My g/f of 10yrs is leaving me and her son "to go find herself" because "she's not happy here" anymore...
I could really use a hug rn guys while I navigate opening this new chapter.
Making $20k/yr and affording a place on my own is going to be a challenge in todays economy.
If anyone has any leads on jobs in Michigan or here on nostr, please reach out. Doordash isn't going to cut it.
Thank you for reading.
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That’s crazy 🤦🏽♂️ women today can’t handle nothing
Ain't many words from anyone that's gonna make that any much easier - I feel for you and the boy, at this time of year especially. The crazy people in your phone ain't going anywhere any time soon though, we're always here.
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She gave you 10 years and the best you could come up with is 20k per year? Come on dude.
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But come on. Take care of your boy.
He said *her* son
Damn man. Sorry to hear 🫂
Luckily you didn't wife her up.
Focus on you and what makes you happy..
Shit's fucked up
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🫂💜 much love brother. I know the feels.
Sorry bud.
Horrible situation.
Best of luck to you. 🙏
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You’ll find a way.
"g/f of 10yrs"
"she's not happy here"
dude.
dude...
why didn't you put a ring on it~!?
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sorry
i hope you can turn this around...
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We are always up for more good people :)
this too shall pass. It may seems hard right now but when you look back, you will understand why some people in your life need to leave. Only time can tell what lessons it has installed for you.
We believe in you. 🫂 You got this 💪
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Try to keep a good mindset, it might seems impossible but it's very important you do. Avoid any drugs. Don't get too much attached to the past, aim for a good present and a better future. The reality is we don't control what the universe throw at us, we only control how we react and the best thing you can do now is take care of yourself and your kid. Get inspired to stories like nostr:nprofile1qqsx845ex2wm3cu9d8e93xm282nmpu33emyr5aufu20s5wt8sx7h6usprpmhxue69uhkv6tvw3jhytnwdaehgu3wwa5kuef0qyghwumn8ghj7mn0wd68ytnhd9hx2tcaudpt9. Be strategic with your time, doordash give you the freedom to choose when you work, but you should not be waiting in your car if you don't have any commands so aim for the more lucrative shifts and use the rest of your time to develop your ikigai. I don't want to represent for you a YouTube influencer that you listen to and that you get inspired by for a few days and then get back to old bad habits. Learn about meditation, I always tough it was bullshit, but it's real. You need to learn to be able to calm your mind. You make the best decision when your mind is calm Free from emotions and thoughts. Continue learning about Bitcoin if you like it don't focus on the price, focus on the tech. Bitcoin is full of opportunities right now (teaching, developing products or just saving in it) You must keep believing in love, this is the most important thing of the universe. I hope this will help you. Keep on going ✌🏻
sorry for u brother. shits fucked up
Better day ahead brother. Stay strong. ❤🍀
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The honest truth is, you need to make a plan and get moving immediately. You need to be making 3x more so lean on family to look after your son while you build a bright future. 2026 will be hard and life changing.
My bro has 2 kids that he needs to provide for and lost his job recently as the plant moved from Ontario to Michigan. He only has manufacturing experience and landed a job 40 mins away that started immediately after he was let go. Now he works 9 hour days, 6 days a week and it is shift work. That is grinding and you can do that!
if you're an able bodied man there's no excuse. get to work.
I was thinking the same thing yet in a very much not nicer way of saying it.. so i just left it be.
I wish i knew what allowed me to see that i am making my life happen, as opposed to life is happening to me. I know it’s a tough thing to see when one has been holding onto that reality for so long.
But yes. Get to work young man! The world is waiting
I feel for you, friend 🫂
Wishing you well, and good luck on this new chapter
time to quit drugs and beer entirely and start practicing some sport with others
Cannabis and growing it.... saved me from ending up like the rest of the guys I was homeless with and my cousin Cory....
Dead from an OD.
But yes. I get what your saying and you are correct.
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🫂 I hope things get better for you
Damn, man. How old is the kid?
5
so is it your kid, or another man's?
It's OUR KID.
She's leaving him with me and removing herself from the situation.
"Leaving her kid"
Please excuse my 8th grade English.
You think maybe that might be part of the problem? "Her kid" as opposed to "our kid" indicates that you keep your boy at arm's length because it's his mama's job to raise him fully. It's real easy to blame the mom when she leaves but it's real hard to look at the mirror.
As a mom myself I could never walk away from my child but sometimes people get overwhelmed when they feel like they're doing something alone that should be a team effort.
We both do our part. It's not one sided at all. If we did a side my side, I do alot more than just get his clothes or make some chocolate milk....
Why would I ever keep my son at arms length?
Everyone's reading into "her kid" way to far...
It's her kid. It's my kid. It's our kid.
Again, please excuse my 8th grade English.
Straight to court…
Make sure to get 100% custody of the child…
Make her pay you support…
Stay strong keep your chin up…
Godspeed
Never... that's toxic asf...
The court only cares about getting money from the family(either side)to make sure its harder for the family to function properly... when families function right, the states lose extra slush pool money...
Going right to court would be giving the government the next generation to siphon money from, because the kid learned from mom and dad, and this is what they did kinda scenario...
I have a post coming up later that I'm working on rn that's going to give you the secret sauce to women that I've found after going through this situation...
