When you send me sats on nostr, it is going to my Alby wallet. I did not set up a lightning node, make an on-chain transaction, and connect to a bunch of peers. Alby is a custodial wallet. It is basically Venmo.
When the blocksize debate was settled, Bitcoin kept its 1MB blocksize for old nodes, and increased the blocksize to 4MB for new nodes. This allowed lightning, but as you can see, we are all using custodial wallets. Same in El Salvador. As more people adopt Bitcoin, self-custody Lightning will be unattainable.
There are many proposed soft forks that could help lightning (though never really fix many of its underlying problems), as well as give us better L2 solutions. But the suits do not want to change Bitcoin, and claim it is perfect the way it is.
If I were a government spook, and I wanted to stop a revolutionary money system that can replace my fiat scam, "NEVER CHANGE BITCOIN YOU EVIL SHITCOINER" is the perfect way.