I write things in absolute calm and the pissed off person reading it in their state of mind will make it sound like I'm pissed off in their pissed off voice.
I say.. bruh, who took the jelly out of your donut? And then they get even angrier and I get blamed for triggering them.
It is often very difficult to communicate my detached calmness with the emotionally unregulated.
We don't have to worry about their response 😁
No Sir cuban, we definitely do not. 🫂
Yeah, they assume and project too much. People gotta chill out, touch some grass, get a new jelly donut.
You’ve summed up social media
Why I read with my sarcasm goggles on 🤷♀️. Life is much more pleasant if you think they're joking about their level of pissed offedness.
And I really do just want everyone to not be angry and find some joy in their day. Everyone deserves to be happy...maybe not everyone...but the not evil people deserve some happiness.
I like using Emojis for that reason, they help convey emotion in text to help reduce the misunderstanding of tone through text.
Like In this video lol
https://nostr.download/8f6ce127a529d7cf3faeaf4343e03a4375f26c726f9d6ccab38d079d5dd4b599.mp4
I do too, however I do that for me and not to appease anyone.
Who took the jelly out of your donut? 😂
Love it
Also, their reaction is their problem
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I've never been able to describe this before
forever and always
Every time I see this, it reminds me of you. 😄 I know for sure you don't look like that but I get the idea.
yeah, I wish my hot tub had a waterfall.
in all seriousness I learned a lot from practicing meditation. it makes letting shit go east-peasy.
I have never tried meditation. I tend to operate in a calm baseline most of the time. I have heard of its healing powers. Something to try some day.
I’ll share my personal experience. the practice taught me how to better manage my thoughts and increase my zen. sitting still and observing my thoughts flow by. before you realize it you’re down some rabbithole thinking about something or problem solving. learning to recognize when that happens and how to let it go was the practice for me. at first it’s nearly impossible but with practice it’s like being in the third person and viewing all these random thoughts flow by, with the ability to recognize when you’re in one and let it go. overtime it becomes habit and subconscious. I haven’t meditated in years at this point but the zen persists. I should really get back to it. it’s a nice way to start the day.
Thanks, Ben. Any starter recommendations? What kind of environment is best and when
when I first got interested I picked up a book called How to meditate by Lawrence LeShan. I think I read most of it but honestly can’t remember.
what actually got me going was using a guided meditation app. I used Headspace. granted this was like 10 years ago so not sure if it’s the best choice.
the app just guided you through breath counting. counting your breathing gives your brain something to focus on and pull back to when you get distracted.
let me know if you go down the rabbithole and find something you like, I’m interested in picking it back up.
I stopped going to church as a teenager because it seemed like repeating a bunch of empty words no one believed in. In college I saw someone sharing a nonfiction book online about magic and was surprised because I didn't think anyone actually thought that stuff was real. I spent the following year researching spiritual topics and eventually found a hermetic astrologer to do my birth chart. It seemed accurate and reasonable enough so I asked where I could learn more.
He recommended bota.org to me, and the series of spiritual courses there teach about meditation and helped me verify that there is a lot more to existence than materiality. Since then I've had some really wild spiritual experiences. It's hard to specify the exact material benefits because they can be gradual, but I've noticed an increase in my ability to concentrate and be harmonious and constructive. It's really supercharged my insight and intuition.
The best benefit is that it accelerates the transformation of your soul into something more eternal and beautiful, kind of like a vine growing up a trellis. It's hard to put into words, kind of like explaining the concept of snow to someone who spent their entire life in the Amazon rain forest.
Thank you for sharing that. I've heard many fascinating experiences from others. I'd like to try it one of these days.
Cool as a cucumber at all times. Makes my coworker with anger issues completely lose it
Try extracting the main point from their pissed off reply and calmly acknowledge it and show appreciation for it. Even if you disagree, try finding the part you agree with. That way the person will feel heard and understood and will calm down.
No, it is not my job to appease a grown man.
That's true and you do you. I found that with most people I agree on 80% or things and it always helped me first find the common ground before we get into the disagreement as it makes the disagreement discussion much more tangible and honestly easier.
There wasn't really an argument to be made in my statement in the first place. Only that often emotions get in the way that it is perceived as an attack.
It's like telling someone you love them. But because they're in a negative state of mind, no matter how sweet you may say it, it has no effect on them. It may even be perceived as an attack.
