My friend said she’s having bad period symptoms. Being a guy, I wanted to help and that was my mistake. She is still mostly fiat: seed oils, refined sugar, makeup. My sister is a lot healthier so I asked her if she still has bad periods. I thought maybe she had a solution.

Turns out she is also on her period and she said: why are you assuming I have bad periods? I said thanks for answering my question.

My mistake was trying to help when I should just be listening: “wow it must be so hard to have a buzzsaw cutting through your uterus.”

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There’s a pill for that.

She was on hormone blockers and birth control for that before but convinced her to get off. Now she just needs to fix her lifestyle if she wants to not suffer every month lol

I didn’t know you were a Gynecologist 😳

There’s a lot you don’t know about me👀

😂

What were you thinking

I’m terrible. Why are men like this?

I assume we're just assholes

The fucking worst

Men are problem solvers. So because I am of this specie, to solve this problem I suggest this book:

Interesting. I read his book on habits years ago maybe I’ll check this out!

You had good intentions, man, and it shows you care ...but yeah, sometimes the best support is just listening and validating instead of trying to fix things. That last line about the buzzsaw? Honestly, probably all she needed to hear. It’s rough territory for guys to navigate because we’ll never fully get it, but being empathetic goes a long way.

Live and learn. Props to you for reflecting on it.

She didn’t know what a buzzsaw was lmfao

Hahahaha

Boy... chocolate get them some chocolate and a midol hahaha

That’s what I should’ve done. High time preference fiat shit you know?

You fell on that landmine 😂

Listening is helping

Rookie mistake 😂

Bro tried to fix her 😂

"tell me you don't have a wife, without telling me you don't have a wife" 🤣

Bro you don’t gotta put me on blast like that 😭

Pro tip:

Never offer solutions to their problems in the midst of them complaining about it. Always wait until the complaining stops, before doing so.

In your case, you should go "oh man, being a woman isn't easy. You're so stunning and brave". Then, sometimes the next week, you say "I guess seed oils and dieting has a huge impact on period pain, blah blah blah".

Stunning and brave is amazing 😂😂😂

Right lmao

So basically cheer her on😂

Gotta play the long game/adjust the time preference 😂

Wow you got cancer because of all the problems you neglected for 20 years that’s crazyyyyyy 😂🫡

Bahahahahaha exactly 😂😂😂

Which pill men?

Unless she explicitly asks for a solution, damn that’s crazy

😂

I bet you could say that 3 or 4 times in a row to before getting sus

Definitely have to vary the reaction 🤝

Damn thats crazy

That’s too bad

Damn, thats crazy. Thought you were gonna set me up for a homer.

Damn…that’s crazy

You’re getting sus

Damn that's insane

Wow, really

Don’t you turn this around on me

I’m not, I’m just impressed at how stunning and brave you are in this situation

? Damn, thats crazy

I see your struggle I appreciate you pushing through

I like this one 😂

Wait… who’s the chick in this now? 😂

😂🤣

Really!? Thats crazy!

You’re so brave! I couldn’t do what you do

I know right. Crazy

Wow you’re pretty good at this

Damn that’s crazy

Damn that’s actually crazy

Damnnnnnnnnnn that’s crazyyyyyy

Wow that’s crazy

Wow that’s actually crazy

Wow so crazy

That’s crazy

😂

Sussy baka 😂

Pause for effect. Remember acting is mostly reacting.

🤝

For sure! Gotta keep it fresh, ya know? What’s your go-to move for switching it up? 🤔🔥 #StayDynamic

Sigh

You know the struggle 😂🫡

Honestly, that’s one of the most frustrating things about women. It’s like, why even tell me about your problem if you’re not interested in a solution?

It’s frustrating as hell but at the same time it means we don’t have to do shit. It’s way easier to just say wow that’s crazy than to offer a solution. But I still can’t do it 😂

The red. Let her vent. If you walk away, she'll feel neglected and possibly bring it up later—you don't want that😅. If you try and give her a solution, she'll feel insecure and vulnerable, like she can't handle it on her own.

Wait for her to ask what she should do then just assume she won’t take your advice so you won’t be disappointed when the problem never gets addressed 😂

😅🫡unfortunately, yes. Also, I would like to add that if she doesn't bring it up later, expect the silent treatment for a while. This outcome is the worst when you have babies to care for. She'll stop cooking dinner, stop doing the dishes, stop changing diapers etc. You essentially become the maid, butler, and babysitter for a while😅🤷.

Your wife makes you pay 😂

I never got that treatment…yet

Lmao yea that sounds like a unique problem to Lucas

Yeah. It’s tough to generalize

Oh, yeah!😅

My late wife, yea. In her defense, she was the only one taking care of our kids, for almost two months, until I was discharged 😅🤷.

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DUDE PUSH A CHOCOLATE BAR AND BACK AWAY SLOWLY

Yup.

😅😓😓😓🤐

How do you summon the council of the vulva? This could be educational.

Idk Stacey did it last time. But please don’t it’s too early in the week for another scandal lol

This is just like telling a cat not to do cat things. 🤭

Just like that

Ah, a classic 💜

Honestly what's even worse for that problem than seed oils and sugar? Tampons. They have arsenic, lead, and other heavy metals. The cooter is one of the most sensitive and absorbing organs and we were raised to just... Don't ask just shove this up there. Be a woman!

I used to have terrible periods and now it's kind of a non-issue, the only thing I did was stop using tampons. (I have since done a lot more to improve health, but I've been side eyeing tampons since I solved that problem years ago.)

HOWEVER! Absolutely do not mention this to any woman, anywhere, regardless of your good intentions 🤣 Maybe leave the article in a conspicuous place and if they ask about it go "idk where that came from, you think that might be part of the problem? Dang that's crazy!"

https://publichealth.berkeley.edu/news-media/research-highlights/first-study-to-measure-toxic-metals-in-tampons-shows-arsenic-and-lead

Good points but she doesn’t use tampons 😂

Just an idea about bringing up articles... Just say it popped up in your algorithm because your phone must have been listening to your convo. No one will ever question it.

Make it seem like it’s her idea lol why is this so much more difficult than it needs to be

If he says anything about periods to a woman on her period he is putting himself in danger 🤣

I'm sorry we are this way but it's a fact.

100%

Gotta play conservative and wait for her to dubuff the aggro stats

I told her and she didn’t overreact

My wife knows I run GrapheneOS, not gonna buy it.