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Men tend to find women attractive, that remind them of the average women they already know, but with more-averaged features. The mid of mids is kween.👸

But, in contradiction to that, they won't consider her highly attractive, unless she has some spectacular, unusual feature. They'll sacrifice some averageness to acquire that novelty. This is why wealthy men (who tend to be highly intelligent -- and therefore particularly inclined to crave novelty because they are easily bored) -- are more likely to have striking-looking wives and girlfriends, rather than conventionally-attractive ones. They are also more-likely to cross ethnic and racial lines, when dating.

Men also seem to each be particularly attracted to specific facial expressions or mimics, which might be an intelligence-similarity test, as persons with higher intelligence tend to have a more-expressive mimic. So, people with similar expressions tend to be on the same wavelength. Facial expessions also give men some sense of perception into womens' inner life, which they otherwise find inscrutable.

Hair color is a big deal (logic says: always go blonde), as is breast-size (bigger is better), and WHR (smaller is better).

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TKay 10mo ago

We are a simple bunch. 185 words is more than enough to describe what’s going on.

Now do women.

Laeserin 10mo ago

Women like tall men with wide shoulders and backs, narrow hips, and strong legs. They like muscular men, but aren't as obsessed with big, bulging muscles, as men themselves are.

They prefer faces that tend masculine, but not overly so. They are generally flexible about coloring and ethnicity, but will be obsessed with one type of man (the one she is with or wants to be with), but they adapt quickly and switch type, when the opportunity arises. This seems to be a genetic artefact of bride-stealing and war capture, and underlies Stockholm Syndrom (which is just women adapting to their circumstances, rather than a mental disorder).

They are turned on by aggressive, slightly frightening men (but not creepy ones; difficult to discern the difference), but don't like to keep them around for long because they get tired of being scared all the time and worry that he'll shake the baby and sleep around. (He will.)

They like witty, wealthy, intelligent men (but I repeat myself) and are disgusted by anything craven or overly emotive.

They like being "allowed" to work, if they want to, but sometimes chafe at "having" to work, as they usually consider that his job.

They want him to lead, by making all the important decisions, so long as she agrees with those decisions.

Women are complicated.

SuiGenerisJohn 10mo ago

This is so well written. The paradoxical and sometimes orthogonal design of male-female desires and decision making is like the creative-destruction engine that pushes humanity forward. Really magical.

purrs_for_Her 10mo ago

it truly is.

this is the line that did it for me:

"They want him to lead, by making all the important decisions, so long as she agrees with those decisions."

i could write an essay on this and still not figure out exactly what i’m trying to express, but this is why i prefer female leadership—it *kinda* cuts through some of that noise.

i guess i could sum it up in one question:

"what do you want to eat for dinner?"

She doesn't truly want to know what *i* want for dinner (most of the time), what She's typically looking for is one of two things:

1. help Her figure out what She wants to eat (present options)

2. free Her from the burden of making every detailed decision

either way, it shows Her that i'm engaged and not being passive in the relationship.

SuiGenerisJohn 10mo ago

This is the perrenial conversation all couples have to deal with. It's like the Japanese Ko-an that breaks your brain and which can only be answered by subtle and unspoke mutual submission so that your minds can triangulate on tacos.

purrs_for_Her 10mo ago

lol 😹

what is life?

...

tacos.

Laeserin 10mo ago

😂

But, like, if you can figure out what she wants to eat and suggest it, on the first try, she'll be like OMG HE TOTALLY UNDERSTANDS ME WE ARE SOULMATES.

SuiGenerisJohn 10mo ago

As I've said before, Im pretty much convinced I got my wife making her pasta.

purrs_for_Her 10mo ago

lol

ugh...

out of roughly 4,000 days of marriage, i've only gotten it "right," on the first try, a score or so...

;_____;

eliza 10mo ago

These topics have always been hard for me because I feel like I have no idea what’s going on. 😂

Laeserin 10mo ago

🫂

I wish I didn't know what's going on.

eliza 10mo ago

Maybe I don’t even want to know 😂

Ľḭṿḙśƫṟãɖãṁṹṧ💫#RunCoreV30 10mo ago

I’ve never been picky of who I find attractive. There’s outward beauty in all variety.

It’s just the je ne sais quoi that puts some at a more attractive level. And that could be a quirk a scar a smirk a goofiness.

I guess I proved your point

Laeserin 10mo ago

I guess the point is that men find most women attractive, according to a rather predictable schema, but aren't motivated to to pursue some particular woman unless she sticks out to him for for some particular reason or due to circumstance (opportunity).

And a woman having unusually beautiful eyes or a charming smile completely destroys all models, but is difficult to account for, because it includes an expression made in some particular time and place.

Men don't find high intelligence per se attractive, which is a big difference to women, and something I find confusing.

Ľḭṿḙśƫṟãɖãṁṹṧ💫#RunCoreV30 10mo ago

Not necessarily true for all men.

A highly intelligent woman is very desirable. Men that lack confidence might not

Laeserin 10mo ago

Highly-intelligent men tend to find highly-intelligent women attractive, but men don't generally find a woman more-attractive because she's more intelligent.

jo 🇺🇸 9mo ago

i see it differently