I have a theory a out this...of why they don't meet, or why some people when meeting, choose to not "see" what's in front of them ...
"Every man somewhere in the world has a woman right beside him, who was created just for him. She is no better than the others,
but she is the only one he really needs. And every woman, too, has such a man;
But few lucky people meet each other."
~Unknown
Art | by Faith Gözenç
#FoodForThought
Partially true for me. “If it’s meant to be” can also become an obsession that doesn’t let you, especially as a man, see that it is an excuse not to act. I think that taking the first step and expressing your interest in knowing a person better in the non-spiritual world :) …is very underestimated these days.What do you think ?
"If it's ment to be", for me is the same as "where there is will, you find a way". I believe everyone has a match, but sometimes people get stuck in illusions of what they think they want, and sometimes people are so damaged they don't give themselves the opportunity of. Ring happy. They choose to conform.
Complex topic, everyone is different and has their own issues to deal with. I think that refusing to open up is the most evident proof of lack of self love.
I am with you on that. Also the self love topic is a much bigger than I ever imagined. What I feel deeper is self respect. Don’t love me everyday. But I am able now to forgive myself and don’t let the high expectations if others be my fuel.
Self love is key to be able to love another. You can always love self and others, but we must never forget we are humans, not Gods....we cannot be happy all the time and loving all the time. We fluctuate. What is important is not to let the worst moments to derail into a narrative hence a way of living. We must push forward and up always. Acceptance is the most important factor, for me in not respect, is acceptance of what is.
I can feel that very much, remembering this : To accept one’s past – one’s history – is not the same thing as drowning in it; it is learning how to use it. An invented past can never be used; it cracks and crumbles under the pressures of life like clay in a season of drought.
James Baldwin
My experiences are far from being good. But I learned with them major lessons and many things I am grateful. The most important one to have self love and self esteem. To never accept less than is being given, on a regular basis. To not keep quiet when disrespect is being presented. To walk away when people can't see nor appreciate what is being offered.
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Actually, the saying „if it’s meant to be“ has a different meaning or interpretation in the German area, namely that fate has made a decision for you, for example to bring two people together, and that one submits to it. „Where there's a will, there's a way“ -is here linked to clear free will and actin. Two opposing principles ?
The universe itself is duality and paradoxly. I don't see it as opposite. Like you well said, nothing just is! Nothing will fall into our lap if we do nothing. Everything in this world needs intention and action. A masculine that does not take initiative will not be able to keep a feminine even if ment to be. No feminine with standards will chase after a masculine...that's kids , immature behaviour, or even worse, codependency that leads to very unhealthy dynamics. Chasing is one thing, taking initiative another. Sometimes I think people mix both.
I get perplexed when people think that manifestation is just you think and happens. Puff, magic. It's a good excuse not to act. If people don't demonstrate and make the other feel appreciated and if we don't make the other a priority in life, people will leave, even if ment to be. Hence, if there is will there is a way. It's complementary.
I have heard a lot of men that lost and regret some female in their life because they were not in a good place, still attached to an ex, or hurt because of an ex. What if the woman they reject was their match, and not the one they think it was ?
What if , like you said, the fate bring two people together, and one reject the other, because one of them still healing from an unhealthy connection, and totally unaware of this, still thinks that the unhealthy ex, was the one???
We humans, sometimes get stuck in what we do not have. As soon as we get it...bored...
Well said! It's unfortunate, but we are a walking contradiction. But no matter the circumstances, when two people meet and feel comfortable or save with each other, it's the beginning of something good.
Our attempts to alter societal norms often seem foolish at first, which can leave both sides feeling confused and anxious. While certain aspects definitely need to evolve, I feel that one traditional element will always remain: men /the masculine typically takes the lead in seeking to know women/the feminine better. Like you said, my experiences also told me that this is the most natural way.
Oh ..the topic manifestation. You are so right! Don’t get me started. 😆 It is so much more than funny lill rituals.
