My father was a man who believed that "nothing is illegal until you get caught".
If I ever wondered about my disdain for authority along with my ability to detect a morally bankrupt person, I learned it from him. I first learned who not to be long before who I want to become.
The cherry on top is this, and he said, "if you do get caught, make sure you can buy your way out".
Yea, he was that kind of guy.
My dad used to say this. He also occassionally gave me explosives for my birthday.
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Learning who not to be is important.
I mean, on many cases i don't know what i will do, but i know what i will not do...
I got a pizza party for when he was called in for things they suspected I did but couldn't prove. Only got punishment if I was actually caught which was rare.
He also had us repeat mantras such as "Possession is 9/10ths of the law" and "If force is necessary maximum force is necessary".
He was both a really great father in some ways but a really terrible father in others. I love him very much but accept that after 10 years of being shunned, we probably aren't going to have a relationship again. I hope you're doing ok with your dad. It's hard to have hard family.
The problem is that when you commit crimes, it is often not up to you whether you get caught. Being that kind of criminal means letting your enemy be responsible for your well-being. Not a great idea!
I ask you, though. Isn't that the usual particularly for Switzerland and nearby countries? Over here that does exist disguised as charisma. Immoral people here want to circumvent any barriers by bullshit speech their way.
I think that's how it is everywhere, tbh. If you can garner that kind of confidence in what you choose to do, it's definitely possible.
My dad understood your father's philosophy perfectly (he was a stock broker), but never displayed that or any other similar outlook while being home. Maybe, he thought it'd be wiser if I experienced life's craziness, and learned on my own how to detect morally bankrupt individuals? Maybe, he understood how toxic it would be to share such an outlook with his kids at such an early age? Idk🤔. I kind of want to ask him now, though. Also, people who sustain this line of thinking almost always seem to be unaware that they've already been "caught" technically. There's just no reason, atm, to expose what they've done.
One of the things he said to me was, "Do as I say, not as I do."
I spent very little time with the man and when we did, he trying to tell my brother and I, "Don't be like me" and that we get to decide that when the time comes.
I have never met anyone who was as authentic as he was. He was good at being bad and he accepted and really embraced that. He also knew it will eventually catch up to him.
Your father and I may have more in common than I thought: I feel as if I've always been authentic most of the time (because everyone has, at least, a pinch of phoniness in them), and I know that I was good at being bad, which I did accept and embrace for a long time (service years), just like your dad.
FYI, I can't help but respect your dad a fair amount, for being able to embrace his bad side and still raise good children. Not my style, for sure, but still... need to respect the outcomes🤷.
For sure. I think he had more impact on us for being mostly absent than being around.
My dad used to say, if you're going to get caught, at least make them work for it XD. Things were different when/where he grew up. I've had my fair share of silliness but managed to stay on the outside of a prison cell for now. Still plenty of time for that to change though
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this is not the only reason why you are the strong woman you are today
