Confronting your partner in healthy relationships about things that aren’t ok is good.
Confronting your narcissistic partner is one of the worst things you can do. They’ll probably turn it around on you anyway. But then they will change their tactics of abuse and manipulation so you don’t see the way they are doing it.
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This is so true and I wish it was easier to find people. They are out there though.
I was always wrong in my relationships, according to them anyway.
Every time I would bring up something in the relationship, I would walk away confused and thinking I was the problem.
Of course this wasn’t true, but it took a long time for me to see what was actually going on.
If you are always wrong when you’re trying to work on your relationship and always confused. It might not be you! Not one person is ever the entire problem in a relationship.
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I realize not all sales people are pushy, but the bad ones are really bad.
If you know this and are not this way, then hopefully you realize I’m not talking about you.
Pushy sales people continue to push and convince you to get you to cave in and say yes.
When you’ve had enough and react to their continuous pushing, they paint you as the bad one that didn’t respond reasonably.
This looks a lot like reactive abuse. I’m not saying it is or it isn’t.
What I will say is that I think with many of these people we perhaps need to respond the same way we respond to narcissists.
Block and delete!
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After narcissistic abuse, we feel like there is more we could or should have done.
Many times, this is simply not true.
We are often doing everything we can in the moment we are in with the skills we have.
Allowing yourself grace and compassion for doing everything you could do is one of the steps in allowing yourself to forgive yourself. #grownostr
We often shame or judge ourselves for grieving the loss of a relationship with a narcissist.
The reality is there are many layers of grief for us, even if it was all fake or a setup for them.
Allow yourself to grieve in all the ways. Allow all the emotions to surface.
Most importantly, allow yourself the kindness and compassion that you offer everyone else.
You deserve it too!
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Narcissists act in ways we may not agree with, but constantly dwelling on their behavior can make us feel worse. Accepting they won't change is part of coping. Instead of trying to fix everything, focus on how your thoughts affect your well-being. Be aware and kind to yourself.
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We all grieve in very different ways and that's ok. It doesn't look the same for anyone. It also looks much different for everything we grieve. Don't look to others or listen to others about how you should grieve. You get to feel the way that YOU feel.
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The isolation of narcissistic abuse not only creates an environment where the abuse can happen. It also makes it much harder to heal because the only reality we know is the illusion presented to us. Finding people outside of the isolation and illusion makes healing much easier. #grownostr
Narcissists continually learn how to hide the cracks in their armor so we don't see through the illusion.
Don't think that just because you spotted how they did something before means you will immediately see it again. They will change it, especially if they know you saw it.
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It’s probably gonna suck and be hard to heal. It doesn’t suck any worse than being in a relationship with a narcissist though and it gets better. Relationships with narcissists only get worse.
It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. You are worth it!
The only thing you actually have to do is make the decision to do it.
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It's not fair. Narcissists move on without consequences. We're left with trauma, abuse, and healing. We find wonderful people, but our past makes healthy relationships difficult. The burden falls on us, but staying stuck isn't fair either. Acknowledge and feel the anger, then focus on shaping your future.
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Narcissists are stuck and they want to keep you there too. They don’t want you moving forward or changing anything unless it benefits them.
They simply want more from you while also only having you in their life when they need you.
It sounds harsh because it is. Move forward with your life anyway. Don’t wait for them. They won’t go with you, they’ll only take from you.
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I watched a movie last night that I hoped would actually get better, but it didn’t.
I realized how similar this is to being in a relationship with a narcissist. We continue to hope and look for the good things. Holding onto every single breadcrumb we get.
It doesn’t get better though and often gets worse.
It’s much easier to turn off a bad movie than to get out of a bad relationship.
One of the first steps is simply recognizing it isn’t going to get better because it hasn’t.
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Narcissists will share things with you to get you to open up about everything that's happened in your life. They remember all these things and will begin using all of them against you in the relationship and after. Share things slowly in new relationships. They don't need to know everything now.
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Narcissists only go to counseling if the counselor will be manipulated or give them what they want.
Which is that nothing's wrong with them and you're the problem. If they don't do that, you can't see that counselor anymore.
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We should feel angry, hurt, betrayed or any other way we feel. Just because it was fake to them, doesn’t mean it wasn’t real for us.
We may even feel we are betraying them or breaking our commitment. The truth is that we had no idea who or what we were actually committing to.
It doesn’t mean we want to feel this way. It’s important for us to actually allow ourselves to feel the way that we do. Then we are able to move on to how we actually want to feel.
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Narcissistic relationships are overwhelming, and that’s the point. In the beginning it’s love bombing and then they begin sprinkling abuse in. This balance continues to change until it’s mostly abuse with a little breadcrumbing to keep you hopeful.
We stay and hope we can get back the way it was. The problem is that was an illusion created to suck you into the relationship and keep you.
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If a narcissist ever tells you they want to go to couples counseling, or coaching, or mediation.
It’s a trap. They will do everything to win over this person and use them against you.
It took time for you to figure out they were a narcissist and it will take everyone else time also, if they ever figure it out!
If you do go, watch for all the red flags just as you would with every narcissist. Although I still don’t recommend doing it unless you absolutely have to.
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