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on a journey to be the best good boy 🐱🐾

Nuestra SeƱora de la Santa Muerte

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without trust, there can't be vulnerability

without vulnerability, there can't be authenticity

without authenticity, there can't be a deep, profound connection

and without that connection, love can't blossom

so, in a way, i think it's a response to integrity

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Just sharing something personal I wrote this morning, more for my own release than anything else:

"It's a lot easier for me to forgive others than it is to forgive myself.

Someone asked me the other day, as part of a process, to make a list of people who had hurt me in my life. That was one of the most awkward things I’ve ever been asked to do - because, I just don’t remember. I don’t hold on to those things in such a way. Honestly? Sometimes I wish I did - but I’ve always tried to understand why people act the way they do, even if I wouldn’t, and especially I aim at understanding what part I may have played in it, if any.

I do connect certain reactions or feelings, when they arise, to past experiences or moments that left a mark in me, but for healing and processing, not blame. Ultimately, I don’t retain names or moments in a way that fits into a question like that.

My selective memory protects me, but at the same time, it doesn't do that with my own actions. I can point out when I hurt someone, directly or indirectly. I remember the moments I was told, and those I understood by myself. They are the biggest lessons for me.

A slight problem is, I may neglect my own context, how I was truly feeling at the time - and although that doesn't justify everything, is interesting to experience how I bring such understanding to others but not to myself. How I put myself aside to make space for someone else's truth. Both can co-exist.

I’m still learning that I need to be careful with how much blame I absorb, as sometimes I make myself responsible even when I don't have to.

I have to stay mindful of that - not only to avoid overcompensating, but to be kind to myself too." ā¤ļø

All this to say, sometimes we must unlearn what is inherent to us.

#coffeechain #grownostr #self-reflection

thank you for sharing <3

it resonates with me in some aspects.

i think for me, many of the times i've hurt someone is because i was hurting—because of that person or not.

and much of that pain was caused because i was unable to identify, express, or maintain my own boundaries.

"How I put myself aside to make space for someone else's truth. Both can co-exist."

beautifully written

<3

a beautiful way to highlight the generosity and selflessness of love~! "incline the balance" — excellent description. ^.^

#asknostr

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i don't understand

we have some milk in the...

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surrender

a space that feels safe to be vulnerable

where there's no need to hide

where imperfections can be revealed are met with grace

"Animals have sex; eroticism is exclusively human."

~Esther Perel

#quotes #eroticism #relationships #blackandwhite #nsfw #grownostr

some people are really out there living their best lives.

just a reminder:

never stop chasing your dreams :3

~John William Waterhouse (c. 1900) The Siren

#art #artstr #painting #paintstr #grownostr

"tell me what to do" (tell me what you need) is not as attractive as simply being attentive.

do you agree?

what would (or does) this look like for you?

#relationships #intimacy #grownostr #asknostr

when you change the wifi password *again* and "op-sec" doesn't cut it for Her

#FLR #grownostr

there's nothing better than romantic kissing by the lake <3

from here—i see You

i see Your struggles, Your fears, Your doubts, Your anger, Your anxiety, Your hurt

i see You

i see Your courage, Your resiliency, Your wisdom, Your kindness, Your strength, Your love

i see You

and i love all of You

#relationships #love #grownostr

i yearn for freedom—

to own my life and to pursue,

my hopes, dreams, and what i find true.

i yearn for freedom—

but in Her presence, what i find,

my soul, Her will—become aligned.

i yearn for freedom—

though not found in wind or ocean,

but in servitude—devotion.

i yearn for freedom—

to live life to its fullest joy,

in Her love—to be Her good boy.

the human spirit—it wants to be free;

yet around Her finger i long to be.

#poem #poetry #poemaday

#FLR #FemaleLedRelationship #grownostr

i sometimes long for that space.

where everything dissipates and it's just Her.

where gravity itself yields to Her magnetic allure.

where i no longer feel the pressure to provide.

where i only receive.

Her playfulness.

Her frustrations.

Her rage.

Her sorrows.

Her tenderness.

Her love.

where every touch, every scratch, every stroke, and slap, and kiss feel charged.

where the sensations of the restraints keep me secure in Her field lines—connected.

where i don't have to be me anymore.

only Hers.

where there's nothing else left.

only surrender...

#FLR #FemaleLedRelationship #Relationship #Relationships #RelationshipGoals #Marriage #Love #Romance #intimacy #subspace #submissivemen #grownostr