shop with my whole work team. The next day, I was not feeling well, a test showed I was Covid positive. So, I started my medication and put a pause on my "drinking habit" (at least 2 cases of beer and/or a bottle of whiskey a week).
Medical advice was to be in medication for 2 weeks. So, no alcohol for 2 weeks. I recovered from COVID-19 and thought I will try staying away from drinking for another 2 weeks. And 2 more weeks and so on... Now, it has been more than 2 years without a drop of alcohol! 🤷‍♂️
Covid came as a boon to me! The benefit was, I started following better eating habits and workout regimen. I lost weight, from almost 230 lbs to 155 lbs.
Just telling, the best way I learned to stop drinking is, to stop for a short period, incrementally...
Go to 90 AA meetings in 90 days before you write it off. Maybe stick. Gotta find a sober crew anyway and that is where they hang out. Also, Read “The Doctor’s Opinion” and “More About Alcoholism” from the big book. Those chapters rocked my world and helped a lot.
I can advise this from personal experience.
It may or may not apply to you.
1. You cannot make it work if your partner is part of the 'ritual'
2. Stopping leaves a huge void that needs filling.
3. Find that thing, and go for it.
4. Cut social circles that form part of the 'rituals'
5. Don't go in half hearted. It is a hero or zero mentality that's needed.
6. Be fucking proud of yourself.
Make plans. Picture yourself in the future, then make it happen.
There will be days temptation rises. Be prepared for them. ( For me it wasn't when life was tough, it was when it was easy. )
I often hear the stories of others talking about how they remember their first experience etc. I can honestly say I cannot. I do remember thinking if I was still doing this when I was 18, then it was a problem lol. I was an idiot. It was already a problem.
I joined AA a decade ago & Defected from the cult a few months back.
Still staying sober without it?
So many. What kind specially?
Someone else recommended “This Naked Mind” and I think that was exactly the thing I was looking for. But always open to more recommendations!
Haven’t listened to that one. Podcasts are good, but make sure to connect with sober folks irl too.
Can’t call a podcast on the phone when life takes a shit and you wanna drink
It’s a book about dispelling the illusions that alcohol does anything good for anybody, it really resolved the cognitive dissonance for me
I do have a couple friends from college who are sober now that I’m going to reach out to as well
It’s really a useless substance, but we somehow make it into a king
Even worse than useless, by the numbers the most dangerous drug there is! Imagine erasing memories to “relieve stress”, only to wake up with more stress. Such madness. Took me so long because my parents are alcoholics and it’s been hard for me to break with the tradition they raised me with and see it for what it really is.
What worked best for you?
Have you quit yet or thinking of doing so?
It’s only Day 3 but it finally clicked that I need to stop having a relationship with alcohol if I am ever going to have a healthy one with myself
Like finding out someone was never really a friend at all ever
Alcohol is a twisted and dark companion. We all need to remove this thief from our lives.
It’s certainly never done me any favors
I feel like I have gotten everything possible out of the experience. Now it is time to move on. The table is turning
Same. 20 years is plenty of time to have given to it
đź’Ż man. How long are you off it?
It’s only Day 4. But everything has clicked and I don’t want to spend another minute of this one life I get drinking poison that makes you stupid and forgetful
Indeed, well done 👍 Today is Wednesday and usually drinks in the evening. Have to remember how pointless the old routine is. And my God, it’s an old routine. Good luck man
