There should be a service where when you want to text your ex, they block the ability to make contact until you can prove your moment of weakness has passed and/or you have a valid reason for contact. If you wish to break the contract early a notification will be sent to your friends and siblings about what an idiot you’re being. There’s a one hour lag time where you friends have the chance to remind you what a truly terrible idea it is. That one hopeless romantic friend who always says “maybe it will work out this time” will be excluded.
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🤔 nope too complicated don’t bother.
Instead: just don’t 👈🏻
👍🏻 good luck also available to talk people down off ledges pretty much whenever 🤟🏻
I’m gonna be honest. I might. 🤷🏼♀️
Nope. Don’t do it. You know how there’s no recreational hard drugs? Same reason.
Like we ain’t on nostr going brb need some meth for a perk me up just this one time guys cmon
To clarify: you might make the service, or text your ex?
Seems like if it’s not obvious it’s a no
Is that your dating advice? If it’s not fuck yes, it’s a no.
Lol I don’t think dating is like a light switch but maybe to some people it is. Gradients can be broken down too yeah? so… 🤷🏼
What's the reason for breakup? I think that's important to determine the hopeless romantic friend is correct or not.
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Distance. My friend who has met him asks if we’ve sorted it out every time I talk to her. 😂 She was planning our wedding.
Love spans space and time instantaneously, that I believe in.
Most def. And taking a night to sleep on the urge to text is okay as well.
Long distance can work 😊 I’m living proof. My husband and I met when living 400 miles apart and things stayed that way for most of a year.
For anything that isn’t actual incompatibility, I’d personally try to make it work if he’s also willing to try.
How’d you and your husband meet if you don’t mind me asking?
We met on OkCupid.
Some things that helped us to have fun experiences dating for so long without being nearby, if you’re looking for ideas:
Skype on both desktop and phone allowed us to talk both at home and share walks / time outside. Super super long Skype conversations multiple times a week.
Tabletop Simulator on Steam if you like board games
Movie sharing through Teleparty and Amazon Prime
I know you’re not religious, but we “attended” the same church livestreams and talked about them during and after, which was awesome. You could sub in any other kind of thing like a Ted talk or a podcast you’d both be interested in.
Also had two “book clubs” going that were just the two of us (Bible and non-Bible)
I don't believe in "if it's not a fuck yes, it's a no." Humans are complicated, life is complicated and relationships are also complicated.
But the one important test is is it healthy or not??
If it's toxic, forget it!!
And vent on Nostr instead. We'll do our best to keep you entertained.
Also finding a replacement to the intensity of that interaction would help greatly as well!!
We all have been there. 💖💖
Yea, might what? I want to understand what you meant too
I might text
Ah, the superposition…
Collapse that shit into certainty nostr:npub17x7htjej3hgcqwqj86u9yvpcunhw6nz4zclzph2zfnlwe4v0yp8qrxvgap
Don’t be so influenced by us though. It’s your decision. No matter what we say, up to you.
So you haven't yet. At least that.
Already held out longer than many of us. 😆😆
Girl, you can do it!! What other stuff can distract you/entertain you so much that you don't think about texting him?
Some other guy’s pb? 😂
Part of you knows it’s a bad enough idea you posted about how there should be a service to keep you from doing it, right?
I’d do the following:
- make a list of all the reasons it wasn’t a good fit and put it in places you can’t miss
- delete the number from your phone (even if you have it memorized)
- write for yourself about why you feel something is unresolved if that thought won’t leave you alone, then extrapolate with the most brutal honesty possible what would realistically probably happen if you tried to resolve it
- listen to the internet people telling you NO 😂
- do something engrossing you really enjoy. Good book, art, video game, whatever.
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It could be fun to work on something like this. I'd name it "stoic.life", now featuring "weakness sissy alert broadcast". It could work for other addictions too
My original post was really meant more in jest. I love hearing everyone’s dating advice.