How to stop in-laws from constantly buying crap for my kids?
Tried to explain but they keep forgetting.
Just end up in closet right now.
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Same situation. You can't. Keep purging the toys as soon as they leave and never talk about them again.
That’s what we do now. But store for a bit and then give away
I don’t know and wish they could channel their affection in ways that better align with your values…
BUT I want to lovingly suggest this is a good problem to have. I imagine they mean well 🫂
It’s a touch pseudo science I also wonder if they have a different “love language” than you do? They might express affection through gifts whereas you all value different ways
They are too afraid to spend time with kids outside the house. Almost never take them anywhere but burry them in toys. I hate it.
I’m sorry to hear that they can’t/won’t engage in some quality time. 🫂😔
I definitely respect your point of view but think for family you need to be more mature than that and do what kids and parents ultimately both want, aka quality time doing games and activities they enjoy, and doing something because it’s what makes you feel better but everyone else dislikes it is just selfish. If your love language makes everyone else miserable that is not an adequate justification imo
Fair enough / Good perspective
I feel you pain. My dad and his wife are coming in a couple weeks and she always brings plastic crap. I'm like Jesus give him Bitcoin
Stop? In-Laws? What?? You just have to keep taking and taking.
Sell it after they leave
Too lazy. End up donating in bulk 🤣
This is a good idea. And send them a “thanks I got $2 for this!!”
That’ll send the message. I’d do this only once you’re so fed up you don’t care about offending them. But then it’s a good plan.
Problem for me was there’s so much cheap plastic crap out there it’s worthless so you can’t sell and even some donation venues refuse to take lots of it. It’s often just literal worthless trash.
That's gonna be an issue if I ever have kids and if my parents are still alive.
Tell them that giving them time or attention in the form of a visit to a local zoo / park will last longer than fiat crap.
They are a bit sensitive emotionally, I have to choose my words carefully.
Sound very familiar 😄, don’t mention the toys then and shift attention by telling them that lately you start to notice that your kids get more joy out of spending time with your relatives and that they talk about those moments all the time. (or even better, let your your kids tell them)
How does your spouse deal with them?
This is a serious problem. I just set ground rules that ensure they don’t buy cheap plastic crap. That pushes the price up, and they usually end up buying less.
That’s a good idea. “You must buy the most expensive version of the toy you’re looking at “ 🤣
Convince them to dump their entire networth into a shitcoin so they lose everything and can't afford to buy crap for anyone. Checkmate.
Get them to use Nostr and make it so they inadvertently read this note.
This is brutal but it got so bad for me I had to bluntly say any crap you buy for the kids will immediately be thrown in the trash. That still didn’t work so I actually did throw the next batch of crap in the trash, and they finally eased up after that. I totally realize this is extreme but the amount of crap was overwhelming and got to a point where I felt like I couldn’t walk around my home so a drastic move felt justified. 🤷
When I’m given things for my child (or even myself) that I’ve told people before are not welcome, I have zero problem donating the items.
I’d patiently keep reminding them, but not let it keep me from getting rid of stuff.
It may be the sentiment that counts, but I can keep the sentiment and discard the clutter just fine.
The donation suggestions here are good. I've done the same.
Get kids to sell for sats on plebian.market
Turn it round