Thank you for the enlightening conversation. 🌺
can you share your theory…. I’d be interested to hear it
I can. But give me time. Still working ☺️
Sounds Great, Happy to be patient... have a lovely day....
First and foremost not everythng we want is what we need.
I believe the universe works in vibration. For a match to met, that vibration must be at sync.
We all have our wounds to deal with. When we are vibrating from a position of lack, which traduces in wants, ( I want something so baaad, is vibrating from a place of lack), the universe cannot make the encounter of a match to happen, but the encounter of people that are supposed to shaken our world and prepares us for our match
Sometimes, we want someone so badly, and we focus our attention so heavily in that specific person,( we think it's our match but it's not), that we are not open to receive our match, even if it passes by, we will not see it, we are blind.
From this "blindness" space, we think that the person we want is our match and has the qualities we need in another, but it's self-deception .
Since the person we are focused on does not want us, and we desperately try to manifest it, the universe brings copies of that person that we want, and not what we need. Manifestation cannot have a face....but the essence, qualities, of another we need.
Example, I wish for a loving person, loyal, respectful, truthful, kind, responsible etc .. but when I am trying to manifest this person, I am always thinking of someone I lost, that I want, that was intelligent, kind but not loyal and definitely not respectful nor responsible.I think this person is loyal, respectful and responsible, but the universe knows better. The universe knows that in essence the person I want is not what I think she is ( loyal, responsible, respectful). But I want that person back, and I want, and I what, and I want ! So, I am always thinking in that specific person that has a face and a body. The universe trying to answer my call, gets confused, and brings to me, people, similar to that person, physically, in essence and in qualities. Similar, not the same, since we are all unique, there are not 2 people alike. Plus, we think that, the person in our mind is loyal, kind, responsible, respectful caring, loving etc...but she is not. So, what we are manifesting, unaware, is an irresponsable unloyal, disrespectful person into our life, that is not our match and has not the qualities we wish in another.
A match can cross our path , when a sync happens, but if we not healed we will have not the hability to accept it. And yes, we can loose it forever, depending on the way we behave.
Also, Imagine you love sexy blond skinny women, but your match is brunette, not skinny and not sexy. You like brown eyes, but your match has green eyes. You would never look to that woman, you probably would not even give it a chance. it's not your type.( But it's your match Lol )
Imagine you just want a girl between 30 and 35, but your match is 50?
In other cases, the encounter never happens because healing did not took place, so the vibration has never got into sync, and it cannot be manifested .
The Universe always brings experiences we need to evolve and heal. But some of us instead of seeing the blessing, get defensive, sad, bitter and even closed off.
The refusal to heal, makes the Universe bring the same experience, in different bodies, over and over again, until we learn and break the pattern. We can't have the same behaviour and expect different results.
I hope I making sense. 😀
Wow thank you for sharing your theory, I really like what you say and yes you make complete sense
I particularly like the point ….
By narrowing our focus down to such a prescribed outcome or goal we seem to somehow miss out on all the other invitations the universe is trying to send our way. It reminds me of the ‘finger pointing to the moon story’ do you know that one?
Also I like your point about how we are always being invited to heal ourselves. The universe seems to create similar sets of circumstances over and over again until we learn the lesson and free ourselves from being blind. Freud called this repetition compulsion….
I like to think that all of us have an inner healer that is always moving us towards wholeness….
Thank you for the long and considered response, I really liked it
Have a lovely day
I loved your response and input. I could not said it better. As a non English mother tongue person, sometimes I struggle to be consise and make a point. I glad you did get the message. There are more layers to this. 😁
The story about the point moon finger, not sure If I know it but I will definitely check.
Yes, the Universe just wants our best and for us to become the better version of self's. But sometimes we just get stuck in cycles. The healing journey is never ending. 😀
Have a wonderful weekend! 💕
This is the longest response I ever gave to someone over the internet...lol
