Years ago, I reached out to a much larger account than mine to share/enquire about an idea. I rambled a bit in my explanation (*gasp!* I know). He came back with roughly:

"Dude, you gotta figure out how to get to the point faster. I don't have time for this."

Now, while i had rambled, it wasn't THAT bad. But i remember really wanting to get defensive and feeling a bit gutted by the response. I had a lot of respect for them.

However, I did stop and think about his perspective. Probably getting an avalanche of DMs, has no idea who i am, busy with 100 other things.

I felt stupid and *wanted* to be angry at him, but i also could see it.

That has stuck with me to this day, and every time I'm writing something, I stop and think "how many of these sentences are really necessary?"

While i still tend to over explain, I've actually been way more conscious about it (and also less insecure when i do ramble 😆). I actually think about the interaction fondly now. It was actually really helpful.

Lesson:

Be frank with people. Staying comfortable and unchallenged only makes you stagnant.

(i deeply feel the irony of a long post about explaining too much, lol... i cut like 3 paragraphs out of this)

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TLDR?

Pomp?

This is very sweet and vulnerable. 🥰

IT'S MANLY AND COOL!

SHUT UP 🤣

It is manly and cool! We need strength to be vulnerable 💪

“Brevity is the soul of wit.”

Easier said than done, but so true.

One of my closest friends once said to me "you know when you do that whiny thing?" 😂

Which of course is why I trust her

I thought that was supposed to be a private convo with you and nostr:npub1rtlqca8r6auyaw5n5h3l5422dm4sry5dzfee4696fqe8s6qgudks7djtfs LOL 🤣

I feel you. I'm the same way.

This post was way too long. Jk 😜

Maybe sending a link to a video recorded message may be less taxing for recipients?

I'm that little account you were in the beginning, working hard to make my place on Nostr by respecting those who were here before me. Hard work pays off, I'm sure!

Opposite problem here.

“I’m sorry I wrote you such a long letter, I didn’t have time to write a shorter one.”

- Mark Twain

😉

“I didn’t have time to write a short letter, so I wrote a long one instead”

I struggle with this all the time. It’s one thing I try to be most thoughtful of but I end up rambling more often than not haha

I feel you. I once heard somebody say to a third party my emails were "very neat but often long".

That hit me deeply. 😂 I wrote them "neatly and often long" as a CYA strategy, formal, and not to leave important aspects to imagination and open for equivocation which almost always costs everybody.

But I learned my lesson. Sometimes one has to be direct and blunt to save everybody's time.

Bro this post is too long but I do feel it

Summerize it in 20 words or less 😂😂😂

Dude! This whole note could’ve been shorter. I’m offended that you stole my time!

Next time, just say “🥸Bruv!😎” And I’ll know exactly what you’re trying to say.

"Omit needless words." - Strunk & White in "The Elements of Style" (pub. 1918)

Your rambled on this post... Just sayin

Twas a story good sir

can't tell it too fast or its no good 🧐 😂

have you thanked him?

I actually don’t remember who it was to be honest. Which sucks because I would. I only remember the interaction.

Best writing book I've ever read has a similar theme. Write everything from the perspective of your reader, with a "wiifm" lense. https://www.amazon.com/Write-Language-Secrets-Writing-Letters/dp/0959365834/

Over explaining can be a symptom of trauma. I have a traumatic brain injury resulting from early childhood thru my late teens physical abuse.

It was not only the beatings, but it was the fact that I wasn't ever heard.

Not being heard, even in a "non- abusive" household will develop connections in our brains that prompt us to communicate one way or another.

You were empathic to try comprehend where their impatience with you came from. This doesn't free them from also having a responsibility to exercise the same consideration towards you.

There are ways to tell someone: this is too long for me, I can't read it all. Could you summarize?

If they were tactful with you, I'd understand your excusing them. But just as I need to push myself harder and harder as I age to be concise; people need to learn to respectfully consider other people's ability or inability to communicate.

My two sats.

In order to stick with the theme, I deleted a long answer to write a short one: It seems like bitcoiners/nostriches are one by one joining, and trying to spread, a psychologically masochistic cult whose unwritten motto is: blame everything on yourself, take whatever shit people throw at you (except fiat and shitcoins) and change yourself to suit others.

This will probably receive hate, and so will probably your comment, for "blaming others of your own problems" "victim mentality" etc. because they can't handle the truth that people are different and come from different circumstances - Empathy=0.

Take responsibility,

stay open to self reflection,

be confident, and stop getting offended by everything

blame yourself for everything,

take shit from people,

and be a masochist.

It is more about what people put in these words. Not particularly related to this context, but "take responsibility" is a phrase used by governments (at least the Swedish one, but I think more too) to say "abide by the laws that we have made" or "do what we want in excess of the laws that we made" when talking about citizens and companies, and "put more laws in place" when talking about themselves. I don't think many bitcoiners agree with that definition. If that definition is on one end, and "hold your own keys, store them securely" etc. is on the other end, that's quite a wide spectrum.

"Stay open to self reflection" The people I'm talking about are extremely selective about this. If the "self reflection" reinforces the beliefs they already have, they'll do it, otherwise no. Probably a human thing, and to some extent the opposite of self reflection, but they brag about it consistently. Bordering, if not outright, hypocrisy.

"Be confident" - not in something I don't understand. That's downright lying, and can be dangerous. (e.g. "sure, I'll take down this tree..."). I believe this is part of an American/European difference, that I've noticed since someone pointed it out. Americans see Europeans as defeatist, not confident, while Europeans see Americans as bragging and arrogant. While we probably think similarly enough, we communicate it way differently.

"stop being offended" - It's a false premise to begin with that you can control your emotions - what I guess you're getting at is you can refrain from showing it to others, and that is the definition of taking shit from people. A big reason we have got to the point we have in overreach by governments is precisely because either too few people are offended, or too few people are showing it, through letters, protests, etc.

Dude!

The written word is powerful, use its power effectively, don’t get lost in its power.

I went to nostr:npub1nydevscv0slx9eyr0chkkdgzqfhtp4guk039akhq6g9fnsrf6lcsup3hqs and there was a discussion about quantum computers breaking Bitcoin. They mentioned that Taproot uses unhashed public keys and I basically asked "Wait, what? Really?" to Peter Wuille 😳 🤦‍♂️ (didn't know it was him until after). Since then, I've tried hard to avoid asking questions without researching

Nice ramble 😏 😏 🤙

TLDR 😅

We are an accumulation of our experiences to date, course correction is a key part of that

Nice story! Great context

I needed to read this as all my stuff on X (here) is TLDR. I let my blue check go on X and it has been several days, but it's like addiction. The limit bugs me, can't edit, lost all my bookmark folders, but I really want to be over here most the time. Maybe not to be succinct (I write for me) but I do want to promote NOSTR/Bitcoin. I get it with NOSTR. Always have, just too old to help in coding ways like I did to help the Internet in the early days.

No one cares about Ocean/DATUM, filters, why ordinals suck etc. Maybe that is the same over here but at least I am not supporting the algo over there and perhaps this will help support Ocean/Dorsey here?

I think people have a defense against long windedness

Why use lot word when few do trick

Did you promply tell him GFY after?

ok well now we want to know who it was... promise we won't shame them

True story, I don’t remember who it was. I only remember the situation and the interaction. Otherwise I would share and probably tag them on Twitter to see if they remembered it even.