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That's entirely the point : gender is a social construct, it's just a part of a person's identity, allowing it to be what we want.

If you want to keep your gender aligned to your sex, it's fine. If you want your gender to be something else, it's fine too. People choosing their gender doesn't affect your life, so why do you care?

Sex (or genitals) is indeed a biological reality, but its only importance is for when you want to have kids, else we don't give a damn about what's in people's pants.

If gender is a social construct, then different people can have different opinions on whether it is a social construct, which can be debated, correct?

And if by gender you actually mean "stereotypes of the roles and behaviors of people of different sexes in society" then the words "woman" and "man" are not defined in terms of those stereotypes, so cannot simply be claimed by changing your role or behavior or simply declaring it to be so. They are defined in terms of biological sex.

And please stop using sex and gender as if these 2 terms meant the same thing.

WE KNOW we'll never be biological women, but gender is a social construct ffs

I tried stoicism, it's a wonderful philosophy which helped me so much in my life.

But it didn't help me accept who I'm told I am. I never found myself in the ♂ gender. I tried and tried so hard to fit in it, so hard I hated myself to not being able to "just" be what everyone want me to be.

Stoicism helped me on that only by letting me think for years that "it is what it is" and that the only solution I had was to barely tolerate the individual I am, to just be this default human an just exist in my head.

I am not telling you that you are a monster.

Not liking yourself as you are is something that you can work on, and more positively than pretending to be something that you are not. Through counselling or through #stoicism you can learn to come to terms with yourself. This is the healthy outcome. Creating a fantasy version of yourself and then claiming that you are that thing because you "self-identify" as it is not healthy, it is a delusion, just like people going around claiming to be Jesus.

Nobody "gave you an identity at birth" - your sex was determined by the chromosomes in your DNA when you were conceived, and observed at birth. Your sex, just like your age or your race, is inherently part of your identity and important to determine the kinds of medical conditions that may affect you among many other things.

I would encourage you to find confidence in your actual lived reality rather than trying to live a lie, that is the only way you will truly find happiness as you will always know deep down when you are deluding yourself. That doesn't mean you shouldn't wear dresses if you want to - wear whatever you want, but don't try to claim that it changes what you are.

There is no (or very little) violence against trans people's physical existence. Trans activists have popularized a notion that there is a genocide happening to wipe out trans people, this is the same populist intox that the far right use (great replacement theory, great reset theory, etc).

Arguing against an ideology is not violence, and if you believe that your entire existence and identity is at risk because it depends on an ideology that can be disproved, then perhaps you should consider not basing your existence and identity on an ideology.

I am not telling you that you are a monster.

Not liking yourself as you are is something that you can work on, and more positively than pretending to be something that you are not. Through counselling or through #stoicism you can learn to come to terms with yourself. This is the healthy outcome. Creating a fantasy version of yourself and then claiming that you are that thing because you "self-identify" as it is not healthy, it is a delusion, just like people going around claiming to be Jesus.

Nobody "gave you an identity at birth" - your sex was determined by the chromosomes in your DNA when you were conceived, and observed at birth. Your sex, just like your age or your race, is inherently part of your identity and important to determine the kinds of medical conditions that may affect you among many other things.

I would encourage you to find confidence in your actual lived reality rather than trying to live a lie, that is the only way you will truly find happiness as you will always know deep down when you are deluding yourself. That doesn't mean you shouldn't wear dresses if you want to - wear whatever you want, but don't try to claim that it changes what you are.

you're right, I haven't been called Nazi recently.

but every day I see on the Internet people I don't even know telling that people like me are monsters, telling us we're not what we tell we are ; all this even though I never recognized myself in the identity I've been given at birth, even though I hate myself because I don't look like I'd like to be, and because even if I'd be happy with my appearance, other random people could just tell I'm a monster to shatter all this light confidence I managed to build to try to be happy.

I'm guessing that you have not recently been told that you are a literal Nazi and a hateful person who needs to die in a fire and be banned from society because you happen to be sexually attracted to people with particular genitals and not others.

I'm guessing that you have not recently been told that you are a literal Nazi and a hateful person who needs to die in a fire and be banned from society because you happen to be sexually attracted to people with particular genitals and not others.

Bonjour 💜🌞🤙🏽

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