I'd be careful with this line of reasoning. I've been an INTJ most of my life & would probably have agreed with you 3 years ago. I ignored my feelings as being irrational & emotional. That's now changed & I trust my feelings far more than my rational mind. I often ask why I feel a certain way but I rarely dismiss them.

The people that win have better beliefs. Beliefs come before emotions, thoughts & actions. They shape your reality (there is no objective reality but there is a shared reality).

The people you're talking about have limiting beliefs. They believe an individual can choose their gender & everyone else should respect that choice. They believe everyone else should adopt their beliefs because they don't choose their beliefs. They get them handed to them from the WEF via the latest programming.

When you argue with them, you immediately challenge their beliefs which illicits an emotional reaction. You're essentially challenging their reality & they perceive it as a direct attack.

The core problem isn't emotions. It's the layers upon layers of divergent beliefs you're trying to cut through.

Cognitive dissonance will eventually destroy their fragile reality. Many felt that during COVID which sent people one of 2 ways. They either doubled down on the irrational beliefs or they broke down & reassessed some of them.

Don't dismiss your emotions as irrational. They arise from external stimuli filtering through your beliefs. Emotions arise first & then your thoughts arise to justify your emotions. Any good salesman knows this consciously or intuitively. Sell to their heart & their mind will close the deal.