how do you reconcile the need for something safe, stable, and predictable with the desire for something mysterious, exciting, and extraordinary?
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I want to try to answer later.
Counted pros and cons, since getting it all is probably not even possible. And rationally decided getting calmer is a rather small price to pay for having good roots. It's the boring way. But so comfortable and calm.
hmmm, maybe we can't have it all—maybe we can. how does a couple meld a bit of spice and excitement with that comfort and calm?
i'm not talking about cutting out of work early on a friday and hopping on a jet to a tokyo love hotel, but maybe just sneaking a piece of pie before eating at a dinner party. :P
Kudos for making that a conscious choice 👍
safe, stable, and predictable requires maturity. mysterious, exciting, and extraordinary requires growth.
maybe someone who is mature emotionally who wants to continue to grow
ooooooh
this is a good one~!
growing requires one to not be complacent—pushing boundaries, exploration.
wonderful addition ^^
something stable and safe I guess we can find in the choice of being together. I wouldn't add predictable.
there is a lot of space for mistery and excitement and extraordinary every day.
mistery is something that surrounds us all the time.
with him, I'm comfortable enough to look at my shadows and I'm constantly changing, being more aware of myself and, by doing this, I look at him with fresh eyes.
and life like this, even a simple life with the kids and doing things we love and care about, is extraordinary.
beautiful response. thank you for sharing~! ^^
"look at him with fresh eyes."
i had a similar thought after reading something today~! absolutely remarkable. :3
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I do it by entering an abusive relationship.👍