I'm sending you a long and warm hug. ♥️ you're wonderful! you inspire me by being open to really be with people, to be yourself and interact and ask for help if needed.
happy birthday to you! thank you for bringing those meaningful questions here. I love how they always invite me to experience. the last one I answered I cried from the beginning until the end. I was sick and feeling separated, your question made me remember life is amazing and beautiful and I'm inevitably part of it. I hope you also remember that and feel embraced by love everyday. ✨
a sheep inside of a wolf that is also a sheep looking at something that may be the integration of it all
yes! I feel the same. when you shared this I felt like I was reading myself. ♥️
you said you are close, how are you feeling about it all? about her and her child?
I'm sending you a hug!
maybe the best you can do to prepare for helping her is to be aware of what you're feeling and embracing it all, so you can also offer her this love space.
bringing love in many ways*
you are already going, it seems. thank you for bringing love here in many forms every day. I'm sending you a soft hug. I'm with you, watching what hurts come to surface and leave. ♥️
smell some peppermint. 🌿✨ #herbs https://video.nostr.build/9eec5bf89b556563d2f3b3e53976d3415c9c0c9548c3f8455c7cd21d168ae78c.mp4
this is so beautiful! ❤️✨
observing children inspires me to simplicity, honesty and to allow myself to feel all that comes (and writing this with my son sleeping on my lap makes me cry)
seeing people showing their love for each other inspires me to open myself up for just noticing love that surrounds us
noticing sore spots in my body inspires me to listen and to see what is asking for deep changes but I'm resisting
when I feel uncomfortable with someone, it inspires me to find within myself why I can't see the whole person, what is blinding me
I also love that. anywhere feels safer when we can find a nice spot to sit on the floor.
my profile picture was taken on the stairs at my mother's house.
you've been through a challenging and beautiful journey. thank you for sharing, that's inspiring! I'm sending a hug for you and your wife.
may your wife have a wonderful birthday and a loving life for both of you (for what I've seen it already is).
yes. it is a valid response for the pain and confusion you must have felt. we didn't learn in childhood that we could feel whatever came (it's not anyone's fault, they also didn't know), they punished us or distracted us, or told us somehow that our feelings were wrong. so when someone tells us we can say what we are feeling and the person can't embrace it all at the time we feel again like we are doing something wrong just for feeling. but you were not and you are not. if you feel like, start observing what feelings you don't allow yourself to feel, you answered me yesterday about feelings and related that to our body, and that's how I embrace my feelings, observing my body. I think the more we allow ourselves to feel, more open we are to share that with people when we feel like doing.
good morning!
I'm sorry about your marriage.
this subject is something I'm really interested in, and I have a lot to say about my own experiences, so if you want to talk more about feelings and vulnerability I'll be very glad to write more.
it is not easy to face anyone's vulnerability and it's true we are not used to seeing men being vulnerable. and when we face that it's frightening, cause we grew up believing that man we trust would protect us from harm - and this illusion comes with the belief that feeling sadness ou fear, for exemple, is not safe and makes men week.
but to really built a relationship in which both of us can be ourselves, I must allow myself to feel the fear, the insecurities that come when I see my husband being human and feeling all that comes for him to feel. and when I allow myself to feel that, I can truly embrace his feelings and we can support each other.
I started paying attention to this in my life at least seven years ago. in 2017 I wrote something about not feeling fully in charge of my safety when I was with my boyfriend (now husband) and the extra weight he felt like he needed to carry when I just left it up to him. he is very honest and his honesty inspired me to be honest with myself and that was the space I needed to be aware of myself, to really open myself up for feeling whatever comes.
as anyone, we sometimes fear vulnerability, but when we realize that, we can rest and be vulnerable and face our true feelings so they can go and bring fresh air to both of us. as time passes we are more intimate and supportive.
I am open to listen to everyone's feelings. that's really the thing I find most interesting in life, maybe. I'm here if any of you want to talk.
you seem to be describing people who are afraid to delve deeper into themselves. but in my experience, we need connection, and to really be intimate to your partner you need to be able to feel whatever comes for you to feel.
o que em você agora renasce e, em espanto, você pode dar as boas-vindas?
I'm sending you a warm hug! ♥️
and this question: is there any aspect of yourself that you believe is dead and you feel so sorry about it, wishing it was alive (maybe something that your friend represents to you)? it's interesting that it is a fake death, so maybe it's something that has changed but is still part of you.