Likely a link, it leaves a mark for sure.

So sad. That is some intense denial.

Que feo, 😕 no me gustan las traiciones

In general, most people struggle with pattern recognition.

I often think how much people who only once appeared in our life are able influence us for the rest of it. Same about so-called absent parents, or rather our perception of them.

As a kid from a divorced fam, I find this insightful. Both from the female perspective but also the male. By stating that he believes those actions are unrelated, he’s showing the male cope to trauma - ignore/excuse the man’s actions as if they’re justified.

I see this reaction in my brother to our parent’s divorce, and to some extent myself however I see the impact of this on my shadow self.

Interesting, thank you- i hope Jesus can help them with all that pain

There's past life trauma aswell dude. Sloan Bella, she talks about here https://youtu.be/VYSdOF6XqCg?si=MbiDif7gl75eJBiq

I’m not a big fan of the terms generational trauma or breaking the cycle because I think they’ve gotten overused as buzz words, but this would qualify.

The affair had a profound effect on the subconscious mind of the sisters. So sad.

Sometimes people repeat pain, not out of choice, but because it’s the only language their subconscious knows in relationships. When trust is shattered in childhood, the mind learns to prioritize control over intimacy, and what stronger control than being the first to betray, rather than the one who is betrayed. Some wounds seem like fate, but in reality, they are patterns we’ve failed to see.

That’s why we need Bitcoin and Catholic Church.

This is 100% confirmed right statement, I’ve studied similar cases and it’s so fuckin real!

or maybe the sisters were selfish jerks

Sin doesn’t just hurt you it also hurts the people around you

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If we could only understand just how much our actions effect those around us . . . seen and unseen.

most people suck at pattern recognition. a greater number people suck at taking accountability.

Denial ain’t just a river in Egypt.

The truth don't exist, only different perspectives.

Trauma is usually something you learn is bad and so you don't wish anyone else has to endure it. If you cause trauma you endured you are usually just selfish.

2 PoV. Truth unknown.

he's in denial.

So many bad decisions are cope for middle school/high school trauma.

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MOST people are just screwed up and don't know how to keep their pants on once committed in a relationship :( especially, in a world of technology

Denial is trauma “response” delay awareness 🧐

It's not just trauma, it's the lessons learned. People have been taught since the 60s that marriage commitments don't matter. What matters is the idea that you deserved to feel loved even if you have to find it with someone you're not married to. In my wife's family, she's only one of two of eight cousins who have been able to remain married. And it didn't matter whether the parents remained married or not. The lessons came from society.

This is why reading the Bible is very important.

Too, serious and not understanding that what can happen, has already happened and there is no point in making the same mistakes others made.

I'm not a big fan of defining ourselves by our early life experiences, subconsciously or not. Pop psychology narratives are highly speculative, but the worse thing is the victimhood motif within the framework of outsourcing of identity onto others. Even if the dynamics are relatively accurate, they're not entirely useful. Don't get me wrong, I spent some time there. I grew up without a father and with a single mother that had a nervous breakdown. I lived outside of my home starting in 5th grade and lived in multiple homes (wonderful families that would take me in because my own home was too chaotic and abusive to go back to), until I lived on my own in high school. I wondered through those stories looking for answers, but the basic premise that "others" ruined my Disney Plan only made me feel worse. Plus, the only solution would be to tighten personal boundaries to prevent future bad actors from stealing esteem points, which is a clear recipe for neurosis.

More useful (for me), was the spiritual paradigm in which I acknowledged life sucks without God (there is no Disney Plan). When I finally took responsibility for my shattered sense of self as a spiritual sickness, rather than a historic or practical one, then I sought healing from a source bigger than me with a purpose to serve a bigger picture. Everything good in my life has come after that shift. I continue to pray daily, letting go of the bondage of self and pursuing service to others. At least, that's what works for me.

Also, Disney is full of pedos and probably has underground tunnels, lol.

It's actually considered the highest level of insult and disrespect to suggest or remark that ones family/lineage is rife with adulters (at least traditionally).

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It is very difficult to be lucid about one’s own family affairs.

My sister named her first son the name of our father, with whom she has a very special and complex relationship. She denies it has anything to do with him.

I wonder what my blind spots are

I was engaged to a woman in the past whose father cheated and she’d constantly beg me not to cheat on her. Then, I caught her sleeping with another dude 🤷😅

Everyone has choices. They obviously took his horrendous psychological make-up and never addressed it. Interesting to know... you said you "had" a friend.... did he turn out the same? U not close anymore...?

So what I surmise from what you’re positing is…. bitcoin is about to pump?

It’s more likely they chose men they didn’t really love.

Terrified to truly invest in a relationship.

Yes - a trauma response.

I think when everyone is living in the matrix.....you cannot simply put these things down to the parents behaviour.....maybe it was one factor.

As a father of a 8yo girl, I know my presence and my behavior with her and my wife is utterly important for her future as a young woman, especially for her future comportment with men.

He should have ended the sentence at "I don't think"