I want to get married and have a family some day.
However, the idea of marriage or more so the idea of committing to another person terrifies me.
Anyone else relate? Or anyone used to and got past this?
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I felt the opposite. When I was 18 I was looking for a wife to start a family with.
I did before my girlfriend of a year and a half broke up with me. Haven’t had a long-term relationship since. It’ll be a decade since come next year.
to commit or not. 🤷🏾♂️
its like a box of chocolates, never know what you gonna get 😃
When it’s the “right” person, the prospect of *not* being with them is far scarier than the commitment.
Find a woman you hate and give her your house. Only half kidding. Marriage has been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’m lucky that I found someone who wanted a divorce at different times than I did, and held on to our union, this saving us the halving of our estate, finances, emotional capital and energy. It is first and last a business partnership complicated by emotional attachment, not to be undertaken without intense discussion, financial planning, payment and ownership allocation, crucially brutal honesty. I have been married 30 years, if we make it to the end of October.
Congratulations and thank you for the hard truths.
I think when it's truly the right girl you won't be terrified man. The fear for me is just whether I will find that girl. The fear is settling.
The older I get the more this is true.
For me I enjoy being independent and doing my own thing. Always have.
I think having someone else in my life could cause me some mental discomfort as I am so used to being single.
Saying that I do want to have a family. I dont want to be an lonely old man.
Same here.
Ending up alone is more frightening.
Well plenty of people got married and ended up alone anyways.
Having kids and legacy is also appealing to me. I feel genetically coded to pass on my ginger genes to keep my species alive. 😆
Amen, bro ICJ! Just make sure you raise them up in the fear of the Lord Jesus Christ, will surely be a blessing to God, you, your family and to society!🔥✝️🙏😎
Of course brother 🙏🏻
The survival of our species is not in your hands my friend, how many ever kids you create. ;)
Also instead of your genes you can leave your ideas behind. The right ideas may contribute much more to our survival than anyone's genes and if you care about being remembered once you're gone ideas can make you remembered forever, other than genes, which will be altered and optimized in a generation or two anyways.
I have no problem with commitment but I have an issue with getting Government involved in my relationship via legal marriage. It’s an objectively stupid thing to do.
The mariage of my parents went horribly wrong. So, when I was younger, I had the intention to never marry ever in my whole life.
Then I met my wife and my opinion changed. Now we've been together for 15 years and married for 12.
TLDR: Just wait and see what happens.
I can totally relate to your story about your parents.
Marriage is not a pre req for a family. And what is family?
Do you have any ride or die brothers?
Have you ever had a woman soul locked?
First increase your testosterone. Be aggressive. Immerse yourself in the ocean, start boxing.
Embrace the sun, and lift HEAVY steel.
Watch your opinions change
The male urge to build a LEGACY is real.
THATS ultimately what you want
Great response.