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Not really man - tough time mentally..

Can’t give my wife kids genetically which I didn’t know when I met her - recently found out..

I can’t get around the fact it won’t be mine genetically.. it’s like your wife cheats falls pregnant and then you stay and bring the kid up..

If I knew my medical condition I wouldn’t of wasted her time…

I hear you, man. That’s a heavy thing to process, and I can only imagine how much it’s weighing on you. It’s understandable to feel this way, but please don’t think this defines you. Your ability to have kids doesn’t change your worth or the love you have to give.

Your wife chose you because of who you are. This doesn’t take that away. There are different ways to build a family if that’s what you both want. More than anything, what matters is the life you share together.

You don’t have to go through this alone. Talk to someone who can help you through it boss, like a friend, your wife, or a professional. You are valued, and even if it feels overwhelming now, this feeling won’t last forever. Keep holding on.

Yeah thanks man - appreciate the time it took to write this post..

My wife told me from day one she wanted kids and that was one of her non negotiables.. now that we tried and I’m the one who can’t give her what she wants I believe for her because she is younger than me is to find someone who is able to give her kids and a family the normal way.. it’s always gonna be in the back of my mind that the kid is genetically not mine.. I don’t think anyone can ever get over that - unless I’m missing the point here..

I hear you, man. This is really tough, and it makes sense that you’re feeling this way. But before you assume what’s best for your wife, have an open conversation with her. She chose to be with you, and that means more than just the ability to have kids biologically.

I know it’s hard to imagine a child that isn’t genetically yours, but being a father is about love, presence, and the bond you build. No matter what happens, you’re not less of a man, and you’re not alone in this. Give yourself the space to process, and don’t be afraid to lean on the people who care about you.

Change up your diet. Keep exercising and go see another doctor.

Don’t give up

Unless I’m missing something here - my body doesn’t produce sperm.

They went straight to source to look for swimmers and there were now.. the medication I was on for 4 years killed absolutely everything inside me..

I’ve been training flat out for 8 months and eating extremely well..

Just trying to be point for ya.

I think me and the other commenters all just want you to remain open minded to finding a solution. There may yet be a way

Trust me I appreciate all the comments.. in really do!

I gotta find the strength to carry on.. whether I do or don’t is the question..

Gotta take it day by day and I know it’s extremely selfish but sometimes leaving the world can be better for the person and yes the loved ones will miss you but eventually the pain subsides and life carries on…

Knowing the truth can be liberating if you allow it.

Day by day… that’s what I’ve taken outta this!

Cup half full or empty…

Be positive for ya **

If you’re willing to see if I can help let me know

Herbal medicine — trust the body

Are you referring to regenerating of sperm or mental health help?

Regeneration.

I am happy to try anything but my challenge is that my wife is being IVFed next week so this time around won’t be able to fix..

Must I DM you?

Devin 11mo ago

I'm sorry that's burdening you so heavily. I've been where you are mentally for different reasons. I can't tell you how you should or will feel later on, but I can say that things definitely can't get better if you give up.

I do know other men that I came up with in the military who were excellent, loving fathers to children who didn't share their blood (not from infidelity). If someone asked them if they felt any different than if they were biologically theirs, the answer is a hard no even though they expected they would.

The world needs more good men. Not less. Stay with us. Ride it out. You might be surprised. You don't know me, but if you need to talk/vent to someone without the answers but will listen, you can DM me.