“Follow” just means that you will ask a relay for this npub's posts directly, because you trust them to not be spam.

Just made this simple diagram to explain how free & paid relays work. You can see the trade-offs of using only free relays: less discoverabilities by others, and a completely useless global feed. At the very least, you should add global feeds from paid relays (they are still free to read), so that you can discover other content. If you want other people to discover your content (people who don't follow you directly), you should pay for at least one popular P2W relay.

I wrote this a while back about happiness. It’s party of a bigger blog post but I thought I’d share this snippet. I’d write it a bit differently today but the core message would remain:

“Money does not bring happiness no matter what anyone says. It does relieve you of despair and help live a better, more peaceful and enjoyable life, but it will not make you happy.

Very few people in the world, if any, know true happiness because they confuse happiness (the process) with happiness (the end state). There is no end state for happiness.

When people ask you if you are happy, it's hard to answer, right?

Your instinct is to say "yes, of course". After all, your day is going fine, you have every comfort you desire and you had a pleasant lunch with a friend. You feel "happy".

But, this happiness fades. Tomorrow you get in a car accident, your car damaged, insurance won't pay out and you miss 2 weeks of work. You are "unhappy".

Some people confuse happiness with being content. You can be content with your place in life, but that doesn't mean you're happy.

The whole debate over happiness is a mute point. Since happiness is a process which is more akin to enjoyment, ultimately there is no such thing as happiness. The word itself should disappear from dictionaries.

Ok, I'm joking. But, you get the point.

When it comes to my life, I strive for satisfaction and contentment.

If I'm satisfied that day, that week, that month, that year, or the last decade, then I've met my "happiness" goals. If I am content with my life, then I'm "happy".

While material wealth can provide satisfaction, the contentment piece is often missing. With wealth, the goal post moves from one spot to another. Once you've achieved a satisfying moment, you have to move to the next, and the next. Each time you have to introduce higher states of satisfaction that require more effort and money.

Eventually, you plateau and satisfying moments from the physical world no longer matter. You seek out emotional attachment and relationships.

This is why so many wealthy people are depressed. No matter how much they spend, they can never reach that emotional attachment provided by love and relationships.

In fact, wealth only complicates those things. Instead of people seeing you for who you are as a person, a new variable is introduced and they see you for your status. With misaligned incentives, it becomes more difficult to form genuine relationships. Thus, contentment is hard to achieve.

I'm going to let you in on the biggest secret everyone is asking about - the secret to happiness.

The secret to happiness is charitable work. Doing things for others, without expecting anything in return.

Charitable acts are secretly selfish acts, whether that person acknowledges it or not.

All humans act in self-preservation. The need to feel good about ourselves. The need for approval. The need for comfort and safety. The need for recognition. All of these needs are driven by self-preservation.

Charity is no different. While we may feel that we do good things for others out of the goodness of our hearts, the evolutionary incentive is to feel satisfied by our deeds. There's nothing wrong with doing good things to feel good, as long as you understand why you're doing it, instead of performing mental gymnastics.”

What's happiness? In my opinion, happiness consists of two parts, one is freedom and the other is contribution. Freedom is to be free from being bound by the desire to be recognized. Contribution is what can be done for others without asking for reward. 💜☘️

Also ChatGPT: Nostr was an early example of a distributed, decentralized communication system that predated modern social networks and messaging platforms. While the Nostr protocol is no longer widely used, its legacy can still be seen in modern communication technologies that allow users to communicate across different networks and platforms. ;)

Finding Happiness ... 🌞

A beautiful woman in an expensive dress came to her psychiatrist, saying that she was depressed and her life was meaningless.

'I'm going to ask Mary here to tell you how she found happiness. All I want you to do is listen to her'

The psychiatrist called the old lady who cleaned the office floors and ask her to share her story with his client.

So the old lady put her broom, sat on a chair and told her story...

'My husband died of cancer. 3 months later my only son was killed by a car.. I had nobody.. I had nothing left.. I couldn’t sleep, I couldn't eat, I never smiled at anyone. I even thought of taking my own life.

Then one evening, a little kitten followed me home from work. Somehow I felt sorry for that kitten. It was cold outside, so I decided to let the kitten in. I got it some milk, and the kitten licked the plate clean.

Then it rubbed against my leg and, for the first time in months, I smiled.

Then I stopped to think ... If helping a little kitten could make me smile, may be doing something for people could make me happy.

So the next day I baked some biscuits and took them to a neighbour who was sick in bed.

Every day I tried to do something nice for someone. It made me so happy to see them happy.

Today I don't know of anybody, who sleeps better than I do. I have found happiness by giving it to others.'

When she heard that, the rich lady cried. She had everything money could buy, but she had lost the things money cannot buy.

The beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are, but on how happy others can be because of you.

Happiness is not a destination. It's a journey. Happiness is not tomorrow, its now.

Happiness is not a dependency, its a decision. Happiness is who you are, not what you have.

週末愉快

一个问题，Nostr 是联邦制吗？

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猜单词是外国人老传统了，报纸总有一块牛皮癣是给猜单词留着的。

彩票机器人是哪个？

坐等Damus下一版本更新，GlobeFeed将得到根本净化。存在即合理，他们的坚持来源于成本很低还是回报很高？总之目前没有看到有质量的广告…

他们有木有作受众分析…很好奇他们的转化率到底有多少？或者说他们不关心这些只是作为投放的渠道，反正花的不是自己的钱…还是说这些垃圾信息其实就是被拿来污染阻碍nostr网络形象的，细思极恐…🫤

Nostr协议是开放的，任何人都可以建relay和客户端，假如你连接到发送垃圾信息的人故意所创建的relay上，自然会不间断收到垃圾信息。

某种程度上，Nostr协议生态里垃圾信息存在是无法避免的。

正如优质内容存在是无法避免的一样。

Nostr协议是对称性的。

并没有人去定义何谓垃圾信息，你理解的垃圾信息，别人可能未必如此理解。

Nostr协议并不试图定义垃圾信息是什么，一切交给客户端和中继器自行裁定。

这也是Nostr协议为何如此美的原因，

它具备一切伟大事物皆是优美简洁的共同属性。

更为主要的是，你永远消灭不了Nostr协议。

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实际不是结合体 应该说是从不同角度看 有不同系统的影子

个人理解 我觉得三者都是

图1是nostr微观示意图 从单个relay的角度看 一群用户连接一个relay

图2类似网络上的多个relay不同人连接不同relay

图3是用户之间的关注网络 关注群体形成一个小的生态圈