I donāt relate to the past version of myself at all, and that makes it hard to connect with people from my past.
My self-image changed so much over time that when people still see me as who I used to be, it feels off.
For them it feels normal and expected, but for me itās like nails on a chalkboard.
Can relate. A old Highschool friend recently reached out to reconnect through or kids. I ended up ghosting her. Not proud, but itās no use to ride backwards.
I can connect with that. Can feel stuck in time in certain relationships despite efforts to move into the present.
What if they have changed too, itās just an inability to break patterns and connect face to face with the new person that is in front of you?
So we replay the same old reel.
ā¦.. coughs out smokeā¦..
Maybe, man.
I have been coming to that realization since last summer.
Thereās no going back.
Keep evolving - drive life like you stole itā¦..
Same here. The best part is how easy I can let go. There were some people in my life I thought we would be friends forever. Now only selected few ones remain and it feels great! Maybe one day they will get it..
Yeah new self=new friends, no regrets.
I call it based transformation š¤
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Ditto. I feel like I sound really extremist to them, it makes me self censor. I dont like it.
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Thatās a really understandable feeling. Change means growth, but some people still hold on to the old version of us. What matters most is that youāre comfortable with who you are now, not who you used to be.
The cost of progress, and the aim of extraordinary, naturally leaves the 99% behind
Feels harder in practiceā¦
i feel the same when i visit home. havenāt seen some people since high school and conversations feels different. i have a totally different mindset
BRO BE YOU THATS WHATS MADE MY DAUGHTER'S LOVE YOU SO MUCH REMEMBER YOU SAID YOU HAD A REACTION VIDEO YOU HAD IN-STORE FOR THEM....
AUTHENTIC IS THE KEY FOR NOSTR. BE YOU DONT CONFORM FOR ANYONE FUCK THAT..
WE IN OUR HOUSEHOLD ENJOY YOUR CONTENT BECAUSE ITS YOU .... ITS THAT SIMPLE nostr:nprofile1qqsp4lsvwn3aw7zwh2f6tcl6249xa6cpj2x3yuu6azaysvncdqywxmgpz4mhxue69uhk2er9dchxummnw3ezumrpdejqzenhwden5te0ve5kcar9wghxummnw3ezuamfdejj7mnsw43rzun5d3ckxcfcwgmxzatev9mn2m34dqekcdf5xgexgmf5wde8jdty0fnx2ef5xcunven3v5u8xdn3va6kg6mnxajx5arxwvlkyun0v9jxxctnws7hgun4v5dpfm4n
Reaction vid coming up my man thanks for the reminder
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Same.
I relate to this.
I legit resonate with this. I try to act like my old self for people to feel comfortable, but it's zero percent fun and people still don't know me.
I like noticing differences in people I've known for a long time. I know I change super easily and take on the new as if I've always been that way, but some others don't keep up or they don't change very quickly so it's harder for them to relate or notice change.
I'm glad I can notice change, cause I picked a husband who also changes quickly, and even though we've only been married for just over 3.5 years, I've seen a ton of growth in him. If I thought he was still the same as when we first met, we would not be as close or happy with each other as we are.
If something comes out that isn't awesome from either of us, we can know that it seen will be, cause we both lay attention, and want to learn and grow, and next time we're in a similar situation, our actions or reactions are different.
However, a lot of people are not like us. They need way more time to grow, and thus think others do too. Or they're under the lie that "people don't change".
I'm glad to know you're growing and integrating with who you truly are, someone awesome and loved by God, made in His image, His son! And that even though people from the past might be hard to get along with because they still expect the old you, those of us here now can see you closer to who you truly are right now!
Some of the people from your past could handle you sharing with them how you are different now, and they would actually be able to upgrade their view of you, but some wouldn't be able to understand it at all.
Bless you on this journey of continuing to grow in self-love, self-image, and awareness of being a new creation and all that entails!
I talked about that in my #vlogs. I felt it first becoming an entrepreneur and then so much more becoming a bitcoiner
Having just spent two weeks back home I realize how lucky I am not to have this sensation. Sure I do change somewhat and my closest friends changed over time too, but today like fifteen years ago we share same passions for creativity, authentic expression, love for nature, adrenaline seeking behavior.. and freedom. Yes freedom. Some people find bitcoin because they were seeking freedom in the first place and not the other way around. ā„ļø
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We live at least 5 lives.
Those of us who have been through recovery or found God or studied something like Bitcoin for long enough have already turbo ran 3 or 4 of these
The past feels like a strange movie because it is
I can 100% relate to this. Over the last twelve months Iāve become a completely different person and when I meet old friends back in my hometown, I realize how hard it is to connect in the same way. Itās beautiful and painful at the same time.
Being back in my hometown, I realize how much Iāve changed itās almost impossible to connect with who I used to be and the people who still see me that way. Except for my parents, who somehow always accept every version of me. š
It can feel lonelyā¦ but then again, Iāve found Nostr. A place where change, growth, and difference are not only accepted but celebrated. Even when weāre scattered all over the world, weāre not alone. Thank you for sharing!
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Can 100% resonate
The joy and pride of evolving. š„³āØļø
There are some friends I only see once or twice a year now because of this.
I could feel dejected, or I can simply shrug and decide it doesn't have to mean anything bad or sad.
It's just life
Brother how I can relate, once I fell into the rabbit hole that was it for me š¤š»
You gotta love that scared little American hodl inside you bro.
Tell him it's OK, you've got things now.
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I 100% relate to this with friends I haven't spoken to for years and come across more recently.
But one thing I wonder is how come it still works with the people who I spent large amounts of time with through that transformation, like my parents and my siblings.
I wonder if:
1) The transformation was very gradual which eased them into it slowly
2) The transformation was not as large as I perceive it to be
3) Unconditional love overcomes all of this
This one struck me man!
I strongly relate to this but havenāt put it in to words for myself as well as nostr:nprofile1qqsp4lsvwn3aw7zwh2f6tcl6249xa6cpj2x3yuu6azaysvncdqywxmgprpmhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuumwdae8gtnnda3kjctvqyf8wumn8ghj7mmxve3ksctfdch8qatzswlpqq does here. Great noteā”ļøš«”
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You have to remember, theyāre different too
The governmentās monopoly on our data allows them to pollinate their mind with whatever they deem necessary
I feel like I've been through that at least twice in my life. In my early twenties, I quit drinking and I couldn't really relate to my existing friends as then all drank heavily. I needed to make new friends
In my thirties, I went through a crazy breakup and was depressed for a couple of years. I thank the experience changed my personality a lot, but it's hard to explain why. I ended up in a different city (Berlin) and eventually became a different person, more sociable and sporty I think
I see you as the whip smart confident male voice who values God and family. I also canāt imagine you actually giving AF what anyone else thinks of you. Iām guessing these people are familial.
Itās always family that inflicts the most on us lol
Some who knew past me seem to want to bring me back down to that level. I think they want to be reassured in their lack of growth. It is hard to maintain meaningful relationships with them
Yes and no.. we all need some more compassion in our lives, both towards others and ourselves. love is the cure āØ
