I understand and I also choose to believe they can... It's just is only possible if they want to go through the pain of doing so, and accepting that we are all human, we aren't perfect but we must take accountability for our shortcomings, to learn and not repeat them. Otherwise without true understanding of our actions the patterns will just continue... It doesn't make us "less than" to make mistakes and there is so much we can learn from how those who love us express themselves towards us.
I like the way you put it on this note. I think the bottom line is the willingness of the person. Sometimes a new context helps them see, a specific person helps them sail through that pain and they ultimately help each other...
Like πββ¬, one sure thing is we can do that shadow work for ourselves β¨
Yes 100%. The pain of taking accountability for their actions is so unbearable that their minds rewrite history so it's never their responsibility to take, it's always happened differently, it's always been someone else's fault. That's guaranteed insanity for their partners and loved ones, but it doesn't make them bad people.
I couldn't agree with you more ππ«
Are you on it? After 5 minutes there are 28 new chats opened π I will try again in a few days
Right Bitchat was fun while it lasted but feeling a bit overwhelmed right now π see you all after the initial hype is over!
You're a wonderful human being remember that π
Yes life is truly amazing indeed π« thank you for reading and sharing too!
Yesterday I went from 500+ to 5, this morning had 200, now I have 1 π I don't think it matters, Vitor said they'll get rid of the followers count soon
Gooood Moaning!
π« Have a wonderful day π«
https://video.nostr.build/a5a3cb93efe390b49960c6b8e79cb8b18139b6864ac7964b3e670f0db0a504e2.mp4
A great insight
#FoodForThought
I liked that. It can be a dangerous one for those who are naturally self reflective and emotionally responsible, but ultimately who is incapable of facing their shadows will never face anyone else's.
In the artist aspect of it I actually have seen all angles. One of my closest friends is like the video says, but my dad was an artist, and he passed away never admitting his wrongdoings (which were far beyond stealing a sweet in a shop). I loved him, don't get me wrong, but he could rewrite the narrative in his mind so completely that he was always the victim - and he believed that story above all else. We never heard an apology, an acknowledgement, or any real accountability. For 40 years he cheated, neglected, reacted, yet in his eyes, he was always the one wronged.
I know for certain that at some point he really was a victim; his trauma built powerful coping mechanisms. But those same mechanisms meant others paid the price for his inability to confront himself. He cared in his own way though - he would help with any project big or small, buy gifts for everyone whenever he had some money, teach others what he knewβ¦ but then wouldnβt come see his own children because he βhad to water the marijuana plants.β π
I can only imagine his internal battles, but truth is it's impossible to live with someone whose mind is trapped in such loop because if they are unable to understand that they can, indeed, be harmful to others through their actions (or lack thereof) and behaviours, they will never ever put in the work to face their own shadow.
But now to what matters most... HAVE A GREAT FRIDAY! ππ₯³
nostr:npub12rv5lskctqxxs2c8rf2zlzc7xx3qpvzs3w4etgemauy9thegr43sf485vg works on the Android version. ;)
For me Bitchat on Android is dead - can only join the party on coolr.chat
We don't π«
I've just gone on coolr.chat because my Bitchat is dead, and it's blown my mind how many people are there! More and more chats by the second π
The first of many!! ππ₯³
Yeap. Come join the very many that speak to the void until someone else appears! Not giving up π
It will take some time for everyone to experience it smoothly π way too many different opinions!
Okay okay... But how do we add secret messages in reactions?! #asknostr
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Fr everything now is turning minimalist
Hmm haven't yet. The person that introduced me to Bitcoin told me about it briefly, will have a closer look!
Everyone on here buying Pixels and me in the meantime stretching out the lifespan of my current phone as long as I can possibly do π
#Priorities
Every plushy I have was a present, except one that I adopted π 
#catstr
Current situation πππ