I haven't had a relationship last shorter than 3yrs and the woman I went after each time, I got...
I've gone through all the msgs etc to see how a loser like me has had that kind of "luck"...
Turns out it's not luck...
I was doing something no other man has done for them... something most men just miss...
Well it's not "her" kid. It's yours. Tighten up your shoelaces, big guy, this will be time to claw your way through. Yu will make it. Because you don't have other options.
And just before xmas? What a stab in the back! I feel for you dude! Big big hug!
"Her son" as in not yours?
yeah the kid is 5, they were together for 10 years, so either she cheated or this is his son and he's calling him "her son."
my husband of 32yrs ( we’ve been together 38yrs) just announced he is starting a new chapter away from us in a message to our 3 sons. They had to break the news to me. ( I hate people who respond to someone’s grief with a bigger one … look at me now)
Damn sorry to hear that, I was in a similar situation and that shit is brutal from every angle. Best of luck
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Sorry to hear that, brother.
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🫂 I wish you much strength and wisdom in this difficult situation. 🫂
The last time I had trouble, challenge in life, I recognised I was sick myself.
I mean. I took full responsibility for it and decided I needed to change.
The key though for me was that it was all repetitive patterns, even though I was blaming other people and thought it was righteous to do so.
The first time was okay. The second time was kind of right.
The third or fourth just felt like I was the one to blame. The repetitive situation with the same characters but different actors. As a bad copy of a copy of the same drama.
Anyway, the key is that I recognised I was sick and needed to heal.
I've been using Dr Joe Dispenza's work.
At first, as I am acquainted with it, I did it on my own, I mean no guided meditations. I just started listening to the huge playlist of testimonials in YouTube, very inspiring and lots of wisdom from common folk.
(Using Newpipe on my phone, nonstop, all day long listening to them)
Then, inspired by all of it, started to meditate.
I really recommend doing the breathwork in which you suck on energy from your spine to your pineal gland and then do the blessing of the energy centers.
When you suck the energy from below and create the ascending electric vortex in your spinal chord, memories and feelings of the past that are stuck there start to float up.
And they can be released. Because the things happening to me were patterns of vibration stuck because of trauma or inheritance, so each brain of my body had absurd softwares installed in them.
The breathwork just allows to pull it up so you can perceive it and release it with a good blessing.
Then whenever those centers are clean, there's space, potential has been restored because they don't "overthink" "overdo" or burn out themselves. There is plenty of energy reaching the pineal gland, so then, it is time to create. So it is time to ask yourself what would you do if you were free. How would you act? How would it feel?
The mere act of asking those questions begin to wire cluster of neurones that were asleep because I was in deep resonant trouble down below in my other centers, consuming and blocking all resources and energy. It's ideas and information. It's all mind.
(In-formation, what are we nurturing ourselves with?)
So after doing this everyday I got in love with the process.
You produce changes in you beyond your wildest dreams. Because during waking life, the neurons responsible for meta-cognition are well awake and trained, so you can tell easily whenever you are lying, overreacting, speaking to yourself narratives that are old and useless. Because when you imagined a vision of your future during meditation you knew what it felt like and you created brain pathways to resignify what happened to you. If the future is bright you have no one to blame because the "damage" you were dealt was perfect for you to arrive to said future. Y'know?. If the future is bright because the present became bright, then you had a perfect past.
Rollercoaster indeed, but perfect.
So anyway my dear Nostrian, I appreciate you. You helped me once I needed it. I remember. I will pray for you. Open to receive and be of faith.
Look within where there is all the answers.
A lot of Dispenza's work is available for free, torrent, telegram or YouTube.
Give it a try.
Tip:
Twice I did meditation with a microdose of mushrooms and it was amazing.
A couple if our brains, on top of the head, have to do with the hability to perceive the infinite, the unconditional love, the spiritual realm and also our hability to trust circumstances, to feel worthy. Most of the times we don't feel worthy and we are constantly suspicious of the things happening. That is we think too much and we think we know too much. But as McKenna said:
Worrying is preposterous. We don't know enough to worry.
And as a shaman said to me once: "now speak beautifully to yourself"
Man, I'm here for support if you need.
I hope your eyes are clean.
Your heart is creative.
Your feet put you where your spirit knows is best.
Love from Patagonia
I was in a similar boat.
I drove my ass across the country and
Got a job. I had a 99 Camry and some clothes, and a frying pan.
Gotta walk the fire.
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Zap for the #pan
I have an 02 prius, like 3 outfits that fit, a bag of weed and a cookie sheet.
I'd be gone on the road rn if It didn't break my son and parents relationship.
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The universe has a way of figuring things out. Doors close and another opens.
I hope you don’t fall into a bottle, but instead go pick up something heavy.
The opportunity will come.
Old you gotta die, to the new you can be born.
I am sorry to hear this, brother. Life is hard sometimes. But you won't struggle forever. The thing you have to do now is work as hard as possible. When you are successful, she will ask to come back to you. Then don't accept her again. Find your world. Congrats! 🫂
Stay strong fren. You will find your balance again. 🔥💯
I’m so sorry man! 🫂
I will be praying for you
If you can pass a piss test and have enough fingers to hold a hammer, these guys are always hiring carpenters and general laborers.
