Having one of those poopy days. I feel very uninspired and unmotivated. I tend to value myself based on my productivity. When I get nothing done, I feel like nothing. I also tend to feel shame when I am not able to just turn my mood around and “be positive”. When I’m not in a positive mindset, my urge is to isolate so I don’t infect anyone else with my negativity. Like posting this is weird for me, but I’m curious if anyone else feels or has felt similar.
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You're definitely not alone. I tend to gauge myself by my own productivity as well and feel like shit when I'm a lazy bastard and it's taken a lot of work to accept the fact that not every day is going to be a productive one. And that rest is absolutely essential sometimes, so taking that break, especially when you're not feeling productive, is generally worth it.
This is where I want to be. There’s so many factors to it that are more subconscious I think. Logically, I understand that energy fluctuates and rest is essential, but then my mind wanders to how much rest is essential and how much work is essential. Then of course, there’s the observations of highly productive people around me and the self-comparison. It can be a real mental mess, but I do believe that accepting it as just what it is, is probably the healthiest way to look at it.
Everyone has different capacities. I do better when I compare myself to how productive I was yesterday or last year rather than say my husband, who never stops.
Spot on.
I find it frustrating when I have what I perceive to be a lazy day. However, I accept that I can't be 100% productive 100% of the time. To be at your optimal best, rest is required at some point.
At the end of the day, if you're the type of person who is bothered by unproductive days, you're the same type of person who will make up for it in the future.
Yeah, I felt like that yesterday and then today I feel great getting nothing done, so for me I just have to ride it out 🏄
That seems to happen to me a lot too and I tend to forget it. Like I will have a bullshit lazy day and feel like it’s gonna be like that forever and when the next morning comes, I’m like a completely different person.
Same same! Today I’m getting caught up in my to do list instead of actually getting things accomplished. But that’s ok. 💜 you’re definitely not alone! And your posts along bring ppl out of their funks I think 😍
It’s like a weird mental hurdle where we are preparing and pondering how best to achieve the tasks and worrying about how difficult they’re gonna be rather than just doing it and feeling better. The better the incentive though, the more likely I will follow through (usually), like because I get the most joy out of making people laugh, that’s all I want to do, but when I’m in these moods, I worry I will just bring others down. 🫂
I know I’m the same with that. I never wanna burden people. Trying to make people laugh and be happy is so much better. I think it’s a good way to be. 🫂
It is, but I wonder if it’s painting an unrealistic picture of life to others. Like you can’t truly know someone if you only see their good traits. 🤷♀️
It’s true and unrealistic. But, I have friends that do nothing but lay their burdens and problems on me every time we talk, and I wouldn’t wanna be them. It’s so exhausting. I’d rather keep it light. However, having real conversations with your friends is great too and can build closer bonds. It’s a tough balance.
Yeah I think balance (as usual) is key. Like if I posted like this everyday, it’s like, “enough, you’re not doing anything to help yourself” and the intent is important too like why am I posting negative content, to just vent and unload on everyone (which is fine in some contexts to a certain extent) or are you looking for a solution to change it? Any solution seeking is fine (to me at least).
You definitely provide the humor for balance. It’s really great that you’re able to also reveal other aspects of your personality, because it’s very relatable for myself and others. Nostr is a wonderful little world of weird and interesting people. It’s cool you’re able to be such a positive influence! Even when you’re not at your best.
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Yeah. I totally get this feeling and can get in my head about it too.
Today I swapped over to a very separated part of work vs my normal day to day so that I could have a fresh feeling task rather than what I was struggling to be motivated to do.
That’s probably an important element; looking into why I may be avoiding certain tasks, and modifying the order.
Oh yeah 👍
Always. That fight never goes away
Phew, it’s so relieving to say it and hear it back 🫂
I’m taking the angle of keeping my word to myself, but being careful what I tell myself I’m going to do.
I’m also learning to view one inch of progress as progress.
I always want to put everything on the to-do list because A.) I don’t want to forget anything, but B.) because I might be expecting too much out of myself. Then, when I’m not able to accomplish everything, I feel like I failed even if I got a lot done. Lately I have been making much smaller (more doable) lists and just adding more as I go, but today, I haven’t even gotten up to brush my teeth. It’s just poopy.
I’ve made it from the bed to the desk. Later, I may go outside. 😌
Feeling like I have a lead vest on today. Which usually means rest and listen. 👂
I have two lists.
Well actually like 20.
But in this context 2.
Put a few things on the today list from the todo list. You will know if it’s too many. do those things.
then go do something you enjoy.
That voice telling you you’re a POS comes from somewhere else. It’s not you. Tell it you won’t carry its failure anymore, and you’re going to love yourself where you’re at.
