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Please eplain. When dealing with an abusive parent, love had no place in that battle. Loving him didn't stop my fear, loving myself didn't.

Amanda 1y ago

Hard to experience abuse from those who are supposed to protect you. Now we can nurture those parts onus that weren’t as children.

Love of self is a battle worth pursuing imo. But have to feel all the feels en route. Never alone, always connected to source. It’s the journey of remembering who we are. Love is the ultimate tool. Allow for it when ready. Bit by bit. Nature, meditation, energy work, clean living, movement = greatest teachers for me.

Remember to zoom out. We aren’t the abuse or distractions or drama. We are miraculous beings / consciousness experiencing what it is to be human. And being human is an ugly, yet beautiful experience. Allow love to shine light on the darkness and feel what needs to be felt / process. Be patient and gentle with self. 💪💫🌞

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Troy 1y ago

Ummm, you never explained how you were able to apply love to remove fear. Loving myself in that situation (or any other) did not address my fear.

However, maybe you were referring to applying love in some other fashion? I keep seeing this "love vs fear" paradigm mentioned, but when pressed for details, the promoter has nothing to say because they're not speaking from personal experience. An example can never be given.

I am honestly investigating this realm, and writing about the topic in detail. So please, I ask again, give me an example of when loving something eliminated fear. I am curious if there is a case of that happening, what the context is, and what the parameters are.

Amanda 1y ago

Love something, even an idea of your future, more than the fear your current self is holding and eventually you love yourself (and higher self) more than any fear.

Lmao I’ve been to the depths of my own hell. If I were promoting something I’d tell you what to do. It’s different for everyone. We have to decrypt ourselves.

I’ve shared as much as I’m comfortable or sharing in public forms on other posts.

Fasting, somatic work, cranial sacral, meditation, sweat lodges, movement, ditched drinking long ago, time alone in nature…

So many things to try. But must have the will and curiosity to experiment. It’s a process and pain surfaces to be felt before it can dissolve. With time, transmuting becomes more efficient. Decrypt yourself. No one can do it for you. It sucks. It’s wonderful. Enjoy the ride!

Eastern body western mind is a nice book for a baseline if just starting.

Troy 1y ago

If loving something more than you fear worked, then no child that unconditionally loves their mother would experience fear.

Amanda 1y ago

Try the things and more that might work better for you (that book has ideas) for a solid year. A lot of us have been through a lot and it’s a lot of work to heal. Anyone can do it. Lots of people on nostr have good ideas/ things that work for them as well.

Troy 1y ago

You seem to be having a different conversation. I'm not asking for help or healing.