The author of this image values alone time. I value social time. Because I'm almost always alone.
It is hard to increase your "social" as an introverted single adult. But this isn't obvious because childhood and school throws so much social at you that you learn to take it for granted.
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My career is spent helping sick people. Someone always needs something from me at work. Outside that, people come to me for many other things because I'm reliable, educated, wise, and have a reputation for valuing integrity and good character.
As a result, I highly value my alone time. I used to be alone a lot when I was a web developer. Things flipped. My needs changed.
Age isn't the key issue for me. Self-awareness is. Time has given me the experience to develop self-awareness, but that's all age has given me.
Needs change sometimes.
time to move to Florida
although my friend who lives in Miami sent me an article saying that Florida real estate prices are currently crashing
and that maybe it is best to wait a few months before buying ...
plenty of farmland in Florida. and you can drop by on all your favorite shitcoin conferences in Miami when you get lonely.
you would have to trade your boots for sandals though. hot AF !
Thanks. I have other plans though.
In 2006-2008 I was the most alone, in a dead beach town that only sees other people during the Summer when people go visit their summer houses. I learned from that. I'm not so bad off now, but still somewhat below what I would consider ideal.
I interpret it slightly differently. I think the author values both "alone time" and social time - "quality time with loved ones."
To be alone does not equal lonliness. One can be with their own thoughts, do a project, enjoy nature outside, ride bike, listen to music and 1000 other things.
Alone time can be much better option than being with a toxic person, socializing with a person who angers you, who attacks you, with whom you have to fight verbally.
I think thats why the author mentions "quality time with loved ones" for the social interaction which should be enjoyable time.
Just an opinion.
I totally agree with that. But when I read "alone time" it was something I haven't myself craved for decades.
And thats not bad. Hopefully you valued it too because it is valuable. As well as all the other things the authors meantions. And I hope for you to find the right person that will bring you the quality social time and even love. But for that I think we all need a bit of luck and God's blessing.
you're a lucky bastard then.
you should see some people in Manhattan - always running - faking ADHD to get prescription Meth so they can run faster.
i once also got meth prescribed for "adhd" ( i just wanted to lose weight ) and in the office's waiting room were all these fucking high achieving shitheads ( men and women ) - they were all there for their meth prescriptions.
they get ZERO "alone time" no matter what definition of "alone time" you use.
Yeah it's much harder to make friends as an adult because you don't get crammed in with people whether you like it or not. You also have more of a common enemy so it's easier to make friends.
I was not so great at doing stuff alone actually but i've learned it and love it now even though i still think i need to up my social game outside of the wife and kids as well.
Having a wife and kids would be perhaps even too much for me.
Its different when its your property
Wife was easy coming. We dated for 4 years while still living in our own houses. We bought a house together and then some 3 years later our first child was born.
I was always of the opinion i wanted 2 kids because i thought it would be good for them but after the first year of having a baby i had serious doubts if i was fit for this. It took me around 2 years of hard grinding with feeding, changing diapers and providing playful entertainment before i got used to it. It was because of this and a miscarriage that there is 4 year gap between my kids. Second one was just as hard for the first year at least but with a better future in mind it felt easier.
Now i enjoy them and love m to death. They sometimes take a trip for a few days without me and as much as i enjoy my alone time at home as well it also feels way to quiet. Like somehow i have gotten used to and actually sort of enjoy having noisy kids around me constantly.
Alone time in and around the house is sparse but i do go out and hike for a couple of hours a few times a week.
I 💯 percent concur.
thought experiment:
"value alone time, value social time"
perhaps 'value' is not the salient verb.
perhaps 'being' – whether alone or present w/others,
is closer to the meta...bone.
just an aside on us and our verbs.
100% relate to this
