Fight with wifey and not sure why
I know healthy couples fight sometimes but I hate this kind 😞
Open to any words of wisdom from other married/long-term-relationship folks out there 😕
Discussion
Hash it out and don’t go to bed mad at each other. But if she needs some space, give her some time.
She may be pissed off at something else and you happened to say something that just set her off.
It happens. Give her some space and for God’s sake, don’t try to “fix it”.
That’ll just piss her off even more.
yes, good advice
Have you tried zapping her yet?
No, but really, like #[2] said, give some space. While you’re doing that, see if you can prepare something as a sign of affection and peace offering. Is there something (big or small) she likes that can show that you still care even though there was an argument?
Bingo
Paging the #babechain
Clueless dude could use some guidance
#[2] #[3] #[4] #[5] #[6] #[7]
Trying to decide whether “go try to talk” or “wait and give space” is the move
Meanwhile feel like shit cuz I love her and was excited to hang out ☹️
Talk to her!! Doooooo ittttt! It’s just a woman.. we don’t bite much. Although.. #[8] spanks.. so watch out for her!🤣
No, give her and yourself some space for now. Allow things to cool a little before talking about it again.
What did YOU …. DO?
Still in “give us both space” mode but gonna try the talking thing soon
That’s the hardest option… cuz it’s vulnerable… and puts my heart on the line too…
So naturally, it’s probably the right call
Thanks friends. I’m gonna give that a shot 💜
Depends if you’ve both had some drinks? Sometimes it best to allow the dust to settle. She knows you love her, but right now she’s mad so let her cool off a little.
Good point! Drinking factor 🤔🤔
Communication is hard sometimes. Jus go in with cool 😎 head, be kind, keep note of body language, if she’s physical person.. give her a hug 🫂. Kno her love language.. if don’t kno what that it.. search it up. People respond best in their language
Joking btw.. about what ya did. 🫂 love is hard. Fighting happens. Ppl get misunderstood. It’s what you do after the fight that counts. Love finds a way❤️💜🧡
🫂 I know
Just trying to open those channels so love can win
Shit’s not always easy 😕
But worth it for sure ❤️
Fkin rights! Shiiii is hard. Do u love her…? I think YES… so go w your gut. Like #[7] said, depending on amount alcohol involved, use judgment. Are you sitting alone @ bar by urself? Did she leave & go home?
Love her the most. Both home. Dif rooms that’s all. Not too much to drink. Just a lot of feels I guess
Not trying to whine but man this sucks
Talking round 1 went nowhere
Back to give—each—other—space—mode 😕💬
Yes, just give it some space for now. Tomorrow this will look much better ⚡️
Whoops sorry wrong emoji 🫂
Ok. Then back off. It jus gonna cause pain.. take two step back.
BEGIN:
Text: “hey, jus wanted say im sorry, I wanna make this right, please text me tomorrow when you ready to talk, give us some space to settle. Love you. Good Night.”
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Space. 60% of the time, it works every time.
Ok what if she’s offended by space
If she left the room then that wouldn’t seem fair 🤔 course you could pull a #[3] and try a giant inescapable bear hug, but from experience that route is very hit or miss…but when it’s a hit it really works! 😅
Try farting. 50-50 shot she either laughs or gets even more angry.
FARTING ONLY MAKES HER HAPPY IF SHE IS ALREADY IN A GOOD MOOD. IF HER MOOD IS NOT TOP TIER, FARTING WILL ALMOST CERTAINLY MAKE THINGS VERY WORSE.
Inescapable bear hug combined with a big fart. What a Chad. 🤙
You two 💜🫂
Farting with a big hug will be the next strategy. Appreciate the chuckle on a tough night ❤️
It’s no point arguing she is right. Just apologies and move on. Life’s too short. From a boomer with a mountain of experience in this genre
Hugs 🫂 help
Try to understand each other and why you each hold different views.
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it's good i'm not in trouble
Sometimes it’s more important to give them the win even if you are certain they are wrong.
I was wrong this time lol
Been there man, many times. I don’t know your situation, but generally if someone is mad and wants to talk about it then ask, listen, think, then talk.
If they are mad and don’t want to talk, don’t push, but be available.
And don’t be defensive (can be a challenge!), it’s your wife, you’re ultimately in it together.
Listen and don’t try to provide a solution. Just give your support.
Ask her to take a 5-10 minute break. Come back and hug her, remind her why you both fell in love. Never go to bed mad.
Helps 🫂💜🙏
We both work to make sure we’re in ‘wise mind’ before we work on resolving things. It’s helped us tons. Allowing to ‘start over’ when things have gotten hot. Using space and texting each other because tone is easier to control via text when you’re pissed. Three deep breaths (‘4-7-8 breathing’) is physiologically enough to lower anyone’s heart rate to calm down.
🫂 it’s gonna be ok. 🫂
Give space for now while there's high emotions. After the dust settles, if you're still not sure why it happened then maybe bring it up.
Something along the lines of: Without
claiming that "something's up", but you notice that something is different, and you're asking if it makes sense why you'd feel that way.
That's how I've approached situations where I'm not sure what's up
It’s complicated 😂.
Sorry don’t have any great general advice. Maybe just keep looking at yourself 10x as hard as you do with your wife? 🤷
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Very sound adobe 🫂
It’s hard. I do think space works wonders during, after & to prevent arguments. No right way but I guess they prove you are willing to work it out. Otherwise we’d just walk away right?
Fights are normal and healthy, IMO. Never having a disagreement or argument would be very odd. It's what happens next after the fight is what showcases strong and loving relationships. You can talk and discuss the issue and work it out. Or in my case, I say something dumb, my wife laughs, tells me she can't stay mad at me, and we both giggle and forget what the fight was even about. Sometimes I fuck up. Sometimes she does. Admitting you were wrong and that you want to move past it means that you care about the relationship, and realize that in the grand scheme of things, this is just a tiny blip in what's otherwise been many, many years of sheer bliss together. 💜
Thanks, Derek 🫂🫂💜
Also, a game changer for my wife and I was to see our differences as a strength instead of weakness or incompatibility. I’m sure you’ve heard that though.
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Yep, I agree with everyone on the importance of putting a bookmark in the conflict when it’s time to, and going back to being on the same team for bedtime or whatever is more urgent. Better yet, staying on the same team the whole time if you can.
You can do it! 🫂🫂🫂
Damn ): my advice would be horrible here.. bc I’d just make memes about the situation n send em in hopes laughter fixes it so then the convo can be eased into
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Don't go to bed angry. It festers.
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Amazing episode about marriage. It didn’t even start on that topic but around 45 mins it makes a hard turn and spouts some of the greatest advice about marriage I’ve heard. Highly recommend listening.
Keep working at the relationship, both of you. It’s worth it!
Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu
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“A HOME is where you go when you’re upset / angry. Always remember that she’s your HOME”So take some space , give sometime to each other and SORRY is a wonderful english word which always brings each other closer 🫂😉💜
Buy some gifts / dinner / flowers
Bury the hatchet 🧿
Thank you for coming to my TedTalk 🙏😜
Some beautiful words, thank you my friend 🫂
by the end of the day i pray it’s all good brother 🫂💜
We worked things out this morning 🫂
