What’s the age cutoff where you would not consider having any kids?
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I’m past that already 🙏
Which is …
I’d say 35
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I’d say biggest this is health of mom and can the both of you commit to the energy and time required to raise children. Sometimes you gotta give shit up so enjoy your 20s and early 30s, should be plenty of time if you want to explore the world but not too old that you won’t be around when your kids get older.
But if you have the energy to keep up then 45 🤷🏻
35 is a good cutt-off age, yes
Has to be different for men and women. Any man’s decision had to be a derivative of the womans age they are with.
Y?
45+
Life didn't bless me with kids and at my age I'm reluctant to start now. I don't want to be in my late 60's when my kids reach their 20's.
Why not?
I don't think there's an argument that'll win for either case, IMO, just curious.
It's just me plus I don't want to have kids just to have kids. For me that would come with having the right partner and environment to give my kids the childhood they deserve. So at my age, this is a challenge.
I also had a girlfriend who had two kids not long ago and the joy having those kids in my life was probably one of the most memorable experiences I had in my life. I wasn't sure if I had what it would take to care for a family and I found out that apparently I do. Unfortunately the relationship didn't last.
So yes, I believe I may have reached the cut-off age. By desire, or life's plan, it is what it is.
65. You dont want to pass away and them be left without your guidance. No guarantees how long anyone lives though, I guess.
That's a hard question, a part of me says it's never too late unless you can't get it up anymore 🤷♂️
For a guy ? 50 …
Probably 60.
35
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I'm 30 and have 2. I can't imagine going through raising children any older than I already am. If anything I feel like we waited too long. My oldest is 2. As much as my children are my world, there are things you're not equipped to handle as well I'm your older age. It would be sad to not be able to participate in my son's extra circulars that require physical strength and endurance. Just one example. But I would say it's never too late if you don't have any children at all. Everybody should try to have kids. I'm just saying of you already have some, 35 is a good place to try to be done by. That way you can maybe have great grandchildren one day and they will know you. Also, you can enjoy your retirement with your adult children and help them come into adulthood with less on your own plate.
I’m 37 with 2 kids 2 and 5. Wife wants another but I’m not sure I’m up for it. Id need to get into tip top shape to keep up with the youngest when the time comes. Not too much of an issue currently with both boys but I can’t even imagine 3. Oof. But part of me thinks we should go for it. It may be the last chance.
Have you read Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids, by Bryan Caplan?
If she really wants one, go for it. I won't lie that it might be the hardest thing you do though.
My first at 40, second at 42.
Definitely lived a life first.
My brother who had 1 at 22 and 1 at 24 is having a different midlife crisis than me, lol.
Also watching couples that have a 7-9 year gap between kids seem to prolong the pain of those small children years....
Can't win, lol.
My youngest graduates in 2 years. I would not be happy starting over again at this point.
35
We stopped when I hit 40. But we also started later than many.
Refrase: what is your max acceptable age when your youngest kid will be 18 ?
Then calculate back from there.
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