Then be a ruthless MFer about doing that.
I'm having one of those days. I've only planted a tray of seeds and did the chicken chores.
After I have a lazy beat myself up kind of day, the next one is often very productive.
Just DANce, everything will be fine. That motivation will come
Yeah, I’m in the beating myself up phase and would like to pull myself out, but this has been super helpful for me 🫂
I’ve (very) slowly gotten to the point where when I have a gray day, I just say “fuck it” and don’t care. About anything. Binge an 8 hour show? Sure. Stare at the wall/play games/whatever. Going all in feeling crappy works better for me than forcing productivity and feeling even more crappy that I can’t do anything “worthwhile.” The next day, I feel so much better. That total break helps much more than a middle ground of worry. Hope you find something that works for you, and you are definitely not alone in feeling this way. 🫂
That’s where I want to be perspective-wise because I know these days are inevitable, but my way of thinking and guilt makes it 10x worse. Thank you🫂💜
It was a long process for me (years). Don’t feel like you “have to” act right now - just reading these notes may introduce an idea you can consider for a bit and maybe try out in a small way some day.
Good on you for posting your initial note - that’s already something a little different and therefore it is progress - and before you dismiss it as not enough progress, it really, truly is. 👏
The first step is the hardest because you are changing from being still to being in motion. 👍
Thank you for sharing, seriously, because yeah I don’t think I’m gonna be able to change my whole way of thinking in one day, but even hearing a healthier/more positive spin truly helps.
Yeah, I need to have regular productive days to value myself and I tend towards isolation when I'm the slightest bit down. Been combating those tendancies for nine years, sometimes with more success than other times.
Perhaps seeing something beautiful will motivate you? I took a walk at sunset yesterday and it was inspiring. I mean the exercise counts as being productive and stimulates the mind too.
Absolutely. For me, it’s listening. Any beautiful sound or song. Sometimes painting, but I’m still working my way out of bed 😂
You want me to send you a song that you probably haven't heard from a woman with a beautiful voice? You can listen from bed and maybe, no pressure though (and no judgement from me), be inspired to start your morning routine.
Absolutely! Thank you so so much 🫂
Straight up angel! Absolutely beautiful🫂
Right?! I'm glad you enjoyed it!
I find myself listening to this for energy right before having to go out for work or social engagements I don't want to go to 😊
Maybe I also like beauty for the ears, even though it's not a concept that I've ever thought of before.
She has such a pure tone to her voice. I kind of love not understanding, but kind of understanding too
The scale and range that she makes her way through in just this one song are intense and give all the feels. I still get goosebumps every time.
I used to love kpop because I enjoyed the audiovisual beauty (the songs and the weird but wonderful video clips). So I learnt Korean and now I can't stand most kpop because understanding what they are singing almost always kills it 😅🤣
Omg bahahaha that’s so cool you learned it though! I have pretty beginner Chinese skills and one of my life goals is to get fluent🤞
I'm intermediate and I also want to be fluent enough to work at a high level in Korea. As it stands now, I can have conversations on a wide array of topics as long as no one gets too technical.
Funny story, Arirang mentions Mt Hallasan, so when I was going up Hallasan in a taxi I suddenly burst into that part of the song and it led to the wildest conversation with the taxi driver. He pushed my skills to the limit because he got technical but I laugh about that conversation every time I remember it.
I see you have some kidney stone issues in the comments here. Don't give yourself a hard time for not being able to do stuff right now, they're painful and a perfectly acceptable reason to be unproductive. But if you want to be productive you could passively listen to some Chinese content while lying down, music, a podcast, watch some YouTube. That's a part of how I got to where I am with Korean, a long-term pain condition. Because I have had it for so long I know that when in pain I don't want to learn Korean (that takes too much mental energy), but fun stuff that exposes you to the language is still beneficial for learning.
That is so interesting! I suppose if we didn’t have the times where we had to slow down, we wouldn’t be able to indulge in special interests like learning a language or playing an instrument and something that begins as just indulging in an interest, becomes a new skill that improves our life in some way.
Yes! Everyone here has said it... Slowing down, relaxing, and indulging special interests are actually important. Those random things that don't feel like "being productive" can take you places you never imagined. So... Do your best to go easy on yourself and try to enjoy your downtime, difficult as it may be.
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Every day is a new opportunity to wage war on CornyChat and nostr:npub1yx6pjypd4r7qh2gysjhvjd9l2km6hnm4amdnjyjw3467fy05rf0qfp7kza
That’s true, but today I don’t even have the energy to beef with Vic😂
That doesn't sound like nostr:npub1ymt2j3n8tesrlr0yhaheem6yyqmmwrr7actslurw6annls6vnrcslapxnz I know.
You have to fight.
