It's a pernicious myth that most women like bad men.
We don't.
We just dislike weak men even more and not all bad men are weak.
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seems like what a woman likes (strength) is amoral. good and bad is secondary. i think its very honest and reflects mother nature in her rawness. 💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿
A cowardly guard dog with no teeth is just another mouth to feed.
Well, I guess it's like...
Would you prefer a hot-crazy woman, a crazy one, no woman, or a hot-sane one?
Only crazy guys prefer crazy women.
Only bad girls prefer bad guys.
But not everyone is in a position to be choosy.
we all work with what we have, crazy or sane, good or bad, hot or not. if you know how to work it you can be choosy or at least have options. at least thats been my experience. 🤷🏾♂️
I had to curate like I'm running Sotheby's.
Hello, take a number and get in line.
Hey, you! You're out of line for misbehaving, buddy! (Strike him from the list, please.)
Okay, sir, good day. I would like to see your last bank and income tax statements, any property titles, Bitcoin wallets, gold vault counts, divorce or annulment certificates, police report of good behavior, evidence of any progeny, references from your employer or business partners, priest or pastor...
Oh, you don't go to church?
*long, blank stare*
Why in the world did you even bother to get in line?
Next, please.
The myth must be from the weak men's perspective; envy clouds their view.
It's from all men, because all men are scoping out who-got-who and they all see Mr. Asshat has a girlfriend and Mr. Nice Guy doesn't.
That there's an army of women who aren't with anyone, because they don't want to settle for either of them, goes largely unnoticed.
As does the fact that most women eventually end up with someone normal.
Whether in romance, career, or other areas of life, we are incentivized to notice behavior that gets people closer to our passions or goals. The 'weak mens' complaints are self-loathing because they do not know how to become, or maybe even what is, a 'good/virtuous man'.
Ignore or pity the people who focus on their pains more than their joys. They are too busy licking their wounds to see anyone else's.
Some bad men say women like some mistreatment, some others say women are like mail stamps at least in some cases. The more you spit them the more they stick (with you). I agree with the second one in some cases. Am i a bad man too?
I already pointed out that bad women like bad men.
You can always find some desperate chick who's two cups short of a full set. No shortage of them out there, unfortunately.
Top shelf wants top shelf.
Ah so these are bad women. I missed that part. Interesting
There's an easy test:
Ask her if she thinks the 5 men she spends the most time with or interacts with the most are all generally honest, loving, industrious, and protective. (Or at least try to be so, some men are physically disabled, or something.)
Usually, if she says "No", you can assume that she has serious character flaws. Not because she is misjudging the men around her, but because she is judging them correctly.
Interesting. Snd the more i think of this the more complicated it seems. I don't have now a woman of that kind around. I just want women that i feel comfortable with. You know, the kind that doesn't ask you constantly were you were and what you did. So i don't know. I can't think too much of relationships. They just happen. Interesting though...
Mens' tolerance for crazy reduces with age, along with their thirstiness.
So, the men improve and gain greater self-control and their willingness to put up with bullshit decreases in parallel.
I now have a high opinion of all of the men I interact with most, IRL or online, but I also have to occasionally accept criticism or correction from them.
I have higher standards, but they have higher standards, too.
Correction is a must. Leads to brtter life.
It can be painful, but dealing with that is part of maturing.
Yes but it has a good side also. I'll give you an example. The best advices i ever got were from women. Only from women. Why? Because women think differently in certain things snd situations. Something simple for a woman's mind is almost unthinkable for a man. For example, in certain situations a man wants to punch through his way like a bull and he stucks on thoughts like this. He can't think differently. Until a woman comes to rescue, because women think differently. That applies on several situations. And the less the woman knows you the better usually.
Hmmm i might ask your advice in the future, who knows...
It's probably less painful for men to receive correction. They tend to not be as doted on and fearful.
Hmmm probably yes. I don't really know that... I just think that women could also gain benefit in a similar way somehow...
Oh, definitely, but we tend to take it worse.
We sometimes get panicky and depressed or aggressive.
Always have that instinctive, irrational fear that he's not going to feed you, anymore.
Ah i see. Maybe you can acquire some skill by the time on this, i don't know, but usually you overcome such things with training and experience i think. Not sure though...
I just try to fight the panic down and not cry, with limited success. 🙈
Although, I guess men have something similar. The "she won't let me have sex with her" terror, that somehow hovers over even their most platonic relationships.
Fear of alienation of affection versus fear of neglect or abandonment.
Obviously, we're not actually afraid of the loss of sex or food; that's just the underlying instinctive fear. Hindbrain stuff.
That's a real fear 😃.
The fact that a woman demands to consume your time for self-confirmation of an imaginable status she would like to have (and which she doesn't possess, whoever has that status don't do that), while rejecting having sex with you knowing that you might want that, is a terrorist and criminal activity 😃 that tries to push you to the edges intentionally to see how far you would go for her. Women who do that are ending up with lesser men, confirming their real status of a lesser woman that doesn't worth your time and puts her in the position of a mistreatment candidate. Every woman with dignity should avoid that behaviour. I mean it, it's a must not...
In fact some women try to create a public image for you , that you want to have sex with her even if you don't want, and it is she that rejects you. How pathetic...
Avoid that...
I meant more... in-general. Irrational fears, not disappointed expectations.
Women who like mistreatment are "bad women", yes. In the sense that they're a worse choice for a mate than a woman who wouldn't accept mistreatment, all other things being equal.
More subjective is what constitutes mistreatment. I think there's not as much consensus on that, as there once was, but my religion defines it quite simply:
The more Christlike he loves you, the better he is. The less, the worse he is.
Women like bad men because they want a man who protect them, so they try to choose strong men. Bad men look strong, and in reality, most bad men are really strong. The only problem is that many bad men are violent and this violence may also include their women.
Bad men are also often terrible fathers.
And they spend the milk money on blackjack and OnlyFans.
Fatherhood is where my mind went when seeing your original post and the responses. This is all downstream of father hunger.
Daddy issues
Women vary in their need for drama and bulls--t.
Some who _need_ a lot of drama get it via their work, or their hobbies. The rest, from their relationships (or friends/family if they're not in a relationship).
I remember the girlfriend of a client confessing to me at length (we were out drinking) that she only values and respects bad men, and always cheats on good men.
Well, her boyfriend was and is both strong and bad (I've known him more than a decade) and she cheated on him anyway. May have hesitated more than usual, no way to tell.
She was high need-for-drama, not desiring strength. A common source of confusion, especially for us guys...
Yeah, I have low drama-tolerance in relationships.
That's the one part of my life that I try to keep as boring and stable, as possible.
Yeah. I like debian too 😂
https://www.Buildroot.org I have someone I'd like you to meet...
Oh, thanks for this. I was not aware. I'll check it tomorrow in detail (it's just after midnight here)
Wait... I saw in the documentation it has sed as requirement. Is it only a requirement or do i have to deal with sed. I hate to have to use sed. Do you know?
Anyway i will find out tomorrow though...