This last times have been hard for me. I thought something was wrong with me, probably depressed, since I have been highly unmotivated.
However, came to the understanding that is just the aftermath of shadow work !
#HealingJourney
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Take more naps 😴
Screw the world
I can't take more naps...I get pain in my body for staying too long laying !
Especially in my lombar region.
But, I won't "punish" myself for not getting things done. Gentle compassion, self nurture and one step at a time. 🫂😋🤗🙌
Be kind to yourself
I don’t lie when I nap 😴. I sleep in my recliner, sitting
I don't have one....lol
And even being able to afford it, there's is no room for it ! 😆😂
My recliner and TV are my life 😀
My life now is to be a caregiver....in between, I am able sometimes, to get away....
Last time I was at my friends house, I woke up and automatically get myself into mood to get out of bed, take care of medicines and breakfast to my father. Then it hit me...
I am not at home....sigh....
20 minute power naps are amazing. Especially if you have kids.
I am a single mum. I understood after a while, if I don't go to rest as soon as kids go to sleep, they have these special clock that makes them awake as soon you finished doing the work and ready to nap....lol
That’s a good strategy … nap 😴 when the kids are napping 💤
You have to learn to switch off … disconnect from the world. That’s why I quit my 9-5 job and now work from home. I earn less, but I am able to switch off a lot more … I just take a nap 😴 whenever I need to disconnect
I have people that depend on me.
To make a change, when we have people at our care ( I am a single mother with a daughter and 2 grandsons), and being my own support net, it's difficult not to fear the consequences of changing life decisions..
If it goes wrong I loose my stability and have no one to rely on.
If I was alone, I would be fearful yes, but it would be different, because the impact it's only my responsibility and I could take it.
It's a man's world, still. With my age, and as a woman, is very difficult to be accepted in a new job. Young people and without family take preference.
That’s why I made a conscious decision to stay single. I can’t handle the stress of raising a family with a 9-5 job. I’m just saving for retirement and I think my savings are enough. The flip side is that I’ll have to take care of myself when I’m old even if money is not an issue. I must stay mentally capable to take care of myself
Mentally and Physically, you can't forget both are important.
I was too lost when young to make conscious decisions. My parents where both absent. I made a lot of mistakes and had to grow up fast to be able to take care of myself and to become independent as fast as I could. No emotional support, and emotional needs being dismissed, with silence or upfront dismissal, and plus, every help, coming with a charge....
This are just facts. It's how my family dynamic works and I have accepted without blame.
I had a long way to be where I am now, and went through a lot of emotional turmoil and abuse until open my eyes to what I was accepting as normal but totally unhealthy..
Very young I saw how some people are so transactional and conditional, doing things not out of care, but expecting something in return.
Still, today, I have to put up with a lot because the only way to stay healthy is to keep away from some unhealthy dynamics and now everyone was put again inside my house, cause of my father. Lol
You see, that's why I only want to experience unconditional reciprocity in my life. I already have it in my inner circle.
I don't want to connect with people that just come to me for what I have to offer, not giving anything in return.
I have experienced that through out my life and it only leaves you with a bitter taste and a sour heart. I refuse to turn bitter.
I know humans can do better than that. And I believe in love, unconditional giving, kindness and magic ! ✨🎉🙌🫂
I’m always here for you fren 😀
Kids are like an anti-Santa: they wake you when you’re sleeping, they know when you’ve got a deadline.
Eye-mask and a sound machine app help train you to go down quickly.
Good luck Mum!
Well, they’ll be teenagers soon and become independent
This may sound wierd but I can choose how I feel if I take the time to stop and think. Maybe it was meditation that unlocked that for me, I cant remember - just like a physical action, thoughts and emotion is a choice as well. Physical pain can be treated similarly: concentrating on it can make it nearly unbearable, but merely acknolwledging its existence as a "warning light" that is simply electrical signals interpreted by my brain changes the dynamic.
It's not weird at all. I have observed myself doing it... But I have never worked to develop it. I think when we see it, we can't unsee, and it becomes rather authomatic. Like nostr:nprofile1qqsxyngpaats5des47s7hmwrak2a2uje430n020satyu9gxj7y3t7jspz3mhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuerpd46hxtnfduq3vamnwvaz7tmjv4kxz7fwdehhxarj9e3xzmnyqyw8wumn8ghj7mn0wd68ytfsxyh8jcttd95x7mnwv5hxxmmdkptdlk, said yesterday, "between stimulus and response, there is a space", Everything is a choice. Our mind is powerful. That quote "watch your thoughts, they become words...(...) , by Lao Tzu, it represents what you just said, IMHO. Anyone can change how they feel about anything, if they take the time to "understand" why they are feeling it. And all of us can change, like you said, how we "feel" about anything. Feelings are not facts. And sometimes what we feel and associate to someone or something, is just our unconscious bringing up, something from our childhood or even past life's, for integration.
Some people are more emotional than others tho and are quicker to react to their feelings especially if others are responsible. I think it's important to vent your feelings but in a productive manner by telling others how you feel