Why are you letting your body be controlled by a rock?
Would you let a broken leg stop you from walking? Not nostr:npub12r0yjt8723ey2r035qtklhmdj90f0j6an7xnan8005jl7z5gw80qat9qrx. Would nostr:npub1jv3tmy30yrr0ek0fzdz5wfanh0pdp947fqgewyz44qndmg75ev9sz7lakg let a bad position stop him from trading? Hell no. Would nostr:npub1yx6pjypd4r7qh2gysjhvjd9l2km6hnm4amdnjyjw3467fy05rf0qfp7kza let an obscure bug prevent him from pushing a commit that only removes 2 lines of code? Not for a second.
Punch that kidney stone in the dick.
Absolutely 💯 what you just posted is something I’ve struggled with for a long time, but never could put it into words. I would just try to shove the feelings down farther so as not to inconvenience anyone. I still struggle with this, but at least I’m aware of the fact it do it now.
I’m so surprised and honestly happy to know a lot of people get the same thing. Idk why I feel like when I’m just people watching, I feel like everyone else is doing so much more than me and there must be something slightly off about me for feeling the way I do.
I think if I were to talk about negatives of social media this would be one of those things. We only get people’s highlights. We as a society need downtime and rest. Rest isn’t negative. But society has told us we have to be moving to be considered productive. Rest is also productive. This is a constant battle for me.
This is also why I like Nostr. People are okay with not being okay. And it’s okay to really be yourself.
Yes. Even on nostr, users may choose to only show the best parts of their lives and that’s totally ok, but as viewers of content, I think we need reminders that we are all not always ok.
Hey, you. I like you a lot. You're a pretty neat gal and you can do anything you set your mind to. Fuck those stones.
They’re tearing me apart I tell ya! I go to the doctors tomorrow 🤗
I understand this 🫂💜💜💜💜♥️
Like obviously I would love to fix it, but just knowing I’m not the only one is totally enough for right now 💜💜💜🫂🫂🫂
Me too 🫂💜 I needed to see your note today 🙏🏽🫂🫂💜 glad you shared with us lovely
Then I’m glad I did. I felt nervous for a bit before noting it, like people would bust out their tiny violins, but not one!
I know that feeling 🫂 it’s extraordinary here 🥹🫂💜 people are so human with each other (in a good way) - not that they have to be, I get that, but it’s rather wonderful that they choose to be. I never used to talk about my feelings online, was strictly need-to-know and only my cats needed to know 🤣🫂.
We all have our good and bad days. No one can ever stay positive or always stay negative, the same as Pacha Mama and the stations ..winter is to slow down and rest. Respect self, that's key. You do you ! 😎🫂🔥💜😘
🫂💜 thank you friend. I’m trying to be more gentle with myself.
I wanted to hug you, but then I noticed that nick and don't really want to👀😂 Of course you have a poop related day👀😂
Come here, silly🫂
I have gone out to the farm feeling meh, try and shovel nothing going forward. The shovel feels twice as heavy as my mood. I just Go home go to bed try again. The shame for me felt like I was disappointing myself & family. I need to remind myself it's not grovy 24/7 and roll with it acknowledge the feeling and move on
You’re doing something now by reaching out to us. I get those types of shitty days and getting out of my space when I want to crawl in bed helps. I might tell a friend about it and let them drag me out
Aww, I’m trying to look at it that way and puzzles KIND of got me out of bed so that’s good. I tried to zap you and an error came back “invalid lightning address”, do you use alby?
I want to use alby, I need an invite. I just got all my sats off wallet of Satoshi and now they hate me. I’m working on starting a ⚡️channel
Babe I get you!
I have those days as well, and today is a shit-f***en day too!
Sending love and positive vibes, this too shall pass 🫂💜
Muchos ánimos ☺️ ya te vas a sentir mejor
No decaigas
Everything ebbs and flows, even emotions of generally happy and satisfied people. Good to just know it happens and that it’ll pass.
I'm so slow!!! And so tired, but The Glitter Maiden never rests!!!
I shall continue working on my cards, cuz honestly, even if I can only do 1 thing... any 1 thing I do that is art , bitcoin, or nostr related, is better than my most "productive" day at my torturous fiat job.
When you can, find the way to acknowledge and enjoy boredom. Boredom is a "symptom" from safety. It isn't bad.
Then, just move on to whatever may come next. 😉
I wrote in my journal the other day:
"If nothing interests you, then your sole purpose automatically becomes to find inspiration."
How? Yours to find out. What often works for me is walks (or just spending time) in nature, music, meditation, yoga, working out, etc. Also don't try to "be positive." It's nonsense. Allow yourself to feel the feelings you do, then you can begin to understand why you feel them.