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We have a big issue in our culture where we can’t seem to imagine an egalitarian interaction.

I tell people that my husband is not my leader and they then assume that means that I’m controlling him. I tell people that I’m not into being controlled in bed and they then assume that means I’m some sort of dominatrix. I tell people that I am not above others on some hierarchy and they then assume that I am unsuccessful.

Such a shame that we can’t envision cooperative, voluntary, peaceful interactions with others.

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Troy 10mo ago

It sounds like you need a new crowd/culture. I don't experience this at all, but I'm also selective about whose reality I'll subject my experiences to. Most everyone I know envisions cooperative, voluntary, peaceful interactions, and does their best to put it into practice.

HannahMR 10mo ago

that's lovely!

purrs_for_Her 10mo ago

this is interesting.

i don't think it follows that non-egalitarian relationships can't be cooperative and voluntary. personally, i would feel unfulfilled in an egalitarian relationship.

however, i also agree with your sentiment though. when i express that my Wife and i have an FLR dynamic, people assume that i must be a cuck or that She must be some kind of dominatrix—but nothing could be further from the truth.