Narcissists use everything they can to manipulate and abuse their target including narcissism.
They will learn everything they can about it and then use this to convince you that you are the narcissist and are abusive.
Just because they can argue, manipulate, lie or gaslight better than you doesn’t mean you are the narcissist. It probably means the opposite.
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This is definitely true. They will call you the abuser and the narcissist and everything else they can.
They of course play the victim because they will not take any accountability for anything.
They'll use everything you ever did to point out how terrible you are. They'll also say that everything they did to you is something you did to them.
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Too many of us thought we found the perfect partner only to realize it was a trap. The education is priceless, but the cost is more than anyone should ever have to pay. It's not too late for anyone to gain freedom from narcissistic abuse. You are worth it and you deserve it!❤️
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Narcissists want us to be continually overwhelmed and busy. It’s very hard to think clearly when we’re in this state. This helps to keep them in control of us.
They will throw everything they can at us to keep us in this state.
It’s essential to take time for you, even if it’s a few minutes. #grownostr
The lies, gaslighting and continuous manipulation makes us questioning ourselves more everyday. We often begin relying on the narcissist for our own truth. Begin trusting and believing in yourself, your feelings and your intuition. This is the path to freedom from their grasp. #grownostr
Narcissists will tell everyone you’re crazy and that you have every problem they can think of and make up. This is to keep people away from talking to you.
This is of course for control. They need to control their image and they want to control you.
If anyone talks to you they might find out the truth. The truth is the last thing a narcissist wants anyone to find out!
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Narcissists simply do not care about anything or anyone else except themselves. They will use anything and everything against you for themselves. Every emotion to them is a way to manipulate and control everyone else. Save your empathy for people who return it and deserve it! #grownostr
Narcissists use the truth, or at least partial truths to sell their lies. They use mistakes we’ve made, bad habits we have, or things we’ve said that are the truth to sell us the lie that we are terrible people or we’re worthless.
Just because we’ve made mistakes or done things we regret does not make us bad people.
Everyone makes mistakes. Good people don’t hold those mistakes against you for the rest of your life especially if we apologized or made amends.
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Narcissists take many different forms. There is almost always a grandiosity about them. With vulnerable or covert narcissists. They must be more of a victim than everyone else. They have gone through worse according to them.
This is why it isn't always easy to spot or recognize them. They are all different. #grownostr
Continuous chaos and overwhelm is how many of us have lived for far too long. Even calm moments make us nervous because we know something else will happen.
Even after getting out of the relationship we are still on edge.
It takes time and work to down regulate your nervous system. It’s something everyone can do though.
It’s not your fault you are here now, but you are the only one that can do the work to get out.
Having help and support makes it easier and faster, but we must still do the work.
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The school of hard knocks is one thing. Learning about narcissists and especially dealing with them was a whole new level. I'm glad I got the education, but I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
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For many of us, we are drawn in by narcissists in the beginning. It takes us time to see what we were actually getting pulled into. It also takes time to get ourselves out of it. They may have sucked us in, but we can also walk our way out and leave them behind. #grownostr
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Narcissists continually expect more from us no matter the consequences to ourselves. Then they will blame us when we have nothing left to give.
Especially if they ever have a crisis in their lives. No matter how empty we are, they still expect us to be there for them. Even though they refuse to be there for us.
It’s ok for us to give to ourselves first and it’s ok not to give to people that expect more from us than we have to give. #grownostr
There is never enough of more. More is the only acceptable answer to a narcissist. It's ok not to give any more especially if you have none left to give. Give to yourself first. This is not easy in the beginning, but it's something we can all learn to do. #grownostr
Some days are simply going to be hard. We will have all the thoughts and feelings continuously running through our minds that simply don’t want to go away.
It doesn’t mean anything has gone wrong. Our minds are simply trying to protect us.
Realize on these days that much of this is just our thoughts and our minds trying to protect us.
The most important thing is how we treat ourselves when we’re going through these days.
Lots of kindness and compassion for yourself. Take some deep breaths and give yourself a hug.
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Narcissists use truth and partial truths to paint the picture of the lies they tell to manipulate and abuse their victims. Using some truth is the easiest way to sell a lie. Just because someone adds truth to their perspective does not mean their perspective is the truth! #grownostr
Narcissists use little subtle things continuously to try and destroy us. Everything they learn is slowly turned around on us in every way they can.
The little things are the big things in these relationships. They slowly erode who we are.
Instead of questioning yourself, begin questioning the intent behind their actions and words.
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Too many people want to offer all their thoughts about what we should or shouldn't be doing. We are the only ones that actually know what's right for us to do. Having the compassion and support of people who care actually allows us the space and safety to make these decisions. #grownostr
Dangerous abusive people continue to need more.
More abuse, manipulation and control. They will continue to escalate everything no matter what we do or not.
I wish this was not true, but it's what I've seen too many people go through.
We can't go along with them so it doesn't get worse. It often gets worse no matter what.
These are situations where we need help and intervention from outside the situation and need to find a safe way to get away from them. #grownostr https://video.nostr.build/cd650137142de4459e4300b6efe3c6f3482f09f3379acceebb60562a2f0cd7d4.mp4#m=video%2Fmp4&dim=544x960&blurhash=%5DIHxHIwI4.IVR5%5DzaK.8IVxuoyRkV%40oMWq.SS44.kCRj00xa-%3Bjs-p%7EWf6IUofM%7BWBWCs%3As%3AWW9Gbbt8oLt7-%3BoyM%7BoeRj&x=063dd9e316dbda0dce6deb39222b6d54e9d1117963c91d336af4577373bdce58